well this is pretty straight forward.. I just don't get life, especially now. My boy friend died. I'm only 13 but I really loved him, like really! And there was this really cute guy at church.. he has something with his heart. ok so the story goes... My boy crashed into a tree in a motorcycle accident.. He died that day but his parents wanted his organs to help other people.. fancy this, the cute church guy (my boy was really cute too!) anyways he was in the operation room and got my boys heart. I didn't know. He told me that he got a heart from this guy. He told me the date and the name of the guy. I was shocked. And he told me he really liked me. I don't know what to do. I can't leave him now for the fact that my boy is apart of him. WHAT DO I DO.. (sadly my life is like a drama)(a very sad drama).
2006-06-29 03:53:41 · 23 answers · asked by lil_kor3an 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Talk to your church pastor or counselor. They can help you. It might sound lame but they can help you pray and ask God what he wants you to do with your life. You are 13 and shouldn't be going through so much drama, but there is help, and God definately wants you to seek it.
2006-06-29 04:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is learn to live your life better and be more mature because you've been through all this. It's sad to have so much to bear at 13, but you will be stronger than most for having had to learn to cope with tragedy.
You may find something familiar here: http://www.memorialhospital.org/Library/general/stress-THE-3.html
Just keep in mind that grieving for someone close often takes a long time, so don't be dismayed if you spend more time than most in each stage of grief. For example, losing a spouse often begins a grieving process that can take two years or longer.
Some grief counseling might help, and don't forget that there really are some of us out here who care. ( HUG )
2006-06-29 11:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by fhornsr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how this could upset you. it would upset me too. I'm so sorry that you had to experience losing someone you cared for at such a young age. however, to know that you're boyfriend was able to give such a wonderful gift to someone else would make my heart smile. If you like this boy at church and you feel that you are ready to date again, please proceed with caution. knowing that this boy has your boyfriend's heart could cause a lot of conflict within your heart. Although it may be his heart inside of this boy, it is NOT your boyfriend. it is an organ. This boy is his own person and will most definetly be different from your boyfriend. He likes you for his own reasons. he still has his own mind and is thinking for himself. You're going to have think more with your mind than your heart when you make your decision. I know how hard that it might be considering if I were the one in this situation and knowing the type of person that I am, I tend to think more with my heart in everything I do. If you need someone to talk to, I will be here to help and understand. I will pray for you. be careful sweetheart. good luck.
2006-06-29 11:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have been faced with a lot of rubbish in a very short amount of time. What you must remember is that you are not stupid for feeling drawn towards this boy who may have your boyyfriends heart, but this mustn't be what guides you. Hard as it might be, you need to let go of your boyfriend for he has gone. If you dont feel love towards this new boy, you shouldnt feel pressured to. I think you need to take some time out and talk to your family and friends. You might only be 13, but u are hurting just like anyone would.
If you ever want to talk... i'm here.
Take care
2006-06-29 10:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How ironic. Do you believe in God, fate and destiny. If so, seek God for only he knows why this happened the way that it did. I will tell you that at 13, there's a lot more to life and you have yet to experience it. Tap into your intuition and if you don't know how or if you are not already, become very close to both your father and mother so that you will always have a male and female perspective on things. These are the two people who will keep it real with you and tell you only what will help, not hurt you.
2006-06-29 11:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by AC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have had to face a death young. Many die young. Some life to 100. Thus is life. You can only go through the natural grieving process that we all must go through when someone we love dies. Speaking from experience, it will get better after time.
Think of the kind deed his parents did by giving others the gift of life via transplant of his internal organs.
As to this guy you know who got your dead boyfriend's heart, you say he likes you....think of him as a boyfriend (provided you like him) and not as the guy that got your dead boyfriend's heart.
2006-06-29 12:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Leifr Eiríksson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him, give it a go. But you honestly need to tell him that the heart came from a boy you loved dearly. Either way, you need to be upfront about it. It might be best to just be friends with him for now. You have suffered a huge tragedy and need time to heal. In time, maybe you'll honestly like him for him, and not whose heart he has. But give yourself time to be his friend before anything else. He'll appreciate the honesty.
2006-06-29 10:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really a sad story. Don't leave the church boy cos' your boy left you his heart although he can't be with you.
2006-06-29 11:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by PunkGreen1829 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahwwww. Sorry for your losss.That is really sad. But you should give the guy with your boy's heart a chance. Good luck.
2006-06-29 11:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to live and the present and stop making these kind of connections. You're attraction is physical, and you said you loved the boy that died. Take it slow.
2006-06-29 11:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋