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Question

i really need some help i don't know i guess i am having a pity party today i really want a baby we have trying for two years we've done fertility tratments and every thing someone please listen let me know if there is hope

Answer 1

Oh honey... I think you have every right to have a pity party. I know what it is like to desperately want a baby with no luck so far. People who are not in your situation don't really understand how truly painful it is to have a hard time conceiving. I'm sure it seems like all you see are babies and pregnant women. I go through the same thing everyday and I swear all of my friends are either pregnant or just had a baby. I hear of pregnant women doing drugs/drinking alcohol and I can't understand why they would ever be able to conceive. Seems like the people who really want babies have to do everything under the sun to have one. Then I think that this is all a lesson, when we do have children they will be the most wanted and loved in the world. We will appreciate every moment of their lives and ours with them in it. One day we will both be thanking God for the beautiful miracles he sent us. Don't ever give up hope and don't ever stop praying. God will give us our miracles, we just have to be patient. Best wishes and God bless.

Answer 2

I really like what Pren had to say. She had the best answer. I also know what it is like not able to conceive. My heart goes out to you. I hope things work out for you.
Personally, I could not handle the stress year after year. I got sick of the insensitve things people would say to me. My best outlet was infertility support groups.
The most important thing is to gather all the information you need from your OB/GYN. Make sure you're seeing a reputable doctor who specializes in infertility treatments. Make sure all of the applicable tests have been done. The most important thing is this: Your health. It's your body, and you need to decide how much energy, time, and money you are willing to put into this. At some point, you need to decide what is best for you, regardless what other people say. If this means you want to try for years, that is your choice. If you choose not to, that is also your choice.
And last but not least, never take medical advise from a total stranger.
What I hate most are the stupid answers like, "Don't think about it", or "Try this, try that"...or "Use a surrogate"...or "Relax"...or "Just relax and adopt"...and other insensitve statements that have no bearing on your personal situation. I'm going to take a wild guess and say that none of these people have had infertility problems themselves. Anyone who has tried to get pregnant knows you have to be on a schedule, a calendar, monitor everything, check your temp, do this, do that, then have sex at a certain time, then go in to the doctor every other day, etc etc... It's hard to just "relax" and "not think about it" when that is what your world is consumed with. Frankly, surrogacy may not be an option for you. And adoption is not an option for everyone either. I certainly would not promote what I think is best for you except to do what you think is best for your situation.
Many people also told me I would conceive, regardless of their ignorance about my medical situation. The important thing is that you are in control of the your options. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

Yes, there's hope. Unfortunately, the best thing to do - is to NOT try to get pregnant. Take it from me, the stress that you put on yourself with the mind-set that you have to have a baby is, in a lot of cases, the reason that you're NOT getting pregnant. If you've been through fertility treatment & there doesn't seem to be anything physical that precludes you or your husband from conceiving - then just take a break from baby-making for a while. Don't think about it - relax, go on vacation. Take the stress off of yourself & go back to having sex for the fun & connection of it. When you just let go, you'll conceive - you'll see. Just look at all of the instances where women who've tried for years to have a baby, give up & decide to adopt. Often, they find themselvs pregnant after they've stopped worrying about actually having a baby because they've placed their focus on the acquisition & care of their adopted child. Don't lose hope - just try not to TRY so hard. I know it's not easy, 'cause I've been there. But it worked for me. As soon as I stopped worrying about TRYING to get pregnant, I DID. You can do it!!!

Answer 4

There is definately hope. First check (if you haven't already) to see if you are both fertile. If you aren't think about adoption...people say that they don't know if they could love that child as much but believ me you do. If you are than keep trying (goodness knows that part is fun) It took my mother 2 years to have my older sister...and then it took 4 years to have me (no birth control at all) and then another 4 years to have my little sister... She ended up having 10 kids...So yes there is more than hope there are possibilities. You'll make it through and just remember that if you don't have one of your own you can adopt...those kids would love you just the same! Best of luck to you!

Answer 5

Typically 1/2 thru your cycle phase which would be around the 10-13th day from the first day of your period.
You may want to take a rectal temperature in the am before getting out of bed as your temperature generally goes up by 1 degree at the time of ovulation. Good Luck!

Answer 6

I had one son then had to go on fertility pills for 6 months before I was able to get pregnant with my second son. We tried for a third for 5 years then I just gave up......needless to say I got remarried last fall and I am now expecting a daughter due in Sept. I have PCOS and the doctors pretty much said I would never get pregnant again and to my surprise, I got pregnant not even trying. My sons are 9 and 11 so its like starting over.

Answer 7

the hope is called adoption, if u start today, it will help you far more than any pity party. of course it is hassle, but it is not likely to take another two long years. ask urself the questioin what u prefer, to spend the years to go with an adopted baby (or babies) or with maybe neverending fertility treatments - whichever sound better to u :) doctors office or kids playground?

Answer 8

don't want to get to spiritual, but if you've tried all of the above you just need to pray and wait.......you still have to remember that babies are a blessing and that he will give you one in his time (not yours) when he feels that you are ready for the responsibility......but when you are trying, don't try w/ the i need to make a baby attitude......try because you're just wanting to be w/ your mate @ that time and take the stress and pressure off making a baby............and if all else fails, adopt......you can learn to love a adopted child as your own.........i have for 14 years.....my 14 year old is my oldest and i have a 10 birth son....let you in on a little secret......my 14 year old is the result of an affair from my husband.....the birth mother passed after she was a year old and my husband was killed 6 years ago so this is MY child...........GOD is still in the blessing business.

Answer 9

Don't give up!! If at first you don't succeed, try and try again.
Even if it were to turn out that your couple was unable to conceive, you could investigate IVF as a means of getting your baby. This procedure involves your partner's sperm fertilizing your egg and then being implanted in your uterus to be brought to term.
If there's a will, there's a way!!

Answer 10

Theres always hope, my moms friend was told that she couldn't have kids ( after years of trying) so her and her husband went and adopted a little boy. Two years later she found out she was pregnant and and now has two little boys. So nothing is ever impossible.