its driving me crazy. my husband lives with another woman, that claims she is pregnant. hes been with her for 2 months. he wont sign the divorce papers. she thinks he has. i want my husband back but he says he loves her. what do i do?
2006-06-29 03:43:12 · 23 answers · asked by grniz07 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know its hard for u to to let go bcuz thats your husband. but u need to let that tramp know he hasnt signed the papers.then if she is prgnant, beat her *** after she has the baby.seriously though, get that man for every penny he has.u deserve better.
2006-06-29 04:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by Moniluv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's stupid for him to be with her, and not sign the papers. If he said he wants her so many times, then he should sign on the dotted line. There ain't no use of him, to waste your and her time with this ordeal.
He wants to be in another relationship, then he needs to let go of the marriage he has with you. Break the ties, that bonds the whole marriage. Now it would be different if there are kids between you two. The there will have to be another route to the marriage.
But I see it , that he wants his cake and eat it too. Can't have it all, must let one go if wanting to keep another. He should also tell her, that the divorce is not legal yet. He needs to stop being selfish, and be a real man to sign the papers.
Find someone else, who wants to be with you. There are plenty of men out there. Stop wasting time fighting with a fool, and start getting to know other people. You may find someone, who is better then he could ever be.
2006-06-29 03:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud the fact the you want to make your marriage work, but hon...ask yourself....what do you really want back?
You will not be getting back the man you married you will be getting back the man he has become, which is a liar and a cheat with a baby by another woman.
Lots of times when you hear someone say they want someone back they really mean that they want things to be the way they once were, which unfortunatly doesn't generally happen. If it did, you would wait everyday for things to go bad again because lets face it, he went this direction this time and at some point you atleast believed you were both happy.
Move on girl. Discover yourself, love yourself and you will find happiness. I'm not going to give you any drivell about finding the one for you, I will just say that you will find happiness if you start putting yourself first.
2006-06-29 03:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by kelley and mark j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds truly wierd to me. He won't sign the divorce papers and he says he won't but he's not coming back because he loves her? Something doesnt sound right here. It sounds like he's with her because of a baby but he's not ready to face the divorce with you yet. He probably still has feelings for you. Any man who won't sign divorce papers are either a) still in love with you b) are getting ready to hire an attny to fight you over something. I would let your husband go asap. even if he doesnt sign those papers you can still get a divorce. Remember what goes around comes around twice fold. He's a stuck man. You are better off without him.
2006-06-29 03:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by sweetypie9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The concern here is that ..... You haven't noticed the elephant in the room. "Your husband".... is "living with".... "ANOTHER WOMAN".... and... has been apparently "having sex" with her.... Dare I add... she may possibly be "PREGNANT"
There's something you might want to take care of first... "Your emotional well being" Please seek Christian counseling for yourself. I beg you!
An understanding of why you would want to keep your marriage together is recognizable and to be applauded because marriage wasn't made for divorce however, you REALLY need to heal emotionally before you make the statement of "I want my husband back" Get a grip on the dynamics of the situation. Don't let the world tell you this is normal and happens so just get over it. This is not a soap opera. Resentment, pain, anger, breach of trust, betrayal, covenant breaking, and ADULTERY.... just a few things that might need to let marinate in your head. Then you'll probably say "Dang... this deep, I need to get some Christian counseling.
Don't even want to begin to address your husbands issues and why he choose to inflict that kind of pain. The first word that comes to mind is SELFISHNESS.
Addressing and accessing behaviors that lead to these negative actions need to be worked into the healing process before you can even begin to know if you want him back.
2006-06-29 04:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think you deserve to take your husband back!! That's not a husband to me!!!! If he really loved you he wouldn't of
A. Left you for another woman
B. Stayed with this woman for so long without you
C. He wouldn't tell you that he loves the other woman.
Get over him, you can do so much better! Once he sees that you have moved on, he will realise his mistake!
2006-06-29 04:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in a very tough situation, i wish there was something i could say that would help you get your husband back, but i seriously dont think that is going to happen, no matter what anyone says. Maybe you should just move on with your life and find a man that will love you for who you are and want to be with you the way you want to be with him
2006-06-29 04:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! If he is with someone else, let him go! I know it's easier said than done, but you are worth more than that! Hang onto yourself and remember that you DON'T need a man to survive. Work on ways to feel better about you, and move on!
There are plenty of fish in the sea, as they say! Please know that I am aware that this all sounds easy for me to say, but I have been there! I have a HUGE issue with letting go, but I'm working on it....LIFE IS TOO SHORT!! Keep your chin up and smile!
2006-06-29 03:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by SusieQFish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take legal action and get to court about finalizing the divorce. Sounds to me like he's playing both of you and deserves some "time out"!!
2006-06-29 03:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need mental help...I want a man who loves another women and she is having his baby...at least listen to the facts...wake up your asking for trouble...move on, there are to many fish in the sea to waste your emotional time with one who has already been caught.
2006-06-29 03:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's easy: lose him. He can't make up his mind;he's lying to her and you are wanting a man that will only go to the same thing again. Has he ever told you you were nuts? he is right if you keep pursuing him while he is in love with another. we as humans cannot choose our emotions but we can do our best to control them. he obviously cannot control; his penis either
2006-06-29 03:50:39 · answer #11 · answered by rolando h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋