I promised a friend that I would go to a show with her this weekend. Well another friend who lives out of state called me and said she is in a city near me. I have not seen her in 6 years and she has been battling an illness for the past 2 years. She is feeling better and decided to travel and wants to see me. I told the other friend about it and she is very upset with me. Am I wrong for wanting to change plans to see a friend who is not only ill but that I haven't seen for 6 years? I mean, the other friend lives here AND its only a show! Help. How do I handle this?
2006-06-29 03:38:43 · 20 answers · asked by Girl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Answers to some questions:
The illness is Grave's Disease - she is being treated now, so things are better.
I have to drive 3 hours to see the my friend, so the local friend doesn't want to come. Besides, I haven't seen the long distance friend in 6 years, kind of wanted one on one time, you know?
2006-06-29 04:22:12 · update #1
You don't have to do/say anything more except to go and see your friend who you haven't seen in 6 years!! Your other friend doesn't seem too understanding and doesn't seem like such a good friend because she should understand that you haven't seen her in 6 years and that she is ill. You can see the one one friend every other day and take her to many other shows but you wont see the long distanced friendship all the time! Who knows, maybe you will never see your long distanced friend again. Not to be ugly or anything but does she have a chance of dying from this illness? If she does, rather see her! It could be the last.
You already know what is the right decision, now go for it and your friend who invited you to the show should understand and should not be angry with you.
2006-06-29 03:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
Well to be honest with you, that is a very complex situation you got going for yourself. But my honest opinion would be that you shouldn't feel bad, because at times like this (being ill) it is important to be there for the people that you care about. And if your friend who wants to go for the show is actually a friend then she should understand. Just ask her to turn the tables rounds. Well i hope this helps.
p.s. if anything why don't you go with both of them to the show, that way no one gets upset.
2006-06-29 10:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by kavita n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the ill friend and ask if it would be OK to bring the other friend so all 3 of you can go see a show together.
2006-06-29 10:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if shes a good friend she should understand. There are plenty of shows u two can go to together later. Invite ur friend that wants to visit u with u guys. Or... take ur friend to see her.
If shes gonna get made about it then what friend is she to u really anyways. Talk to her and explain the circumstances.
2006-06-29 10:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by ♫♪♥mï®♥♫♪ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to take your friends that lives nearby to another show on you. Tell her that if it was her with an illness that lives faraway and you haven't seen her for 6 years, she would be pretty mad if you ditched her to go see a show with a friends that lives close by.
2006-06-29 10:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by Courtney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your first friend is not jealous and is really your friend, then she would understand your decicion. Tell her you believe you might be of great help to someone who was sick and has just traveled miles to see you. Unless you have repeatedly made some promises before that you're not keeping. You can invite your second friend to the show instead, that may help!
2006-06-29 10:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by stallion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u are nt wrong....that friend is battling an illness ur friend should understand that and be supportive. Just tell that friend if she really is your friend then she should understand that. There are many of shows that u can go to...but ur other friend is ill and wants to see u.
2006-06-29 10:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong!! The other friend is not being much of a friend and you should be the one upset with her for not supporting you with everything you do. Tell your friend you don't appreciate her being made when this was something that meant a lot to you. if she doesn't understand then you should tell her shes not much of a friend to you. good luck!
2006-06-29 10:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by djbunny1605 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is going to have a hissy fit because you want to reschedule a movie with this much advance notice, is she really worth having as a friend? Spend some time with your friend who's visiting you.
2006-06-29 10:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like friend 1 is really immature. Keep your plans as they are. Friend 2 is who you should see. Friend 1 needs to grow up and get over it!
2006-06-29 10:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by suzycrmchz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋