my 2 yr old grand daughter will not sleep at night.?

Question

she takes a hour nap at 1.00 p.m. and then shes up the rest of the day til her bedtime at 9.00 p.m.she will sleep from 9.00p.m. til midnight then she is up til about 4.00 a.m. we have tried everything im at my wits end.she wakes up at 8.00 a.m. and she stays grouchy .when she doesnt get her way she throws things and screams til my daughter gives in and gives her what she wants.should she stop rocking her and just put her to bed and not go back in there at night.looking for answers.tired grandma

Answer 1

give her cold medicine for children to make her sleepy

Answer 2

I had a child that by the age of 2 didn't need a nap anymore. He never was one to sleep much, even as a baby (I even took him to the doctor to ask why he doesn't "sleep like a baby!".

Make sure she is not getting too much sugar in pop, kool-aid, candy, etc. If she gets cranky about 1, then let her go down for a short nap. I know when they lay down it's tempting to let them sleep a long time because it gives you a much needed break, but do not let her sleep more than an hour. If she is not cranky, then I would not have her take the nap and I'd try to make her bedtime an hour to an hour and a half earlier.

You do not say if the child is in a crib or a toddler bed. Make sure she goes to the bathroom just before laying down (she may be waking because she needs to go to the bathroom...so I would cut down on the liquids after 7pm).

If she is in a crib, then put a few books in the crib with her that she likes to look at and keep telling her over and over again, that if she wakes up she can look at her books until she is tired again. If she calls out, the mom can go in there, but do not pick her up..give her a book and tell her gently that it's "night, night time and mommy needs to sleep and so does ....(whatever the childs name is). " Then tell her, again in a quiet, gentle voice, "you can look at your books if you want until you get tired and lay back down" and then mom can walk out.

Do not yell or talk loudly or any quick movements. If you are potty training, mom can take her to the potty and put her back to bed.

It would probably be a good idea to have some books around for when she takes the afternoon nap, if she does, and let her fall asleep looking at them then and when she goes to bed so she gets used to doing that.

My son had a stuffed monkey that used to hang by his bed and when he would call out in the middle of the night for me, I would get up and do what I said above, about the books (he was in a toddler bed, so I put a little round table next to his bed with a few of his books and even a sippy cup with just a very small amount of water in it on the table too).

In the beginning I would get up and go into his room and "remind" him that this was night, night time and everyone needed to sleep, but if he was awake then he could look at his books, in his bed, until he got tired again. If he was thirsty there was a little water there for him too. I told him he could do these things without calling mommy, but if he really needed me then he could call me because I'm always here. Then I kissed him and told him I was going night, night and I covered him up and left the room.

It took about 2 weeks of telling him this, but he eventually got the picture and there were some mornings I got up and there would be books on the floor and his cup in his bed..but other nights, it would all be on the table.

I hope this or something someone else tells you helps!

Answer 3

My son did that! Was horrible! What I did..I stopped the naps in the afternoon and put him to bed around 7pm or 8pm depending how tired he was. It was hard at first since he tended to try to sleep, if he was REALLY tired I'd let him but.. not normally done. I diverted is attention to not take naps and it worked..he started sleeping through the night.
oh..and benadryl or any medication should NOT be given to a child or anyone unless really needed and prescribed by a doctor. That is not a fix just a bandaid to a night problem that needs a permanent fix not a bandaid!

Answer 4

Hey Grandma,

It sounds like the little one has established a routine thats not good for her and the ones that help take care of her. I'm not sure when her dinner time is but if she wakes of because shes hungry thats a little different. I'm sure your feeding her, so I'll try and focus the problem on her. I think its best if you just let her cry herself back to sleep. Keep one thing in mind, your (parents) are suposed to be the one in controll and set the rules, and right now shes the one setting rules. Give her a taste of tuff love, shes not going to die if you leave her alone through the night.

advice from a father with twins that sleep 14 hours a night we are doing something right!!

Good Luck

Answer 5

My daughter was somewhat like that, what worked for us was to not let her sleep during the day at all, that took a lot of effort but it paid off because after only 2 days of not letting her sleep during the day she started sleeping through the night.
As for the tantrums, we endured that also for a while until my wife's sister suggested a cure. When the tantrum starts up, do not say anything, but get a cup of cold water and throw it on her. Wow did that ever work well. We only had to do it twice and that ended the tantrums.
Good luck. And don't forget to love her.

Answer 6

My wife and I finally started putting our daughter in bed with us (2 years old), she also would wake up every night around midnight and stay up varying amounts of time. We decided to just let her sleep with us as getting up every night was killing us. She sleeps through the night now, and if she does wake up she just cuddles and falls back to sleep.

It is not recommended to do this but we decided better to get her trained to sleep through the night first and deal with her sleeping on her own later.

It is my opinion that naps are a MUST, fatique is a huge stress factor on children. Try not to cut out naps...

Answer 7

I know it sounds crazy but try not letting her take a nap. Take her to the park or somewhere she can play ALOT. That should help some. good luck

Answer 8

i think you stop allowing for her to have naps during the day specially if its only for an hour, make her tired durin the day - and make bed time 8pm 8:30pm the lastest see how that changes things

Answer 9

i'd advise revisiting this communication with your fiance. As a stepmom you've already got annoying circumstances dealing with you with the courting of this little lady. I accept as true with the very reality she is nicely able at this age to be extra self sufficient and that Grannie is hindering particularly than assisting. yet in case you flow direct to Grannie at this element, your husband to be isn't satisfied. he's clearly going to safeguard his mom because it really is "his mom" afterall. As father and mother, it really is our job to coach our youthful ones many stuff and one among those issues is independence. allowing her to %. out her own clothing for school would inspire her clearly to dress on her own. even as she chooses something inappropriate, gently say something like... i'm no longer certain that outfit is going to artwork and practice her how hues and varieties artwork. that would merely get her enthusiastic about it. also, you could opt to commence taking her places and doing issues jointly merely both of you. It sounds like Grannie is the anchor right here and also you want to commence gaining your stepdaughters believe that you'll love her and both safeguard her. i'd inspire you to commence taking a more suitable position such as her in all elements. look, in case you grant to bathe her one nighttime, particularly of Grannie, even as she is contained in the tub you could say "would you want to bathe your man or woman hair? i'm proper right here in case you want help." Or advise a bath particularly of a bath. At this age, she's waiting to bathe which will make her sense like a huge lady. Ask her which could help you prep dinner with some user-friendly projects (blending issues, etc). she will be able to quickly be attracted to the very incontrovertible reality that you enable her to do issues her Grannie would not. youthful ones like independence. contained in the morning, ask her if she would opt to make her own lunch and delivers her some possibilities to %. from and enable her make her own sandwich. turn it right into a recreation and enable her sense like she has administration - i imagine you'll benefit a lot extra traction that way. strong success!

Answer 10

you need 2 see your doctorabout that