well he ask if we could be friends but i want more then that and he is getting marryed now and it hurts me i keep saying it should have been me and i cry myself to sleep every night and i dream about him and wake up sometimes crying my eyes out i have tryed to move on and date other people but they do me wrong like say i have to have sex with them sick crap like that and when that happens i get to thinking about how sweet my ex"s was to me he respcted me alot were others have not i still love him so much and miss him alot i miss haveing some one to hold me in there arms but mostly his arms it hurts so much to know he is getting marryed see he wanted to be friends because his job got in the way why is it when i find a nices sweet guy like him there job gets in the way please help tell me what to do i send him a wedding card in the mail trying to be nices but i am hurting my heart says he is the right guy for me and he is the only one for me i thought i could stop looking??? help??????
2006-06-29 03:16:34 · 9 answers · asked by betty m 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your heart is broken badly. But you have to let him go. He is not yours anymore. If he wants to be friend, he is lying. That means only he wants a 3some. But it's a chance for revenge. You can stop his wedding. Just go to the wedding church and do everything to stop him from saying YES.
2006-06-29 03:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweethear, there are things in life we cannot control. We cannot make others love us, no matter what we do. And there are times when we all hurt deeply because we can't. Nothing you can do will change the situation, so accept it and move on. Within a few months, your outlook will change greatly. I have found that some of the best things that happen to us are UNANSWERED PRAYERS. There will come a day when you will thank your lucky stars that things rolled out the way they did. There is another out there you will love and who will love you in return. Good luck. Do not go to the wedding...that is a silly thing that will cause you great pain. And, if you love him, be happy for him ... that is what real love is. Any advice to attend this wedding and be disruptive is, at best, very very childish and will make you look exceedingly bad...stay away and take the high road. NO ONE ever regretted being a good sport, but most end up asking "why did I do that" when they take a low stance towards love.
2006-06-29 03:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG Get away from him. He wants to be friends with you b/c he doesn't want the guilt of knowing he broke your heart. You can't be friends with him. If you think that by telling him you'll be friends, you'll one day be able to get him back, you're completely fooling yourself. He moved on and found someone else. It's time to let him go. Yell at him, curse him out, hang up on him, whatever it takes to let the anger out. He dumped you! And you should be p*ssed at him. No matter what, you can't hang on hoping he'll come back to you, because he won't. You need to do whatever you need to mourn the loss of the relationship and try to move forward. Remember that you deserve better than what he gave you and one day you'll find the guy who loves you as much as you love him.
2006-06-29 05:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. he broke your heart. you still love him.
but he wants to be with someone else. he is going to marry them. that leaves you out of the picture.
you dont have to be friends with him. you dont have to talk to him if it hurts you so much.
but why want to be with somebody that doesnt want you? that is a set up for low self esteem.
2006-07-09 05:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want him tell him what you just told all of us ! whats it going to hurt ?? he will never know unless "you speak now or forever hold your peace .."if you don't you will cry many more nights ..
2006-07-11 05:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over, grow up, and move on. He has,
2006-07-06 14:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by ^v^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wants to make sure that the fuc* line is still open
2006-07-11 12:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by niki c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there! NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-29 04:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-29 03:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋