2006-06-29 03:11:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There comes a time in many relationships that it is important to worry about YOU, not 'you all.' If you are unhappy, chances are that he is also, and wants to end it as you do...but he is in the same boat..."I don't want to hurt her." You leave by saying, "I am unhappy and this is not working for ME." Please do not second guess his reactions...he may be relieved that he didn't have to "hurt" you. In situations like these, honesty is usually the best policy, there is no way to soft soap the issues, and nothing short of " It is time to end it and go our own ways" will do. DO NOT tell him anything like I usually see: " You can do so much better," "You will find someone you are looking for, " etc. This is all nonsense. Just tell him "bye." Short, to the point, and walk. There is no reason NOT to remain friends, but lovers??? I suspect you are both in the same boat. Since he doesn't have the nerve, do it for him. He will thank you in one way or another. You really do not have a problem other than 2nd guessing him. Good luck.
2006-06-29 03:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with flattery, say " I've really had alot of great times with you, and I think you're a really great guy, and you deserve a girl who is going to appreciate you, but I don't think that I would fit that description. I know that you have been unhappy, and I want to help make us both happy, but I feel that the best way to do so is seperately. I don't want to be responsible for makeing you miserable anymore, and I will always value you as a friend, so lets be friends and give eachother back our freedom to find true happiness that we could not find as a couple, O.K.?" That's soft-peddleing it pretty gently and without blameing or belittleing him or yourself. Good luck
2006-06-29 03:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh gosh Hun
how sad i am sorry to say what ever you say or do it will upset him
but if you are both unhappy you are doing the best thing telling him
life is to short to be in a unhappy relationship
i think if you just go some were quite so you can talk with out other people about
and tell him why this has got to stop and because you are so unhappy
i sure he will see that you are right
good luck
respect
shaz
2006-06-29 03:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to sit down and communicate this. You may both see this isn't working out. If both of you decide it is time to seperate the hurt isn't as deep. It is easier if it is discussed and agreed on before the hurtful words or actions are done in the relationship.
2006-06-29 03:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will always have some sort of heart ache when ending a relationship, but make it a quick and clean break! its the best for both parties and in the long run, it will be easier on both parties! good luck.
2006-06-29 03:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it.... the longer you wait the worst off it will be. tell it to him straight, but be considerate about his feelings too. that doesn't mean try to cover it up and make it seem like "oh it's me, not you." deal... you know? and when you do, don't turn back and don't give in. be strong and stern about your decision. cause if you give in just a tiny bit, he will think there's still hope. good luck!!
2006-06-29 03:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Miss X♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible you with both be hurt. You have to do what makes you happy though. Time heals all wounds.
2006-06-29 03:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way!!! not matter what one of you are going to hurt! but try to help him with it i mean you still wabt to be friend right NEVER BURN YOUR BRIDGES BEHIND YOU talk to him if you fells the same as you then it may not be that hard
2006-06-29 03:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by kc_73184 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down, and explain to him.
2006-06-29 03:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie Faye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋