Is it weird if i like to study hard and get the best result in class?

Question

In my class most of the children donot talk to me or play with me because i like to study and come first in th class is this a bad habbit?

Its true that i love to study but why is it that my friends wont always talk to me?I'm not what u would call a nerd i just like studying...i play and laugh too but dont you think that it's unfair if they dont involve me when they are having fun only because i like studying?!?!?!?!And its not like im a complete dud at other things eiher!Or is it just that they are not comforable around me?

Answer 1

no its not bad at all. you want to be at the top and you set your goal that you are trying to reach. its very good. KUDOS! keep up the good work!

Answer 2

Here's the scoop
Listen up
Good grades in school are most certainly a worthy goal
as
education is mostly wasted on the young
so
a drive to excell while it's still free is a good thing
but
you must be driven for your own reasons.
That is
if you are not just trying to make good grades
but instead
make better grades than those around you
then yes
you are actively working to alienate yourself.
I'm saying
If yours is an insatiable drive to learn that can be satisfied only by knowledge
then
you are on the right track.
However
if you're pulling down good grades only to show up your peers
then
they will sense that and seperate you
So
get good grades because you love to learn
not because
you want better grades than everyone else :)

Seriously, friend
absorb every last iota of knowledge you can
before they make you start having to finance it

Answer 3

Hell no it's not bad! That thirst for accomplishment and knowledge will serve you well in the future. While your pulling in the big bucks as a surgeon or big shot CEO, they'll be stuck in a half cubicle, wishing they would have done what you are now, and then they'll go home and tell their kids to do what you do know. That said, don't let yourself get too alienated. Take a break from the books a couple of times a day and get out there and have some fun! Prove to those kids you can be smart and fun. I know it's a hard line to walk, but you can do it. Good luck!

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with studying, working hard, and trying to do your best. These are good habits in school and in life. Trying to be better than everybody else, on the other hand, is not only going to put you in a bad place socially, but it is more than likely setting you up for disappointment and self-esteem problems later in life. As you get older, you will probably find yourself in situations where you can't be the best. Consider that the entire freshmen class at Harvard were probably at the tops of their classes in high school. They can't all be the best at Harvard.

Don't hang your self-image on how you compare to others. Just know that you've done your best and be satisfied with that.

By the way, if you really do want to excel academically, get out of the habit of shortening "you" to "u" etc. It's not much of an effort to type the whole word out and it doesn't make you look lazy, apathetic, and uneducated.

Answer 5

It's not a bad thing if you're trying to learn as much as you can - that's commendable behavior and will help you achieve a lot in life.

But if you're just looking to show the other kids up, then that might be bad. By *no* means should you *ever* hold yourself back, but you should be trying to study hard for the reason I gave above and not out of competition. You don't want to shut yourself out of a social life, after all. However, do your homework first, and then try to find time to be a kid and hang out with other kids. Be nice to them and they'll eventually come around and notice you're nice.

Answer 6

NOPE, it is not weird that you are like that. You are one of those people who love to do hard work and are very good at it. You are aiming for the skies. I wish more people could do that. You may need to loosen up a little bit because there is a time and place for everything. We need to achieve as humans but, we also need to have friends because we are all gonna need somebody to lean on. So try and join in the 'play' with your friends. You also wanna pace yourself. Try to have a balance in your life. Study and fun! OK, try it and see. Things will be so much better.

Answer 7

oh no not weird! i love study too
yet if you love study only because you want to beat others in the class and be the best.. then maybe thats not the good motivation :oP
i guess some people think you just want to be better than others so they dont really like you
and let them know you more and talk to them
hope it helps!
hehe btw a bit nerdy is good *giggle* im a kind of nerd too n im proud of this *blink*
good for you if you can get the best result

Answer 8

It's not weird, it's what students are supposed to do.

As for how the other kids in your classes feel about you, their avoiding you might be for other reasons. I understand that you like to study and they do not like to, but is there something that they like to do that you are not so fond of, but that you could try so that you would have more in common with them?

I work at a school, supervising children during their recesses and I have had the opportunity to watch kids and see which are the popular ones and which ones hate recess because it means they will be spending time alone. Everyone has different talents and different challenges, but nearly everyone can do something to improve their situation.

What can you do? I'd suggest joining a group game. You may not like games--some children don't, but if they join one where people take turns and wait in line for those turns, the time in line turns into a social time. People like it when other people do things like call them by their name (sounds simple, doesn't it?) or notice good things about them and comment on them. Telling someone that they played a good game is an example of that, or congratulating them on something is another one. You may find that there is another kid out on the playground who could use a friend, someone who is watching, but not playing. Invite that kid to do something with you--even if it's walking around the playing field or something.

And--DO NOT brag about your good grades!
You'd be better off complaining about studying or saying that your parents MAKE you study so hard. You could tell your teachers that you'd be interested in helping a student who could use some help, if you can do that. Not everyone is good at helping others--not every good mathematician or musician is a good teacher. But you might consider it. And join a club or team if your school has them. Don't worry about being good at the thing; there is a lot of benefit to doing something you are not good at. It teaches you to work hard and it will teach you about what those other kids feel like about school. It can also be a lot of fun to do something you cannot possibly excel at--the pressure is off of you then.

Good luck! (I think those good grades are great, by the way.)

Answer 9

No, you are not weird! You are an intelligent and mature girl for your age. Alot of kids probably can't relate to that, but that doesn't mean you have a bad habit!
Keep up the good work and someday they will all wish they had worked as hard as you did, because you will be the most successful adult!!
I certainly wished I had put in more effort when I was a student!

Answer 10

No it's not but if it seems like you're totally obsessed in coming first in class to the point that you get mad at yourself if you make a mistake --well, go relax and enjoy while studying it's not bad to enjoy and unwind some times

Answer 11

No- but take a lesson from Hermione (HP) and take time to do more then study! Making friends is the second most important thing about school.