Can anyone identify with the term g0y: meaning a man attracted to a man but not wanting penetration?

Question

I found this term on this web site I found here at Yahoo answers. It makes sense to me but I don't necessarily want to tag myself with a label. I'm just me and I happen to be attracted to women and like sex with my wife. But I also long for a loving, affectionate relationship with a man that doesn't involve penetration.

Answer 1

This is from their website. http://g0ys.org
G0YS (Spelled with a ZER0) are guys who find men physically & emotionally attractive, but (for whatever reason) are offended with the stigmas that currently define the 'gay community' in the public psyche.

Anal-sex is not tolerated ever - & it represents the ultimate form of sexual disrespect whether male/male or male/female. Other distasteful stereotypes include (but are not limited to): Effeminate behavior, extreme passivity (like cowardice), drag, & emotionally-driven psyche's - resistant to logic & reason (HeShe's on Heels).

G0YS also reject (due to well developed theology), the lax & lazy prejudices that have arisen in conservative fundamentalist circles against all same-gender sexuality. In Christian circles, this travesty has arisen due to the extremely sloppy exegesis (& outfight fraud) of (6) verses of Scripture, w. a total failure to rightfully divide the Word. This becomes quite apparent when the theme of the New Testament is held up as a standard, & these anti same-gender teachings are examined in light of that theme. Very briefly, Romans chapter (1) is a scathing commentary exposing temple prostitution & Anal-sex (Women w. men, & men w. men; -- N0T what is called 'homo-sex'). This is made very clear by other writings of Saul/Paul himself, & a warning from Peter about those who would misinterpret Paul's writings. Paul writes that those who did these things received within themselves the due penalty for their perverse behavior - & that penalty was death. Likewise, G0YS point out that Anal-Sex is the mechanism for the EXPLOSIVE SPREAD of Sexually Transmitted Diseases over the globe - many deadly. The anus is not a sexual organ (genital) & treating it as such violates Moses' command "Not to bear false witness". Scripture teaches that one of the very foundations of the faith involves "repentance from acts that lead to death". G0YS believe that changing the meaning of the Romans (1) from being against anal-sex, to a focus on (& against) 'homo-sex', -simultaneously adds & deletes from the canon of Scripture; & carries the ultimate penalty for perverting the gospel.

What G0YS embrace is masculinity in it's purest forms. Many G0YS are GAY or BI identified men (who might wear those labels IF they were not aware of the G0Y movement). Many G0YS are STRAIGHT identified (involved in marriage or exclusive relationships with women) also - but have these deep feelings for masculine affection nonetheless. Many of these men have had 1 or more sexual encounters with other men (not anal) & lack the language to describe those feelings & relationships. The term "gay" simply encloses too large a group & the diverse associated stereotypes. G0YS place friendships at the top of their proverbial "list". Some of those friendships deepen to a level that is so intimate & personal that sexuality often becomes an element; -- & strong, invisible cords of love, respect & extreme-discretion cover what is an intensely personal thing. The reputation of the flamboyance, promiscuity, filth & bizarre cross-culture of the term "gay" - is seen as an affront to these g0y relationships.

G0YS are not homo-phobic (as we readily admit that we are men who love masculinity). Perhaps we're "PHREAK-O-PHOBIC". We detest acts that degrade & disrespect masculinity; - & thereby diminish the man. This is why we have adopted the term "G0Y" as opposed to "GAY" - & we offer no apology for our discretion in doing so. If 'GAY' means the "ocean of men who desire men" ... then "G0YS" are the 'Kosher catches'! Got irony?

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Greg B if you are not in to the effeminate gender bending gay culture and do not do anal sex then yes you are a g0y.

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Even though I am against Anal sex and I am not into effeminate men, I respect others rights to do what so ever they wish. As long as it is between two consenting adults it is between them and not my business.

Answer 2

You set Randy_W off again !

Seriously though, Randy's definition is as complete as you're going to get from anyone here.

I'm curious about the "...loving, affectionate relationship..." you mentioned. It doesn't, necessarily, suggest ANY form of sexual relationship.

Over the years, I've been blessed to have counted a handful of (straight) male friends, who'd be best described as "platonic soulmates". We could discuss anything and would drop anything at the other's call. It was relaxing just to be in each other's company and there would never be any question of sexual intimacy between us - we didn't operate on so "base" a level.

G0ys enjoy masculinity at a physical level (as well as emotional, mental and - for some - spiritual).

I hope you find what you're looking for.

Answer 3

Penetration really isn't a big part of being gay and there are thousands of gay men that don't do the "final act". Without it you can still have a normal and fulfilling relationship.

Answer 4

I thought that word meant the same thing as 'gentile'. Also, it's not really a word, seeing as the midle character is a number.

Thinking about it some more, I think that it's not a bad idea to have a word for that sort of thing. But, more and more it seems to me that that is one stupid sounding word.

Answer 5

I've been in a monogomous gay relationship for 16 years and there has NEVER been penetration.
We just don't like it.

Does this mean I'm GOY?

Answer 6

The same sex attraction component in me works in the same way. I have no fascination towards male genitilia, but I do have a high attraction to members of the same sex. I identify as bisexual.

Answer 7

G0y Video

Answer 8

Then you are bisexual