the mostly full scoop on the story. B4 I go 2 Basic Training my wife cheats on me. After I get done with AIT, I find out that she is still cheating on me witha 'nother guy. Then she calls only when she needs $$$ to support her mew boyfriend in my apartment while I am away. See my point now?
2006-06-29 02:53:57 · 38 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why don't you divorce her as she obviously doesn't love you enough to be faithful. I wouldn't give her a dime.
2006-07-13 03:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously if she feels the need to be w/ someone else, then let her go! She doesn't deserve you especially if you are a loyal and caring guy. Ask yourself how much do you love her or do you love yourself more? File for a legal separation if you don't know if you want her completely out of your life or you guys can work through it.
If you are in the military, then I'm sure that they provide counselors, tell them your situation. I'm sure they'll provide you with some good advice. They don't appreciate their boys (soldiers) taking advantage of their wives or others as well as, they don't want anyone screwing over their boys (soldiers) as well.
They should be able to help you with housing. Open a separate bank account. Don't deposit anything else in the other one. When and if she calls for some $$ tell her to get it from the dude she's screwing. Get your things out of the apt. that you share and put it storage temporarily or at your parents, but don't pay rent for her to continue to disrespect you in your own home!
2006-07-12 09:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by Dezec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get your head out your butt and file for divorce on grounds of adultery. Move your stuff out of the apt.and let her and her little boyfriend pay the damn bills. If you let her stay and she continues to cheat or you send her money knowing she is cheating, then you may as well bend over and take one in the butt because you deserve it if your that STUPID. Honey she wants your pay while your away and those military benefits. GET OUT NOW before there are children. Hell you could end of supporting another guys kid if your don't grow some balls and get away from that using skank!
2006-07-12 07:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still around? Your wife has disrespect you to the fullest!! Your wife is with you for support. She has acces to everything while you're gone, moving in sorry a$$ men while you're away. You could do better. Love hurts but you got to get rid of the bagge that's holding you down.
I'm pretty sure you have figured this out yourself! I'm a female and I say cut her a$$ loose, before you get into a situation you don't want to be in.
THINK SMART!!
2006-06-29 03:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by Shay~Shay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soldier...you've been duped.....you need to seek legal counsel. File for divorce. If you have a grounds clause in your state use the ADULTERY....
Close any and all joint bank accounts/ credit cards etc.
The monthly alotment you send home well....it's not negotiable until you file for the divorce.
If you wife is in base housing....that too isn't negotiable until you file and the divorce is granted.
Your wife will never be trustworthy. Cut your losses and wash your hands of the entire situation...
2006-07-12 00:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I know exactly how your feeling. I too was in the Army ( from 1993-1999) and i was married from 1994-1997, in that time I know for a fact that my now ex-wife cheated on me twice, because thats how many times i caught her. While we were together, I paid for her to finish college and get her masters degree, bought her a car with my re-enlistment bonus and paid for god only knows what else. If I were you, I would get a divorce ASAP...HOOAH!!!!
2006-07-13 03:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by bigjohninfla75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick the boyfriend out the door. Then tell her straight up its over, make sure she gets the picture clearly. Then kick her out the door. Don't ever let people take advantage of you in life, because once that happens they always feel they have that power over you and will try try again. Move on, you deserve better. Good luck.
2006-07-13 02:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like their are no children involved! If I am right about that, then your wife should not be calling you to get money to support her boyfriend! And if you know that, that is the only reason why she is contacting you you should find yourself a Lawyer, and file for Divorce!!!!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-11 04:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of DIVORCE>....from a woman who has spent 20 years with the same man and loves it....who spent basically 6 years alone while he was in the field or tdy...if she cant be faithful she wont be faithful. Get out now.
2006-07-11 08:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by bootandpooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should encourage your wife to get a job. Then start putting money away in a separate account. When she calls you could always say you are broke.
2006-07-12 08:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't send her any money do you?! Well, I thing you know the answer... Just make sure you get a 'legal separation' to protect yourself, because she sounds like big trouble down the road....she obviously has no conscience, so you really don't know what she is capable of... just be wise about it and protect yourself... Good Luck..
2006-07-09 17:54:23 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋