There was a guy whol made sexual contacts with me when i was 4 years old.. i never realised it then and when i realised it was 20 years.. Now i feel cheated.. And have started hatin guys.. I know its not logical hatin guy community bcoz of one stupid peron. Will there be nay problems in the future? I mean after marriage life?
2006-06-29 02:53:04 · 7 answers · asked by psycho_here 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
thank you guys... hey that guy is not in contacts with me still.. he is not behind me.. it was just that time of 4 years.. Thats it.. but i am havin this guilty feel that i should have told my parents then. But what could have i told? When i knew what sex was all about only, i realised that the guy had played with me.. Now i really cnt confess it to anyone here and this yahoo answers really made me feel comfortable doin this.
2006-06-29 17:16:13 · update #1
You've shared a serious and very troubling secret from your life, and by doing so you have gone on record. You are saying that you were wronged and you are hurt. Those are completely legitimate and understandable statements--now: what can you and should you do. The very first thing I would suggest is to go to someone you know and trust and tell them. If you have a religious leader, a doctor or counselor, please let them know about this. You need and deserve some professional help and guidance in dealing with this. There are issues with your life and relationships, and there may still be a question about the abuser: if he is still alive there may be others at risk. Please talk to someone responsible about this as soon as you can.
2006-06-29 03:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by EXPO 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't let what one person did to you control you, your giving way to much power over to that individual. Try writing a letter to that person, tell him how he made you feel, what you feel about him, let go of all that anger in the letter. You don't have to send it, sometimes getting it out is the beginning of coming to terms with that episode of your your life. It can be the beginning of your own healing. I was molested when I was twelve, it's a very ugly & envasive feeling, but, I'm proof that it can be over come. I'm married with 2 children. Try to remember, it's your life & your in control not him & don't let him do this to you. He was just one guy, and your missing out not allowing some really nice guy from getting to know you. Start meeting men in places were you feel safe, and take it slow.
God bless & good luck, there is hope !!!
2006-06-29 03:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by amom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him have control over who you are now. You know better. Male's like that aren't especially out for sex just power over the weak. It's not gay just sick. Go ahead and hate people who would do something like that to a child, just realize you can never be sure who you're hating. Once you get the anger under control, find love and be happy. You can be as happy as you are willing to be. No future problems unless your hate gets in the way and makes you hate innocent people.
2006-06-29 03:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by Laura B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good on u for realizing their is a problem go and see a counceller and if u happen to know who the creep is and where he lives go and see the police and tell them seek legal aid they will be able to tell u what to do to get justice good luck hope u will meet someone nice and have a happy live together not all man r bad
2006-06-29 03:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The statues on something like this does not run out. Go to the police and they will help walk you through the procedures and prosecute this guy.
2006-06-29 03:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by American Pride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you hang on to it and dont get through the problem then yes there will be many problems with your sexlife when you are married if you even get that far.
2006-06-29 03:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by looking for love this time 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am LOVE!
i LOVE YOU!
smileS!
Yeshua!
2006-06-29 03:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by YESHUA Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋