2006-06-29 02:46:43 · 22 answers · asked by R.I.P. 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I am asked this question often because my life has been filled with pain and sorrow, sickness, accidents, violence from others, loss of loved ones, and enough sadness to fill half a dozen peoples lives in sorrow.
But, I always answer, yes, yes yes.... I would do the whole thing over if I had to.
And here's why:
If I were to change one second of my life, that very second could be the one that affected someone very special in my heart.
It could be the very second that affected someone I have merely brushed beside as well. Like the child I snatched up and stopped from choking on a boiled sweet, back in 1966, when her mum panicked in a bus terminal and I was the only one on hand, just another young mum of twenty-one with three children of her own. (Five by the time I was twenty-four)
No one else knew I saved that child, but if I wasn't me, I couldn't have done it. And there have been other similar incidents throughout my life.
So if I changed my life, made it 'better' for myself, then either something that I did, or refrained from doing, would not have been done, or refrained from by someone else, and could be detrimental now, to another's life.
We cannot change what has been, just because of our personal sorrows, we must not wish to change what was, even if we could, or we could destroy someone else's tomorrows.
All of us have small experiences, and some big ones as well, that have touched the lives of others, even you are special in this way. Just think, who might just be very disadvantaged now, if you were not the very person, with the very life you live, that you are today?
And despite our frequent ups and downs, I wouldn't change a thing anyway, because my children wouldn't be the people that they are.
Yes, my idea of who and what, and how my childen should be, might be right for me, but completely wrong for them. so I wouldn't change a thing. Even if I moan and offer unwanted advice, more often than I should:-(
I've learned long ago to accept the person that I am and the deck God dealt me, since I consider life to be a training ground, for something far, far better.
And I wouldn't even change the fact that I have daily pain from arthritis, because through it, I have learned to understand people who suffer more.
2006-06-29 03:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't change a thing, I would even go through my disastrous first marriage again, I was beaten black and blue I was tormented mentally, but I think of it this way. I suffered at the hands of that man, for a reason. I had to taste the really rough so that I would value any other man or men that are decent. I have married for the second time, to the most wonderful man on this planet. I adore him we have a son together, whom we both adore. I now know what its like to be truly loved and too love in return. So know I wouldn't change a thing .......... That was a really good question, I think you should ask some more I like it when nice people ask sensible valid questions . So well done you!
2006-06-29 09:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by mams brown eyed gel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 73 and I would certainly not do it over again. I look back on some of the stupid, arrogant and selfish things that I did when I was young and I wouldn't want to be that person again. There were of course wonderful things back then too. But the old saying, "We get too soon old and too late smart" is very true.
2006-06-29 09:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by william a 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what a certain age is............... but I'd do it all again......might be a lot more careful so as not to inadvertantly hurt some people but yeah I'd do it again. Would be nice if I could do it with the knowledge I have now...........but until then I'm keepin on doing it till I croak.
2006-06-29 09:52:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And most of it I would do exactly as I did.
The only two changes I would make are:
1) I would put more effort into having a family
2) I would eat more healthy from an early age on
2006-06-29 09:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sean F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mind people "of a certain age"! I'm only 26 and I already feel like my life is over!! Boo hoo!
2006-06-29 09:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by james h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to having children; No to getting married at 20; No to leaving school at 16; No to burning on the beaches for years; No to eating crap food for years and No to living in this country all my life and not seeing the world!
2006-06-29 10:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by SengaYo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing what I know now?? Yes. Just to go back and learn it all over again?? Never.
2006-06-29 09:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Because life can only go forward it can't go back. And going back would mean having to unlearn all the lessons I've learned and having to learn them again.
2006-06-29 09:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by mikayla_starstuff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i could have my life over, but with the knowledge i have now, i am sure i would do some things differently - but not that many.
i don't think i would want to live my life over though - i am having too much fun right now.
2006-06-29 09:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by synopsis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋