How much time do kids take away from a marriage???? I want them but I am scared that my relationship with my husband will not be as fun. Help me please!!!!
2006-06-29 02:42:36 · 20 answers · asked by Yellabone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kids are great if you are willing to devote a lot of time to them and to hubby. You should place yourself on the "back burner" because as far as I am concerned everyone's needs go in front of your own. Many people are too selfish to do that. I know a great guy who is a principal and is great with the kids at school, but he says he will never have kids of his own because he is too selfish. He likes to do what he wants when he wants and his wife is the same way. Kids would cramp their lifestyle.
If your hubby wants kids you will both have to be willing to sacrifice because having kids changes everything!
2006-06-29 02:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are more concerned with having a fun relationship with your husband then don't have kids. Kids will take up a lot of your time. They will test & stress your relationship. Wait a few more years and talk about it a lot. Look at how simple & care free your life is now and then compare it to never going out, changing diapers, and trying to find time to sleep while trying to make your husband happy in the bedroom and keeping up with daily house duties well as working full time. Not to mention the added financial strain. Kids take up A LOT OF TIME! Think about it, take your time and don't rush into it.
2006-06-29 03:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by zmebme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to eat your cake and have it then maybe having kids is not for you at this time. You've got to want them as much as you want your husband because they do not take from the marriage, they become a part of it
2006-06-29 02:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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seriously it has to be a decision that you and your husband make. Jids will take time away from ur time together because instead of 2 there will be 3 and kids need the same attention that your r giving your husband. you have to be ready to be a mother-a wife-and still have time for yourself. your husband will still want the attention you give him now and the baby will want attention....all I can say is make sure that you both understand this
2006-06-29 06:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by His 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They take a lot of time but they can also make you and your husband much closer since you then have a common goal to love and teach that child. There are a lot of sacrifices that come with having a child so you need to make sure you are ready for that and also that you both agree on everything.
2006-06-29 02:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ideal circumstance is travel, experience..do the things you want to do with your husband prior to having children...Once you have children its all about them..gradually, several years later, at least once all are in school and you have summer vacations...you can resume taking trips, perhaps sharing the finer places you have visited with your children, its not until they are out of college can you enjoy a husband/wife relationship as it once was...able to do what ever your time and finances allow...that is were I am at now, however without a partner to share it with...looking back....Raising the children provided the most remarkable memories..I recommend having kids...but enjoy your time with out them first.
2006-06-29 02:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good man it won't take anything from your marriage, cause his hands will be filled to. I settled down at a very young age and me and my lady found time to do the things we wanted for us you know our time. It's gonna seem hard sometimes but like I said if he's a good man he souldn't be upset when you're taking care of what he helped bring into this world. Talk with him and get his point of view.
2006-06-29 03:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by what? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ofcourse u should have kids..maybe ur husband wanna that too ..if u wanna to get fun now ..u can get it with ur kids too.... did u think b4 what r u gonna to do when u will be an old lonely woman who gonna help u,who gonna make u happy?anyway not all these ppl at the world lost the fun with their husbands when they got kids
2006-06-29 02:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by batt00ta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god i was so scared to and now i am on baby #2 listen kids are great and yes they take time from you however they do sleep and actually my daughter brought us closer together and i know this baby on the way will bring us even closer. So I might not have time to do whatever I want whenever I want my daughter makes it worth it I love her and everyday she does something new that makes me smile.
2006-06-29 02:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen i don't want to sound rude but by the sounds of it you are far from ready to have a kid of course everything will change
nothing will ever be the same again sleepless nights that's just for starts
not wanting sex that's another one
no forget the baby Hun just keep having all that fun you say you are having
respect
shaz
2006-06-29 03:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋