I am a woman - and hate the irational thoughts that build up in my head-
I have a partner of 2 years, we're engaged and basically last night and today he's in a bad mood- immediately i think its me- why do women do that? and why cant men just come out and be honest with what they are feeling?
Ohhhhh why yahoo users help me feel better!
2006-06-29 02:42:26 · 11 answers · asked by charley_chunk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm so with you on this one. I think that we women are chronically insecure. It drives the guys nuts though.
Many men aren't very good at expressing their feelings. I'm not sure how to encourage them to be better; sometimes counselling can help them.
I did read an interesting fact once though: Apparently when men are upset their brain connection between the part of them that is feeling the feeling and the part that communicates is actually disconnected, so in some circumstances men are not capable of expressing their emotions even if they might wish to.
I spent years with a depressed man because I thought all his unhappiness was my fault and that I deserved to be treated badly. I think that councelling is the only way to really get over this kind of thing.
It might help to put yourself last on the list i.e. if he is grumpy assume its everything else first. It might also help if when your man tells you something i.e. that you are beautiful or that he loves you, you actually believe it and keep believing it until further notice. There is no reason for him to change his mind.. so whiy assume that he has.
I hope that things work out for you. As people keep telling me on here: just relax and enjoy your relationship don't fret about it or you may lose it.
2006-06-29 03:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by SmartBlonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we think too much about trivial things I think we are just sensitive especially with regard to our loved ones. I do the same thing with my husband when he goes quiet. I respond by just going quiet too and making sure there isn't anything happening in our home to make matters worse. He comes around eventually and sometimes it is me and sometimes it isn't. I think holding your tongue when you are upset about something can help to put the matter into perspective and then when it's time to talk about it both are ready not just to talk but to really listen. Words spoken when angry can be like weapons.
2006-06-29 09:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Vivreici 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't tend to be any good at expressing their feelings or talking about them. You're going to have to draw it out of him I'm afraid!
2006-06-29 09:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by ehc11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men cannot accept blame thats why the blame women for everything that happens.Drop him before he really hurts you
2006-06-29 10:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not alone - sometimes it takes days for my partner to tell me what's bothering him. I've even turned on the light in the early hours of the morning,sat on him and begged hime to tell me - that one usually doesn't fail!
2006-06-29 09:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we think, therfore we are! dont ask questions like this, men are usually in a bad mood because of the (misses) he'll never tell you though, why? because he loves you.( I think!)
2006-06-29 10:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by mummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Lorna Jane!!
2006-06-29 12:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel guilty when you have done nothing wrong.Just ask him to open up,so that you see how best you can assist him.
2006-06-29 09:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by Bob Mukonka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well did you ask him what was wrong? why cant women just tell us what they want us to tell them. we're not psych you know.
2006-06-29 09:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by drunkredneck45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boost that confidence girl! go do some yoga and relax ;o) x
2006-06-29 09:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋