Because this will get the attention of the preteens and teens. Is there anything you could tell a teenager that you have learned through your life that may help them out now. A lot of us went through peer pressure, feeling bad about ourselves, everything the teens go through now. What would you tell a teenager now to help them like themselves NOW and respect themselves NOW?
No - I am not a teen -- I am a mature adult. I just want all the kids out there to start thinking smart and not fall into peer pressure and feeling ugly (when you aren't)-- the same stuff we experienced and wish we would have thought differently back then.
2006-06-29 02:38:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
FAR too much to say... I have confined it to a few points, though. :)
1. Don’t be afraid of failure. Take calculated risks. Try to accomplish something you care about, even if you’re not sure it will succeed. Failure is not as big as we make it out to be, and you’re not foolish for failing at something.
2. The cliques and relationships you despise in school, or are envious of, or predominate your thinking will not exist in ten years. At your school reunions, even the most unlikely people will often become your friends and you theirs – just because you shared a common experience. Don’t fret too much now about this stuff; it all goes away.
Likewise, everything passes. Everything that is so large and looming to you right now (whether a problem or some anticipation) will diminish in size. That’s simply the process of time. Take those things for what they’re worth, but don’t get too caught up in them.
3. Enjoy your life now. Yeah, you are looking forward to driving, and being “legal” for drinking, and living on your own, and having a job… sure. Those are good things. But they have their problems, and right now you have certain benefits from being a kid. Enjoy being a kid while you can. I promise you, sometimes you’ll look back and wish you had some of the freedom you had as a kid and taken more advantage of your situation. Age is inevitable. Don’t rush it.
4. Don’t let other people make life decisions for you. You have to live with your decisions (career, spouse, etc.) – and so you have to consider what you think is important and fulfilling.
Still, never be afraid to ask for advice from older and wiser people (and actually CONSIDER what they have to say – even the least likely people have SOMETHING good in there just from living for so long).
Basically, (a) learn all you can from anyone who will teach, and (b) think for yourself and make the best decision you can for everyone concerned (including you), rather than letting others manipulate you.
5. Reach out to others. Often times we feel excluded, so we exclude ourselves. Never take yourself out of circulation. If someone doesn’t like you or rejects you, don’t let that diminish your value as a person; don’t take it personally. It’s actually common for even the most popular people to sometimes feel alone and abandoned. You have the power to reach out, and you are worth reaching out to, no matter how you’re feeling at the time.
6. Be kind. Your life will be much better… trust me… and so will the lives of those around you.
2006-06-29 03:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I think kids these days are different then we were growing up. They have alot more influences. I believe that kids should somehow learn how to develop more self worth just as you say. The only way for them to do that is by learning confidence in themselves and having good leaders. I believe that the process must begin with the adults....therefore, how can we give good advice when most of us are jaded? I think that most kids do have a good foundation but, life tends to have us believe that it is easier to do bad then do good. Humans tend to go the easier route when making decisions. Hindsight is always 20 20. Making mistakes is part of the growing process.
2006-06-29 02:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people who make you feel bad about yourself really are insecure about themselves and pick on other people to make them feel good about themselves.
Those break-ups in high school are not the end of the world and that you will meet that person of your dreams later in life. Just think they are walking around out there now!
Study and work hard but always find time to do something that interests you and play. Life is all about balance.
2006-06-29 02:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be ur self and believe in ur self if their is a problem speak to your parent is my advise to my teenage children make time to learn if there r any problems and sit down with your child and talk it over he or she will feel more positive and will face the problem much better with a back up plan tell them beauty comes from within and teach them not to give in to peer pressure if someone fels the need to jump of a bridge why should they do the same?
2006-06-29 02:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a mother of four three boys one girl, I always tell them do not listen to your friends or any one else that you think they will get you in trouble. I know how some of this teenager are they like to bully, and pick on them because they are the smallest ones.
2006-06-29 02:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by tuindia66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing I would tell them is to find out who they are and be that person...always...If they are quirky and offbeat and artistic..don't confrom to society...march to your own drummer. You will be much happier. This is a lesson I learned the hard way. Never sell out! Believe me, you will still find the love of your life either way...and by not conforming you will attract the type of person that is suitable for you.
2006-06-29 03:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOn't worry about what the popular kids think of you. Be yourself have fun. At your 10 year reunion the adults that were "the popular kids" will be the ones worrying about what everyone thinks!!! Trust me. Don't worry about anything just get good grades be yourself and have fun. IT works out in the end.
2006-06-29 02:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by shelley v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
high school sucks, don't take it seriously outside of academics. College is where it's at and where you'll make your real friends. I know people, never partied in high school, no friends, no girls, but the minute they hit college they get a tight knit group of friends, and they get to go to all the parties and dance with the girls. Don't worry, it gets better is the point.
2006-06-29 02:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 22:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by student 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have fun, don't take life so seriously. Don't jump into any serious relationships, and wait 2-3 years before marrying.
2006-06-29 02:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋