what signs did you have that your husband didnt want to be with you anymore?

Question

guys--- how did you act?
ladies- how did your husband change towards you?

Answer 1

first finding fault in everything i do accusing me of running round on him and making sure he is first nothing else counts

Answer 2

I am a fiance of a person I don't want to be with any more but am stuck because of the kids that need me here. My fiance didn't want to accept the fact that I didn't want to be engaged any more and went berzerk, she became very violent and obnoxious. I explained to her that I would rather it be this way now then it hurting worse later. She seemed fine with it at first, then went off, breaking things and the sort being very abusive, I explained to her this was the reason I didn't want to be with her in the first place. She is very unclean, abusive, lazy, doesn't like to go any where, and set in her ways. I knew it wasn't going to work. She went so crazy that I gave in because I still have to be here for the kids that need me. If I weren't here the kids would fall apart and she wouldn't nurse them towards their dreams. If it were up to her they would never do any sports or go any where. I told her that we can talk about things a little. Of course she took that as we are still getting married and we still haven't discussed anything. She never communicates with me about anything and refuses to discuss problems, and God forbid if you mention councelling, she goes berzerk cause she thinks you are calling her crazy. We never have discussions without her taking it to heart and personal, she gets angry and screams even over the little things. What a mess I am in, I'll be lucky if after this I can be with another person because I have 4 more years to endure this because the kids are in school and will need my support to make it all the way. I am 36 now, and then I will be 40. I hope ther is someone out there for me after all of this. I don't speak with her much because I am afraid that she may become offended at some point about something I've said. I am sure she is aware that things aren't the same but she keeps on pretending that things are good. I used to joke around with her a lot, but even that has stopped for fear of the same outcome. I am trying to give her hints and make her give up on the relationship because I have tried that and she was too crazy and ended up trying to use the kids as a crutch. She takes everything out on them when she is angry and I am not around, I have to stay just so they don't get hurt. Those are my reactions. If you don't love someone then if you don't have children get out while you can unless you think that councelling can help renew your love for one another. If you have some communication then it can work. If there is no communication then it won't work. There is no real love where there is no communication.

Answer 3

1. started acting distracted, less conversation, always off in his own thoughts.
2. Less sex and when we did have it it was as if it was just a physical need, not a desire.
3. Critisized instead of complimented me.
4. Started suggesting ways I could change: hair, perfume, clothes.
5. THE BIG 5- THE SLEDGE OVER THE HEAD:A diamond ring
I saw in the box in his brief case and expected to get that month for xmas..........I got a vaccum cleaner. SHE got the ring.

Answer 4

guy response-
there are 5 recognised languages of love ...
when the initial hormone high has gone - anything from 2 months to 5 years max usually- you need to recognise and use the favoured language of your spouse. The 5 are: -
quality time / deeds of service / physical touch / affirming words / giving of gifts.
A man will generally withdraw physically and emotionally - he will also seek a replacement for you so he has a new relationship in the 'honeymoon' phase before exiting his dead one with you -often in a cowardly manner.
Lusting after other girls is absolutely no indicator we are hard wired to be lecherous and shallow.

Answer 5

For me....it was doing everything "but" what we used to do as a couple. Having fun, intamacy, anythything that made us feel what we once had before getting married. But marraige, or any kind of relationship is a two way street and most problems can be fixed by one simple thing. Honesty. If you feel as though your husband has soured. Call him on it!!! Sit him down and talk to him. Dont scream, yell or talk down to him. Just sit him down and talk to him in a calm fashion. Tell him how you feel.

Answer 6

Its a chill in the air! You dont have sex and the talk isnt there and he is not interested in it with you,You would feel rejected and know it by your feelings .Also people tht love you show it thru careing ect.So look dont whine to him about it just with dignity pack up and go on a weekend trip and be good to yourself and get the plan in order ahead of time how to leave so your ready and put your chin up and strut yourself out the door!

Answer 7

1st sign stop showing interest in things we use to do or talk about. 2nd. wants to hang out with his buddies all the time. 3rd. Lusting after women whether it's on tv or out. 4th having sex with you but not reaching climax. 5th changes in clothing, wearing diffrent colonge, eager to leave the house. Literally picks and argument with you over someting petty. To sum it up cold and mean. oh I forgot this is there favorite not returning your calls or answering. Tried to communicate with him and if you do not see a change kick him to the curve. Good Luck

Answer 8

My husband doesn't talk to me. He walks right past me and ignores me. He will tell things to my kids (grown kids) and not tell me such as his work schedule. He spends much time away from home. He says he's at his mothers. Goes there straight from work and spends hours there. I mean like 10-12 hours there and only comes home to sleep. And sometimes he doesn't even do that.

Answer 9

I read them all. They're all right of course. Gracie has it right but I suspect all relationships (or the end of them), are the same. The one thing I didn't see is new underwear. When my bf was messing around, he went out & bought new underwear. As I look back, my exhusband did the same thing. Didn't anyone tell you? ALL MEN are a**es. Just thought you'd like to know.

Answer 10

he went out more often ....made excuses to be away from home...there's a long list...stayed away over night come home in the morning time enough to go to work...did this alot...clothes started disappearing from his closet...come to find out he was having an affair...with an ex next door neighbor who worked at his job.....be careful and look at the signs...have you been married a long time??? it's very painful... i was married 22 yrs... ended in divorce...very nasty....now I'm with someone else for 2 yrs now have a really hard time falling in love.....many bandaids on the heart ..harder to love someone deeply...sorry didn't mean to dump on you....things will happen if we allow them....try communicating more ..suggest counseling...if he really loves you he will want to make things right....good luck