I have been dating this guy for 31/2 years and he gives no sign of a real commitment, should I move on?
2006-06-29 02:25:43 · 17 answers · asked by lilmacsquare1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stop looking for a sign and speak up!!! Sit the guy down tell him how you feel and then give him some time to think about what you've said. Agree that say after about a week or two (hey this is a big decision ya know) you'll both sit down and discuss it further. You'll then know one way or the other. The worst thing you can do is pressure a guy into telling you what you want to hear so be cool about it.
2006-06-29 02:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably move on. My sister dated a wonderful guy for eight years, but never got him to commit. Some people just have problems making a commitment.
2006-06-29 02:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by Norm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you push or coerce him into anything, do you really think that will be a good relationship? I assume you've talked about a permanent commitment with him and he obviously answered something you agreed with or you wouldn't still be with him... unless you are still there out of convenience. Either way, "tricking" him is not a good idea if you want the relationship to be healthy.
2006-06-29 02:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you sit down with me and talk to him..tell him hey we have been together for 3.5 years..I love you but I feel this relationship isn't going anywhere..How do you feel? If he shows no signs or doesn't want to talk about move on..there is someone else better out there..then one day he will realize what a good thing he lost.
2006-06-29 02:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no trick, either he wants to marry you or not. Absolutely you should move on. If after 3 1/2 years he does'nt know that you want to further your bond with him...see ya!! What is his reason for non-commitment?
2006-06-29 02:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't dating for 3.5 years a commitment?
2006-06-29 02:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bitsy Fairview 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3.5 years of relationship doesn't automatically entitle you to marriage. Waiting a bit might allow him to advance in his career or education. Which is a good thing.
Besides, it's unclear what his age is from your question. Marrying a man before age 25 is dicey because he hasn't had a chance to let off steam yet. Auto insurers know this.
Or, perhaps there's another factor. Your situation couldn't be as simple as a one line question.
2006-06-29 02:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On a tv show I saw that the girl said she didn't mind if the guy saw other girls, so then she made sure that she was caught on a date with another guy and her b/f was extremely jealous, so she said then if I stop and commit to you, you had better do the same for me!
2006-06-29 02:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by wroyal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really worth it if you have to trick him into making a commitment? Sounds to me that you want to get married in the worst way. This sounds like the worst way to do it.
2006-06-29 02:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always been a firm believer in the following statement..."If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was." Break it off. If he wants you, he'll come around. If he had no intention of ever moving forward, you'll know and can move on with your life.
2006-06-29 02:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋