2006-06-29 02:15:34 · 13 answers · asked by Shiela 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am married, but for me it was the following.
We both wanted one more child
We are both independant people on our own, but we still felt we needed each other.
We couldn't see anything else for our future except each other.
We rarely fought.
We had no problem taking on each others bills and entering into some of our own together.
There are many things you have to look at, it will be different for everyone. Just depends what is important to you in life and is it the same for the person you want to marry?*
2006-06-29 02:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by kiss me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I always said growing up that I would never get married. I date off and on but that was it. Then a friend of mine set me up on a blind date and that was that; instant attraction. We had a lot in common and shared the same values and likes and dislikes. I wasn't looking for it but found love anyway. We took the time to get to know each other and have been married for over fourteen years. So I would say that compatibility, shared values and respect were the deciding factors.
2006-06-29 02:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by MidwestLady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start meeting interesting people. If there a friend you like, keep the friendship going for a while. Get to know that person better. If you and him/her have things in common, likes, dislikes, and etc.
Maybe help him/her out with some problems they may be dealing with. Show them, you are there by their side thru the good and the bad.
Meet each others family, get to know some of the family members. So you know what kind of bunch your getting your self into. Some people would say, not to shack up with each other. I think it's better living with someone before marriage.
So you know how he/she is going to be like down the road. Some people won't show their true colors, till he/she is alone with you. After some fussing, disagreements, and seeing their true colors. Then I would sit and think about where the relationship is going.
If you see it still going strong after all that time. Then I would stand on my own two feet and marry him/her. But if the road comes to a dead end. Better end it then, then wait till after you are married. It going to hurt then, but it be worse after you had married him/her.
Your mistakes will make you stronger, and give you wisdom to know better. Roads will be twisted, some will be smooth. But whatever path you choose, I hope it brings good luck to you.
2006-06-29 02:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 She must have massive, real and natural breasts.
2 She must be bisexual
3 She must be into swinging
4 She must have lots of bisexual female friends that i could share.
5 She must be very very rich (financially)
6 She must be massively into me in a big, passionate, but not possesive way.
7 She must be intelligent and a good conversationalist.
8 She must be funny and can make me laugh.
9 she must not have, nor want to have children.
10 she must share my taste in music, film and sport.
11 she must love watching and making porn.
All these things would be necessary (in any order, I am not too fussy.) to make me even begin to consider the idea of marrying.
I am married already to a woman I love, that is why this is a list that is impossible for any woman to fulfill, for I am sure that I shall not marry ever again.
2006-06-29 02:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by kenhallonthenet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, First and foremost you must be completely committed with the support of communication between the two of you. If you don't have communication then you might as well hang it up. If you have nothing in common you must find common ground to be able to agree or meet in the middle. Your other half and you should never be afraid to communicate with each other about one anothers feelings, and should never fear your info is all around town.
2006-06-29 02:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by drviands 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one question you need to ask yourself.... Is this person that I am considering marrying my friend? Because at the end of your life, you dont want to be stuck with some one you dont even get along with, just because he/she is pretty/handsome or because the sex is great... Eventually all you will have left is a companion, you'd better make sure they are a good one!
2006-06-29 02:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by hazelbrwneyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be someone you have FUN with. Looks fade, sex diminishes but if you can't have fun together, you have nothing.
Get plenty of counseling from a good pastor. And visit www.eharmony.com to find the perfect person and/or to improve the relationship you already have.
I only got up to pg 17 then the site froze up. I hope you have better luck.
2006-06-29 02:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by happyday_aloha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you are in Love, are both willing to make the commitment, and have similar beliefs, with the person that you are willing to marry.
2006-06-29 02:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by macciacae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to be able to communicate, how comfortable I feel around him( I have to be able to do anything that I would do alone in front of him), atleast decent sex( I could always train him and make it perfect)
2006-06-29 02:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by mommyof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god. Don't do it. if you want kids just have them but don't think marriage has to be a requirement because too many divorces happen today.
2006-06-29 03:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by sweetypie9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋