2006-06-29 02:14:14 · 12 answers · asked by Shiela 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, no. you could stay married to someone who doesn't love you. But I would imagine that sucks. Maybe you just need some time apart, to refresh yourselves. I would definitly try that before I file for divorce.
2006-06-29 02:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by kiss me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put divorce off to the backburner. Get some marriage therpy, rekindle the romance, talk over your problems, spend some time together.
Least you can say, that you and him had given it another chance. Just don't throw your hands up in the air. Thinking no love here, I might as well head out the door. Before you pack your bags, least ask each other , if it worth another try.
If not, then say ya peace and move on from there. Then bring in divorce and get all that done. I hope things turn around for you. If not, then God bless on whatever you do then.
2006-06-29 03:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing. Honesty solves all things when it comes to love. For love the vanish like the way you speak there has to be...has to be a reason for it. Take the time....its worth it. Take the time, sit down and talk it out about why you feel this way and why your spouce might feel the same or different. I am in a very similar situation and my wife either does not want to talk about it or when i bring it up gets so pissed off she yells and screams till i leave to room. Is divorce the answer....look at the divorce rates in this country. They would say yes....but i still think that when you love someone, you have to do everything in your power to make it right.
2006-06-29 02:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not love eachother any more but have admiration for eachother then yes divorce is the way to go. There is a thing called divorce mediation and it is when there are no contestments and you can divorce in a nice thearputic way. you can not stay married if you have no love for eachother anymore and feel like there is another person out there to fill the void. You can do it very nicely though through this program.
2006-06-29 02:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by blondiebella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
story from the little box:-
It's meaningful....
Once upon a time, there was a teacher and his student
lying down under a big tree near a big grass area.
Then, suddenly, the student asked the teacher,
Student : Teacher, I'm confused, how can we find our soul-mate?
Could you please help me?
Teacher : (Silent for few second, than he answered)
Well, it's a pretty hard and easy question.
Student : (Thinking hard) Huh???
Teacher : Look on that way, there are a lot of grass
there, why don't you walk there but please never walk
backward, just walk straight ahead. On your way, try
to find a beautiful grass and pick it up then give it to me. But just one.
Student : Well, ok then... wait for me... (walked straight ahead to the grass field).
A few minutes later...
Student : I'm back.
Teacher : Em, well I don't see any beautiful grass on your hand
Student : On my journey, I found few beautiful grass,
but I thought that I would find a better one, so I didn't pick it up.
But I didn't realize that I'm at the end of the field, and I hadn't
picked up any. Because you told me not to go back, so I didn't go
back.
Teacher : That's what happened in real life.
What is the message of this story?
* Grass - is people around you
* Beautiful Grass - is people that attract you
* Grass Field - is time
* In looking for your soulmate, please don't always
compare and hope that there will be a better one. By
doing that, you'll waste your lifetime, cause remember..
"Time Never Goes Back".
It applies the same in finding your ideal life
partner, your suitable career or business, therefore
the morale is LOVE & grab hold of the opportunity
that you have now, don't waste time!
2006-06-29 02:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by idiotguidebook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you have tried everything possible. Counseling is a good source to try. But only if both are willing to give 100%. We all reach points in our lives and relationships when we feel that we dont want to be with someone or do something. Marriage isnt a peice of cake. It takes lots of work to make it work.
2006-06-29 03:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by the_saint1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is never the only solution, but it's the most-often picked solution.
2006-06-29 02:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-29 02:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by ladyren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is hard and divorce isn't always the answer. do you have kids together, have you tried counseling? have you went off to spend some time together? it's just not that simple as your question states. it's not the only answer though, make sure you try to work things out first. marriage vows should not be entered into lightly.
2006-06-29 03:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, stay with the person that you no longer love and who no longer loves you. Let the resentment build and the hate start to grow. Let their be times when you look at that person and you cannot stand the sight of them. Go to bed with this person and wish you had the guts to smother them with a pillow. Deal with the affairs and the fighting. Grow old, bitter and wonder where your life and happiness went. Sure, why not?!
2006-06-29 02:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋