I am wanting to know when does life really start? I have been out of highschool for a little over a year now and I don't feel like I am really going anywhere with my life. I have very overprotective parents who JUST let me have my drivers license, I am 19 by the way! I have no friends now because I haven't been able to drive and meet new people for over a year. Even though I have my license my parents still won't let me drive just wherever...I cant even drive at night. I have not been able to do a lot of things in my life that regular people have done. I have never been trick or treating with friends, I have only been to maybe 3 parties, etc. What can I do to make my parents lighten up on me? They are so afraid of letting me go because they don't want me to be killed or hurt or whatever. The only problem I am having is with the lack of friends and fun I already feel dead. Can anyone help me with my problems? Any suggestions would be appreciated. Serious answers only.
2006-06-29 02:05:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have moved out before. 4 hours away! I thought it would loosen them up on me but it did not. I was robbed by my roomate so I was forced to coe back home. I also do have a job but I do not make enough to pay for my own place and make payments on my car. I would get a roommate but I cannot find one since I never get to c people anymore...
2006-06-29 02:07:38 · update #1
I do live way in the country away from all civilization so I do have to have a car. I would give all of my luxuries I have for freedom. I would give it all up: my cell phone, my new car, privacy, etc. it would be worth it... you do not know how bad i need freedom. Oh, and 2 cents, I am sorry for your loss. I know it can be a dangerous place "out there" but I will never know unless I get to see for myself. I believe that you must be able to actually make mistakes to learn from them. No one can learn from someone elses mistakes...it just is not the same because then you would not have learned what it feels like to suffer the consequences yourself...
2006-06-29 02:51:57 · update #2
It is hard for parents to let go of their kids, especially in the dangerous times we live in. I am a parent, I know. You need to talk to you're folks and tell them how you feel. Make sure that they know that you understand that it's because they love you that they act like this but make it clear that you need to explore and 'find your feet' in this world. They can not protect you forever. Do you have a job? If not get one, even if it's just part time to start of with. This will help you to meet some people and will get your folks used to the idea of you being on your own and doing your own thing. Good luck love.
2006-06-29 02:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by SweetyPie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need 2 find a better paying job and move out! Or u r going 2 be like that 4 the rest of ur life. People make it all the time by them self's U don't have any kids 2 pay 4 so get out now and get on with ur life u cant let them do this 2 u. GO out and start meeting people good luck!
2006-06-29 09:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by nicole_252006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like you have lived a very sheltered life. What are you doing with yourself now. Are you working or going to college or both?
It is important for you to find you own identity as you are now an adult. Since you are living with in your parents house, they have the right to set the rules for the house. The have been this way all of your life and you won't be able to get them to change their ways.
You should really think about want you want to do with yourself. What things do you like? If you don't know, you have some exploring to do. This can happen by getting a full-time job, or exploring different subjects at your local community college. If college isn't for you, you could look in to some technical or vocational programs in your area. The important thing is that you do something that will grow you into adulthood.
At age 19, you should be starting to make you own decisions about where you want your life to go, with guidance of course. If your parents are seriously holding you back, you should think about supporting yourself and moving out on your own. You need to learn who you are and what you hope to accomplish in life.
You need to think about applying for financial aid so that you can get training in something that will increase your salary. If you can't afford to live on your own now, how will you in the future unless you get a second job or get skilled in something find a higher paying job.
Do you live in a town were you can't get around unless you have a car? You are putting money into a car but you can't afford to live on your own. If you can, you should sell your car and then buy on that you didn't have to make montly payments on.
Your parents are tough; just accept it and move on. They will always be this way. There is nothing that you are going to say to them to convience them to change. Just love them for who they are.
Your problem now is that you have to be secure that you can make it on your own and you don't need your parents approval for everything.
If you do get another roomate. Let it be someone you know and trust and even then, put a lock on your room door and don't give out personal information.
You have to stop looking at all that has gone wrong in you life and start focusing on where you want your life to go. If you keep dwelling on your problems, problems are all you will see and all you will have.
2006-06-29 09:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to get away from your parents bad .. What do they have to do with the way you run your life.. they think you can't make it on your own after coming back after such a short period of time ..you say you are paying for your car then you can come and go any time you like .. met new friends and have fun.. You are 18 aren't you, if not you will have to wait you are not considered an adult until then.. I hope this helps..
2006-06-29 09:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by ralphtheartist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well life really starts the day you were born, if you went to school then you would have friends and you can just start hanging round them and when you go to college you will learn a lot school and college are the best places where you learn a lot in life, and there it maKES AND BREAKS OF YOUR LIFE WILL HAPPEN
2006-06-29 09:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by stoned69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you have damn GOOD parents! appreciate them and their protectiveness, ask them for ways to help you transition into a man, as u are still a boy in a sense, not to insult u or your maturity, but u DO have LOTS to learn yet at the young age of 19, especially since youve been sheltered.
maybe ask them to help u find a job, or some activity to get involved in.
at this stage in ur life, its tough learning how to grow up, and just as tough for ur parents to let u do that, as they love u and want to protect u, and its their job!
my son left home at 17 because we couldnt get along, and he ended up murdered at 19, ur age. i miss him MORE than words can express and have MANY MANY regrets! one day when ur fully enveloped in life's bs, u will wish u could climb back under the security of your parents wing, trust me!
i think true living comes when u have learned enough lessons to make good choices and enjoy the fruits of those choices
food for thought...
-know who u are
-know where ur going (goals/dreams)
-know HOW ur gonna get there (a plan to meet ur goals)
-know that u dont need a relationship to complete u (self esteem)
the choices u make right now as such a young man have the potential of affecting the rest of your life, allow ur parents to help u make good choices, but explain to them that ur itching to explore life, to see whats out there, to grow into a man. the sad thing about this age is that u (young adults in general) feel invinsible, and believe they have all the answers...
sweetie, ur not invinsible, none of us are at ANY age! nor do any of us ever have all the answers... life is trial and error, we will always make mistakes as we learn to walk, grow and explore all that life offers, LEARN from ur mistakes and from choices u make that dont pan out the way u want them to, if it doesnt work one way try another till u get a positive outcome
PLEASE talk to your parents, no one here can REALLLY help u, as we are only strangers behind a screen, and there WILL be those ppl online that will try to lure u into making bad choices. ur parents KNOW u, KNOW whats best for you, and WANT what is best for you.
COMMUNICATION IS KEY!
love and understanding from a stranger who knows all too well how tough life can be.
PEACE
2006-06-29 09:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by 2 cents 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life started the day you were born... make the most of things and stop looking for "meaning" in everything
2006-06-29 09:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
birth
2006-06-29 09:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by jmharley79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go out and make something happen live life
2006-06-29 09:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you DECIDE to live it.
2006-06-29 09:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋