Is a man supposed to react or not when his wife is 'not mad'?
2006-06-29 02:01:41 · 21 answers · asked by DaddyBoy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I guess I was moody last night...I apologized before going to bed. This morning she ranted on me when I gave her a good morning hug. I just took it and sat silently (in past arguments I had agreed to not fight with her prior her going to work). Then I wish her a good day and suggest we not fight and put it behind...then comes the 'not mad' and 'not fighting' from her.
2006-06-29 02:17:15 · update #1
well when I tell my husband "i am not fighting" it is usually followed by a...."with you anymore". Meaning I am tired of talking about it. And of course usually he keeps on talking about it. Have you heard the song "i just want to be mad for awhile"? She is probably in the getting over being mad stage... I am guessing you did something for her to be mad of course. and as far as not knowing why she is mad dont pry it out of her. I have been married for 10 years and I know that your "not knowing" probably means it is something very bad that you were hiding and are still trying to deny even though she obviously knows. if she ask dont lie that makes it 100 times worse.
2006-06-29 02:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Too bad the two of you don't know how to negotiate differences, and instead fight ...really childish. Learn how to negotiate -- read a book called The Assertive Option -- get it cheap on Amazon.com, paperback. Learn how each of you can get issues out in the open without going into an adversarial position of accusing...... Good luck
2006-06-29 02:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by ladyren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are. Pry it out of her. If you don't ask like a million times she will think you don't care. That is not good. That will only make her madder. Send her flowers at work. Say she looked sad/angry/upset. Make sure she knows that you care if she is mad/upset. That's all you have to do. Trust me, I know how this works. I am a woman and I've done this to my boyfriend before. Luckily he now knows how to react!
2006-06-29 02:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by impossible 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT....!!!
Its a trap dude....when she says she's not mad what she is sayinf is she IS...i REPEAT IS, pissed off and is setting up the ropes and waiting for you to step in the circle and then...SNAP, you'lll find yourself hanging from a tree. She is pissed off about something and wants you to figure it out yourself....so do just that. Sit down and think about what you could have done. With a woman in your life...it can be just about anything. What i do....is a wait a few days, i buy her flowers and i tell her i dont know what i did wrong, but im sorry and if you can tell me what it is we can get beyond it.
This way....i step...AROUND the trap
2006-06-29 02:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...from a woman's perspective here: "I'm not mad" is the equivalent to "you have majorly p*ssed me off and if you say another word to me I will rip your face off and feed it to the dog!". Let her calm down. You evidently really pushed her buttons...she's been stewing all night. Let that boiling vat come down to room temperature before approaching again. Feel out her mood before you start talking when she gets home....if that pot is still boiling, do NOT go poking around 'cause she'll blow! Approach with caution my friend...she is like a bear with a sore a**.
2006-06-29 05:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be something is bothering her and she wants you to ask her what is wrong? Have you had marital problems or have you been arguing? I usually tell my husband this after we have had a disagreement to let him know we are back to normal. That I am letting go the argument. That I just need to talk. I would just ask her what you can do to help her?
2006-06-29 02:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you mad honey?
"It's nothing, don't worry about it"
BEWARE! Fight is coming up and the "it's nothing" means is something, and the "don;t worry about it" means worry about it because she is going to download a big one on you...
Don't wanna be you dude.....
2006-06-29 02:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's mad as hell!!!
better think back on what you did and make it up big time! don't ask her why she is mad or that will start another argument!!
2006-06-29 08:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are fireworks in your future. Get ready for anything. What did you do? Something is up, and you need to find out what it is.
2006-06-29 02:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by In Honor of Moja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude.your screwed............you did something.that either you think she didn't find out about or you forgot something like a holiday, anniversary or left the toilet seat up. better call her and find out.with out provoking.
2006-06-29 02:06:07 · answer #10 · answered by answering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋