losing babies?

Question

how do we ever get over losing a baby cause i just lost one and dont quite know how to cope with it at all

Answer 1

That is so sad, I feel for you. It is a traumatic experience. You will get through it but grieving is different for everyone. Stay strong and try your best to stay busy and let this run it's course.Bless you.

Answer 2

It's an interesting query really, people assume that u get over it just like you would if u lost a parent or someone older. The only similarity is that you have a 'loss' and nothing will bring that little person back. It's a harsh reality but bereavement counselling is very good as it allows you to talk about the pain, and it's not the answer but it is a starting point.

U never get over losing a child, you dont expect them to go before you. Rest assured your little one is in a greater place where there is peace and he/she is waiting for you. It's all about embracing that pain not shielding yourself from it and yes it is a very raw and open wound but time is a great healer-- as i'm sure you've already heard.

Take your time let it out and consider counselling. Thats about all you can do

Take care x

Answer 3

I'm so sorry for your loss. My best friend had a similar situation. She lost 3 babies, had her daughter, and then last year she got pregnant again but lost that baby in her 6th month of pregnancy. The doctors have run TONS of tests but are unable to give her an answer which makes her very hesitant to get pregnant again. She was in shambles for the first 6 months or so but is slowly coming around. Try to focus on how lucky you are to have your daughters but at the same time give yourself time to heal. I'm sure the anniversary will always be hard as it would be with any mother that has lost a child. Be strong for your children but give yourself a break too! I wish you all the luck and strength in the world!

Answer 4

my daughter-in-law lost quite a few babies ,to many to mention causing loads of heart ache, eighteen months ago they had i.v.f. treatment and the results was healthy twins a boy and a girl the pain passes a keep and look out when you go outside i bet you will see a lot of butterfly's about you,think of them as the sole of your lost little one just saying hello to you ,you will get you're baby one day keep trying it will come good luck,

Answer 5

As I don't have children yet I cannot begin to understand the pain you are feeling right now.

Talk about it with your partner, thats what they are there for, to support each other.

I hope that with time the pain begins to ease.

Crispy Chicken, this actually sounds like a serious question and isn't the place for your joke.

Answer 6

sorry for your loss.
the old saying is the big helper here "time heals all wounds" do your grieving in whatever way you want and dont think about others feelings its yours that matter for the time being.
Try with all your might to avoid the chemical ways of dealing with the loss IMHO they will not help in the long run.

Answer 7

It's hard, you had so many plans for that little life. When I lost my baby I named her (I just had a feelling it was a girl) and said my goodbyes. My dad has passed away several years before, so I asked him to take care of her. It helped me.

Answer 8

I don't know and I cannot imagine the pain you are feeling. I do hope you manage to cope with it. Big hugs and a hail mary from me for what they are worth.

Answer 9

so sorry to hear of ur loss hun. had the same myself almost 2 yrs ago and i still buy a birthday and sympathy card every yr. im not sure u ever 100% get over it but u learn to deal with it. ppl saying "its one of those fings" dont help but seems to b a common response. chin up hun. it does get easier. x

Answer 10

Eating a diet that stresses protein (poultry and fish are best, unless you are a vegetarian and then soy is very good), low glycemic carbohydrates (look up a glycemic index) and good fat (olive oil for cooking, almonds or peanuts for snacking), may ease you during this stressful time.

My thoughts are with you.