Ok, this is a really corny question but is it really that bad to fall for a friend? Most of my friends are male but lately ive been liking a certain one in a different way from the rest....i know this could end in tears but i've just begun to realise what a nice guy he is - i was pretty down a few weeks ago cause i'd ended things with my boyfriend and he was really there for me, he even sat with me at this awesome party just cheering me up for about an hour. I'm pretty sure this isn't just a crush - i feel i've really 'learnt to love him' (i've known him for about 3 years). Theres always been rumours flying around that he likes me or i like him but lately im starting to see some truth in it. It seems like he could be into me but maybe im just reading things wrong. Is this a mistake? I've had a bad experience with a male friend in the past, so should i learn from my mistakes or just go for it?
2006-06-29 01:52:49 · 13 answers · asked by Me, nobody else but me.... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
we all went through the same age, the same situations, the same types of friends... i mean, only the time and the place might be different but the thing is... we share the same adventures!
i had a friend-girl that really was there for me everytime i had problems (especially with the heart). to make the long story short, i ended up falling for her so i courted her and she became my girlfriend. soon, i found out we had a lot of things against each other. so with regards to compatibility, on a scale of 1 to 10, i would give it a 3! so we ended up parting ways. and you know what? things were never the same with us again, even as friends.
then, i had another friend-girl that too was with me everytime i feel down especially when i broke up with the gf i was talking about earlier.
call me anything you want... but again, i fell for her. she was really nice, but i thought, i don't to loose another friend. but because i really wanted her, i said to myself.."GO FOR IT!" and so i did, and she became my gf. but this time, before really going deeper into our relationship, i gave extra time and effort to know her better.
so, our thing went for 6 months and we both found out we are not meant for each other. but because i was very cautious of how to treat her and all... our break-up was not so bad and we ended up... friends again.
you are a smart girl. you know what i mean by my experience. take your man!!! but be very extra careful not to ruin that precious friendship you now have with him, even though if he becomes your bf.
goodluck girl!!!
2006-06-29 02:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ross 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you feel like these are real feelings then I say go for it. But you also need to ask yourself if something happened between the two of you will you still remain friends. Some people say that you have to be friends before lovers and most of the time that is the case. If you feel comfortable with him and him with you maybe you should give it a try. Just ask him if he wants to go to a movie with you or dinner or whatever and let it be just you two and just tell him how you feel. Ask him if he feels this way as well. Even though you made a mistake in the past this one might just be the one. I would go for it. I mean you live and learn right. But if the same thing happens to you that happened last time I don't think that I would go out with my friends anymore. But you should definitely go for it.
2006-06-29 02:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely take it slow. Remember, you just got out of a relationship and the feelings you may be having for your friend could be rebound feelings. I have been through that before and in the end, you are both sorry for ruining your friendship. However, if you take it slow and get to know him alot and wait a few months before taking any serious steps, you might just be right, you might totally be into eachother and want to take your friendship to a more serious level. Either way, definitly take it slow and think things thru. GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-29 02:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. He's your friend, you know his personality so you should have an idea of what he might say. But, if you value your friendship with him more than you would a relationship it is better to stay friends. You did say you been through this before so you have an idea what it entails when you go from friends to lovers. I've been in a similar situation and staying friends was the route I went, the guy and I have now been best friends for 13 years.
Good Luck!
2006-06-29 01:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen too many of my friends make that mistake ...and what u said in your letter u have learned to love him u should not learn to love anyone ....Dateing a friend is not good because when it ends u are not the the same u will no longer be close like how u were ..the friendship will be no longer don't cross boundries ..
2006-06-29 02:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by charleen r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a dangerous situation. If you both like each other then go out with each other BUT what happens when you break up? That's when things start to get messy, you might not even be friends with him again or you might not be as close as you are with him now. It's your decision, i hope you make the right choice!
2006-06-29 01:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your in a good difficulty as of what to do. Ask him how lengthy he has to opt for about his "different" courting & see what he says. because you in person-friendly words do not opt to sit down round for months liking a guy even as there's a lot of robust men available that you will be playing. i'd ask him how lengthy you're able to attend to get an answer & if he says some months, flow out & have some interesting with someone esle.
2016-10-13 22:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by student 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go for it..
If you think you liked him now.. dont think twice anymore.. show him what you feel on him..It's always better to have found the courage to love even if you lose it in the end rather than never finding love bcoz you were too afraid to face it's challenges..Remove your doubts and trust your heart..Remember only few find love.. Don't let lose the magic while it's there...
2006-06-29 02:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by @>-VyNe--- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should keep ur friends just friends cuz if things dont work out....being friends will never be how it used to be and u guys will prob just grow apart...
2006-06-29 01:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by socalsonja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its worth taking a chance but be careful about the words u use to describe ur feelings to him.
2006-06-29 01:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by knu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋