When does life really start?

Question

I am wanting to know when does life really start? I have been out of highschool for a little over a year now and I don't feel like I am really going anywhere with my life. I have very overprotective parents who JUST let me have my drivers license, I am 19 by the way! I have no friends now because I haven't been able to drive and meet new people for over a year. Even though I have my license my parents still won't let me drive just wherever...I cant even drive at night. I have not been able to do a lot of things in my life that regular people have done. I have never been trick or treating with friends, I have only been to maybe 3 parties, etc. What can I do to make my parents lighten up on me? They are so afraid of letting me go because they don't want me to be killed or hurt or whatever. The only problem I am having is with the lack of friends and fun I already feel dead. Can anyone help me with my problems? Any suggestions would be appreciated. Serious answers only.

OK I have moved out before. I was robbed by my roomate and they left in the middle of the night, so I had to come back home. I thought that the move would help them loosen up on me but it didnt. I was even 4 hours away from them!

Answer 1

Do you have a job? Or are you going to college? I would suggest going away for college, at least 20 minutes away. Your parents will physically have less control over you because you will be on your own and be able to do as you wish. You will also meet tons of people in college and obviously it is good way to find yourself and figure out what kind of career you want. You are 19, a legal adult. You have every right to make your own decisions now. The sooner you break away, the sooner your *own* life can start. Good luck!

Answer 2

Have you tried sitting down and having a serious conversation with your parents concerning how you feel about things? If not, talk to them. Tell them how you are feeling and that you feel their over-protectiveness is affecting your life in a negative way.
Will you be going to college? If so, stay in the dorm. Yes, it will cost more money, but it allows you to be on your own with out your parents looking over your shoulder all the time.
Explain to your parents that you are an adult now and that you would like to start making the decisions that affect you life for yourself. Tell them that they have nothing to worry about because they have done a fantastic job raising you, and you know right from wrong and how to make the right decisions when faced with a tough choice. Then, make the right choices.
If this does not work, then I guess the only options you have are to continue to endure, or move out. Get a job, find a roommate, and share living expenses. Good luck.

Answer 3

Well saying "overprotective" is an understatement. I can't believe your parents treat you this way. It's good that you recognize that they are trying to keep you safe, not punish you. But they need to realize that to you it feels like punishment in a way. You should save up some money and move out when you can. Not only will this show them how responsible you are, but they will also understand that you need to make your own decisions and will respect you as an adult as well as their child. I moved out the day after I graduated at 17 and got married at 19.

Answer 4

Life starts when you let it start. It sounds like you have led a very sheltered life and maybe baby-steps are in order to get you out and living. You can try sitting down with your parents and talking to them about how you feel and see if they can allow you a little more room to grow. You are an adult now and do not have to continue living under your folks house and rule. If they are unwilling to compromise get a job, move out & on. In order for you to grow into a functioning adult they must allow you to experience life. They can not protect you and lock you away from the world your whole life. Take a stand, be brave and get out there and LIVE.....Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

Hey Buddy you dont need to be sad i tell you you think that your parents are very over protected ....no my dear friend they had seen the world more than you they know the things that are going on in this world thatisfy the are so scared ..just because they love you a lot ...you think that to go ourside is life no my friend life is what you can live anywhere at home or at anywhere just to think that how can you live your life when you are at home and try to be machure so your parents can see that now you can handle yourself .....try to take your parents confidence...

Answer 6

Life is start when the moment you are born.Peoples are surrounding with many responsibilities since they born.No matter is kids,teenagers or adults,no one can ran for their responsibility.You are only 19,i can say that this is the most beautiful and happy stage.You should try to enjoy you life fully and do learn something.Your parents won't let you drive is just because they scared you will hurt,they really love you.Maybe you will feel that this is annoying,but try to accept this.As for the friends, convinced and proved to them you are able to take care and know what to do,i think they can surely understand.Let me tell you:You life is start when you really enjoy it.19 years old is the most freedom and beautiful time for you,do enjoy your life,don't leave any regret to your life.You are the owner of your life!!!!!GOOD LUCK!!!!!

Answer 7

First of all, be happy with what you have. Next, you should talk to your parents and convince them that you are quite responsible now (unless you have already tried to do that). Finally, relax. You have a long life ahead of you, and by that time, you can make hundreds of friends. Don't think that you have to have everything other people have. There are other people in this world who don't even have this much.

Answer 8

Get a job and pay for your own car and work out a deal with them tell them that they are totally overprotective. But if you still go trick or treating then they deserve to control you and if you dont go to collage then you are staying in their possesion and they can treat you any way they choose. But I definatly can tell they are overprotective by the way they gave you the license and you are out of high school. Good Luck!!!!!
*****D-MO*****

Answer 9

Life begins at the creation of the Universe.. based on the Theory Matter cannot be destroyed only it's form is changed.

Answer 10

Inform your parents of your feelings. It sounds like they are oppressing you and you should be able to lead your own life. My best advice is to go away, far away, to college and take classes year-round so that you don't have to move home every summer.