I hav a girlfriend and she is now in CHINA.. she is 1month working there.. and now she said that she is 2 months pregnant and she also said that the baby are twins... after a few weeks she said that our baby is gone because it died on her womb because of stress... how should i know that she is not lying to me??? is it possible that she just create a story to me so that i will be worried??? pls help me coz all my entire family was expected to much for our baby and now she said that our baby died..,, how should i know that she is telling the truth... i beg you all for help......
2006-06-29 01:25:43 · 15 answers · asked by HOT_ICE 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My advice would be to tell her to be completely honest and if you still think she's lying, dump her. If she cant be honest with you, thats not the type of person I'd want to have a baby with!! Sounds like shes playing games with you.
2006-06-29 01:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by April T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think she's lying, chances are she probably is.
If she lost the babies, she would have medical documentation of this. And if she was pregnant with twins, the only way that that could have been confirmed was by ultrasound. Again, medical documentation. No voodoo or guesswork in the world could make up such a story.
And not only that, it is highly unlikely that she would lose both twins.
I'm currently pregnant with twins, and I was told that although I had a high chance of losing one of the twins, losing both twins at once is a lower risk as long as I don't get into a car accident or something.
So if she can't provide the medical documentation, you really should be looking for a new girl as this one's completely nuts.
2006-06-29 01:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two possibilities. She lied to keep you on a tight leash while she was in CHINA. That's a good bet. The best way to be sure she is full of it is to call a doc and find out if you can know you are having twins at only 2 months along. If she did lie, then I would not trust her on any other point with her story. Nothing. Better off without her and her head games. (Think back, did she play head games when you were together? Was she really REALLY worried you would cheat or leave her while she was away?)
Second, she is telling the truth and was pregnant. Well, then you need to question your relationship. Do you cheat and worry she is a liar? Does she have reason to worry? Is she the kind of girl you think would get pregnant on purpose?
I know lots won't like this, but in this day and age it's nearly impossible to get pregnant if you use all the bc you have at your disposal. Between the pill and condoms and gels etc, it's mighty hard to get preggo. Maybe she WANTS to get preggo. Maybe you are one of those guys who allows the total control of your future (letting her choose how careful she is going to be, if YOU are going to have a kid for the rest of your life) just because you are in love.
I say abstain till marriage. But that's not everyone's choice. If you are going to have sex, take TOTAL precautions YOURSELF. If you leave it up to a woman, totally up to her, because you are blinded by love or 'they cut off all feeling' etc...then you MUST be prepared to find out you are having a baby and nothing can stop it.
2006-06-29 01:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 20% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage and that result is even more common in multiple pregnancies (twins, triplets, etc). China is an especially hard place for pregnant women because of the one child rule, on the spot workplace exams and a hostile atmosphere toward unwed pregnancies.
Where I would be suspicious is in her claim that stress made the miscarriage happen. That could be her opinion, it could be what and auntie or grandma said, but it is not a medical reason. In 80% of miscarriages, no one knows why it happens except that congenital damage to the fetus (that no one knows about or prevent) is the usual cause.
That said, you sound very young, very inexperienced and you told us that you are unmarried. I am terribly sorry for your loss, but I hope you do become a father when your life conditions (and your girlfriend's life) make you better able to care for a child.
2006-06-29 01:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by baggyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to question something so serious, than why would you be with her?If you dont trust her word than why would you trust her with the most important thing you own??? your heart?
Telling someone that you are pregnant and than that you lost the baby is enought to tramatize them for life!
I dont think there is a way to find out if she was lying to you. She must have a job as a story writer or something cause it would take alot to make up some sick story like that,.. So maybe she is not lying to you?
Good luck buddy!
2006-06-29 01:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, it's hard to say. but, she said pregnant with twins then lost the baby. one...i do know of a girl that did the same thing. said she was, the mysteriously miscarried. she didn't either but she was trying to keep the bf around longer. it's games and not right.
ask for something from the hospital, doctors record or something like that. if she gets mad, then too bad. you deserve to know the truth of it all! if she's being straight then she has nothing to worry about. just tell her you're going through denial and want to see it for yourself! you deserve the truth!
2006-06-29 02:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by thundakat312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is believed in other areas, she can be believed in this.
Is she a game player? Does she seek attention?
You'll know when she returns. She called it twins, but then said the baby is gone (singular). ?
Wear protection next time.
2006-06-29 01:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by cowgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't find her story believable. However, if she did miscarry after two months, she would have had to have medical care. Tell her that you want to see copies of her medical bills or records.
Other than that, I think you would have to go to her and see for yourself. Or, ask her close acquaintances that are where she is living.
Good luck!
2006-06-29 01:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by treefrog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know if she would be able to create a story like that or you wouldnt be worried about it i say go with your gut tells you its usually right .and if its is true and you think shes capable of telling a story like that maybe u shouldnt be with her
2006-06-29 02:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that your not doing so good.. I think that your GF is lying if she was only two months and found out that she was having twins it is to soon for her to have known...
2006-06-29 01:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tinkerbell24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋