Since june 2004 i have been taking care of my nephew because my sister abuse him, he is 2 years old. Social Services in PUerto Rico gave me legal custodia, but my father and my step mother want to adopt him so i can live my life, I am 24, i had to quit my job and school to take care of him. i love him to death, my father recive ssi and he said that if i give him to them my nephew will recived SSI, i still have not been albe to find a job, because of the hours and day care, i wont to go to north carolina with my brother but he tells me that where he lives i need a car and day care is a lot of money. My mother lives in New York City but my nephew mother lives with her and i cant go where she is at. Helppppppppppppp
2006-06-29 01:18:49 · 10 answers · asked by pooh_lrh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you can still spend time with your nephew and be part of his life while he is in your father and step-mother's care, maybe that's the way to go. I know the decision must be very difficult. You are young and you've done a great thing in taking on the responsibility of caring for the boy, but you don't have to berate yourself if you take the opportunity your father offers. Weigh the pros and cons, and the reality of your finances and ability to care for him, and do what's best for your nephew. I can tell from your actions already, and your question, that you will do just that. Good luck with everything! :)
2006-06-29 01:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by JStrat 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that is fantastic that you want to take this baby into your spouse and youngsters, notwithstanding it would not sound like the desirable situation for the baby or your quickly to be born baby. it is going to no longer be stated to have man made twins, this is type of what this toddler and your new toddler will be. that is difficult for them to get sufficient interest, and also i am going to't imagine the followed baby no longer feeling slightly 2d to the bio baby given the situations. i'd imagine the girl might want to stumble on a extra efficient situation with a kin that don't have the complications you've pronounced. per chance you could help her locate yet another adoption situation that could be extra efficient for each of the little ones in contact. If she is going to make an adoption plan she will be in a position to favor distinct help and tht may be the right position for you to assist.
2016-11-29 23:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by sturtevant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I can help on this one. you move in with your father and your nephew move in. That way someone should all ways be home to watch the nephew. Since pop is on ssi, and if you want to visit, other in the u.s. then you could and you could help you dad and his wife with money when you get a job and buy a car.
2006-06-29 01:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by houtexknights330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your father and stepmother are decent people who would love and provide for him, that's an option. However, it's not the only option. Remember, the best decision is what's best for the child.
It is most important to get him in a stable, loving, nurturing home immediately! If you love him you will let the authorities select the best parents.
2006-06-29 01:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by jcfeola3@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your father wants to adopt him, you should thank him from the bottom of your heart and let him. Boys need a father, and I'm sure you're a good mother for him, but obviously you have issues, and just think of whats best for the boy. Bless you for being who you are.
2006-06-29 01:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by kimmyisahotbabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a decision you need to think about carefully and decide for yourself. Do not let people who you never met here on Yahoo Answers make such a life altering decision such as this! ! ! !
2006-06-29 01:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Answers Anyone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what is best for the both of you. you need to ask what you can provide a child if you cannot further your education and how he would benefit from you going to school. he should have a positive role model in you.
2006-06-29 01:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by KARA G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would put him into a temporary foster home until you can provide for him.He needs to be safe and secure.
2006-06-29 01:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you have to do. Is it going to be better for him for your parents to raise him, or will he get more from you?I would say let him go with your parents and get your life back on track.
2006-06-29 01:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all of the answers are in the question. if i asked you the same question, how would you respond? Sounds like the adoption is in tyhe best interest of both...
2006-06-29 01:27:46 · answer #10 · answered by herestill2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋