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2006-06-29 00:34:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Because I don't what to get killed.
There are a lot of mean / scary / judgemental / narrow-minded people out there who are much stronger than me and could easily kick the **** out of me!
*Jokes*
I'm just glad I don't live in the States!
I've been out since I was 8 years old [with my friends anyway]. I never came out to my family though, and don't intend to. My mothers is [in her own words] "digusted" by displays of affection among same-sex couples. She's a complete homophobe. ...I'm certain there were suspicians when I went from vegetarian to vegan back in high school, and used to "sleep-over" at my female friend's place every friday night haha :-], never seeing guys and rarely bringing male friends home was another big giveaway. It was fairly obvious come to think of it, but I suppose she was and still is in denial. I guess I don't tell her to her face because she doesn't want to hear it and I don't care to share it.
2006-06-29 00:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by Peter Pan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because my family is traditional and conservative. Not only that my sister (and her family) are born-again christians, and my brother is a homophobe. I do not wish to be condemned for being different, esp. my sister... she'll probably preach non-stop that homosexuality is a sin and it's the work of the devil, etc. and most likely will quote the entire bible to me, which I am actually avoiding. So I just keep quiet when there are homophobic remarks going on in conversations. I know it's pathetic but that's my life right now. =o(
Another reason why I'm still in the closet is fear. Fear of being disowned and rejected. I guess that's the main thing. However, I was supposed to come out to my (other) sis but I felt it just wasn't the time yet. I'm thinking abt coming out to my (other) bro a few times, but I always chicken out. I just need to muster the courage to do it. They say even if u tell one family member or one soul, it will be freeing... I will definitely come out but not today, maybe when the time is right and when I'm really really ready.
2006-06-30 18:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by mags 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course being GLBT is something that's condisered "different" It's not something that's accepted by all. A lot of people may keep quiet about it to avoid drama. When I was younger, I ALWAYS knew I liked women. It was all innocent then. Hell, I was so young that I didn't even know there was something "different" about me. I liked girls and I acted out on it. When I was in the 4th grade, that's when I realized that me being a girl and liking other girls was out of the "norm" It was the first time I heard the word gay, proceeded by an EWWWW. It was during recess when I expressed I had a crush on a female class mate. That's when I learned all the negativity that followed this. I actually asked my teacher about it when we got back to class. She pretty much brushed me off by telling me that I was gonna grow up, marry a nice man, have lots of children and live in a big house with a white fence...That's not what I wanted to hear. Anyway, from then on, my innocence had been taking away. I still liked girls, but it was difficult for me. Being so young, I thought there was something wrong with me. Like I wasn't right..Like I was retarded or something...Feeling like this, you're not gonna be jumping for joy, willingly telling everyone that you're"different" I am now 24, and I'm now out to everyone. Even on the job and everywhere else...It's not something that I flaunt, but if it comes up, I don't deny it. I have not have not ONE negative confrontation yet. Actually seems like when I tell people they tend to like me more...And yes, this is coming from a girl in the south. Alabama to be exact.
2006-06-29 02:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by mesofemme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't keep it secret, but I did. I kept it secret even from myself because I didn't want to know.
Why does anyone keep any secret? Out of fear -- in this case, fear of what the world will think, fear of losing a job, fear of losing loved ones, fear of... whatever one fears could happen, since everyone is actually unique.
Most people, obviously, are not GLB or T, so there is a problem with conforming to how most of the world is -- and the world can get very angry with people who don't fit in. Not only is there name-calling and taunting, but beating and killing. You have only to see some of the reaction of people who post in this section to see the level of intolerance and hate that exists.
Sometimes the hatred we experience is hidden or slight -- being talked about or mocked behind our backs, for instance. Sometimes it is more open -- Nazis rounded up and killed homosexuals, and the same is happening currently in Iran and Iraq.
2006-06-29 02:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by blueowlboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because I'm surrounded by a bunch of bigots and hate-mongers and it's just easier to keep quiet about some things than announce to the world that I'm gay. I don't want to be any more of a target than I already am.
2006-06-29 03:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For lots of reasons! Family, for one. I know many people that have been kicked out of their homes for being gay. Hatred is another reason. It's one thing for people to dislike what you do, and entired another to be killed for it (Matthew Shepherd comes to mind). I'm completely out of the closet now, but it was a long, hard road. I've been beatun up in school, in the gym locker room, I've been spit in my face, slapped in the face, punched in the back. I've been raped by guys who thought they could "turn me". So why do we keep it a secret? Because not everybody will accept who you are.
2006-06-29 02:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I am no Lesbian. I think people should be comfortable who they are, because if their loved ones found out it will hurt them even more.
Not worth it..I know alot of gay and lesbians and they say its hard to come out and when they do its kind of a relief
2006-06-29 01:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by kida_w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were to come out it would ruin the life i have now. I would not have my wife any more or any of my friends. i would probably loose my job and have to move where no one knows me. I love the life i have with my wife and i love her also. i truly enjoy the friends i have and want to keep that so i have my secret life that no one knows about. but it is hard to keep the secret. i want to be more free about my other life but i know i cant.
2006-06-29 02:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by maria_cd_in_training 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of the area I live. They're great people , but there is a lesiban around the corner, and her sexuality defines her to the locals. She's known as the lesiban, not the nurse, or her name. I don't want to be known for my sexuality, it's only a part of me, I want to be known for myself. It doesn't bother me to keep it on the quiet, I don't have an overpowering urge for everyone around me to know.
2006-06-29 02:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by Irish_bi_female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just dont want their friends and family to know. I am bi and I recently found out this summer my baby cousin (not saying his name) is gay. Im happy for him. I told my mom when I was 16 that I was bi and she accepted it right there on the spot.
2006-06-29 01:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by April T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋