Both are really cool togethr and can just relax and got a lota the same interests but some ppls say the age thing is so wierd. If its so wierd whats the diggest age difference that you can have in a close romance without ppls talking it down?
2006-06-28 23:51:18 · 25 answers · asked by jered 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There are a few questions you should ask yourself....
1)why should you fret over your friends opinions?
2) were you comfortable with the relationship before you told your friends?
3)Is the fact that you are being teased about it the only reason you are now concerned?
4)Do you genuinely have strong feelings for this person?
5)How would you feel if you gave them up for your friends?
6)Do you feel the aquaintance of this person is enriching your life?
7)Are you already thinking on the long term?
8) If it ended, would you be thankful just to have experienced this persons affection?
Now, If it feels right to you, tell your friends that you understand their concerns, but that you want to give it a whirl and have some experiences. Understand also that although your friends are an important part of your life, your romantic relationships are between you and your partner, and no one should be allowed to sabotage that. Even if you eventually end the relationship, a true friend will still be there for you. If you are thinking on the long term, consider this.....What does satisfying sex entail for you at the age of 19? Is it mostly just physical or is it a true soul-satisfying experience just to be with this person, whether the physical part is strong or whether it is lacking? How important is it to you to have the capability to have a physically satisfying sexual experience in the years to come? Is it enough to just be together emotionally, without the sex?
Let me explain why I asked you to ask yourself this: I am now 37 yrs old, married 15 yrs. I have experience here, although all relationships cant be judged as if you had a crystal ball....
When I was 16, I went MAD over a MUCH older man. He was 42. yes 26 yrs older. A few of my buddies ragged me some, but I let it slip without having an issue. I enjoyed being with him and it was my relationship, not my friends. Buddies can't supply you with what a romantic partner can emotionally.He was so wonderful, and just being in his presence was emotionally enough. However, he was much older, and parts of him just didn't work well anymore...I was ok with that ( although I wanted more), we did other things to try to compensate for what was lacking. He eventually bowed out of the relationship because he was continually disappointed in his inability to do what it is that men do.
Of course, all men won't have this problem, but as they age, it is not going to comply to his every whim! On the other hand, when I was your age, I had several relationships I just knew would last forever.....and they were over in what felt like a heartbeat.
So, if it feels right, I say go for it, if it goes long term, I hope you care enough for him to overlook any issues he may end up with. and that you are easily emotionally satisfiable. I have a feeling that there will be many more relationships for you down the road, but I could be wrong! Love can amaze us all!
I have been married now for 15 yrs to a man who is 10 yrs older than me, and believe me when I say, older is better...in a long term relationship that is. They have more experience and are not as easy to fly off and freak out like someone younger. Patience is a virtue, knowledge is wisdom, and that comes with age. But do understand this yet again...when they get older, parts don't work as well as they used to....it's not easy for me to deal with, but I love him, so I do. And the mid-life crisis' generally start at around age 44......and that is worse than one that doesn't work!
2006-06-29 01:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by FrEaKoNaLeAsH 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
As my friends always say, "Age is just a number..."
Anyways, I know 13 and 16 yr olds who are together and no one cares, and somtimes 13 and 17 yr olds... but that's like that biggest I know of without it being totally weird. When you're young, it's different because you're still growing and people can really tell the difference between you and your partner. As you become an adult, it's a common fact that your body stops growing... at least most of the time... so it's easier to pull off a huge age difference.
And in the end, if you care about each other, it doesn't matter what people say anyway.
2006-06-29 07:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rock Flavored Sporks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age should nothing to do with Love. My father was 19 years senior over my mother. They were together 25 years till death did they part. I am currently 39 (40 in a month). and my partner turns 25 next week.
If you think the relationship has what is takes to suceed, then go for it. Yes there will be those who will look at you and talk behind your back, but they ussually do that any way, you just don't knwo it.
2006-06-29 10:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends. everyone is different and if the two enjoy each other and have that connection let them enjoy the fact that they have found a partner in crime. most people are so lonely or have no connection to another person or are with someone they don't or no longer connect with. that to me is oh so sad. it takes so much to connect with someone so if you do feel that you have it better than most. if it is with someone who may not be the ideal or traditional to the general public remember it's you not them with that person. and yes i'm 40 and my mate is 22. i've been with him for three years ish. and yes we love each other and have had our looks by the general public. and yes there is a certain daddy son energy to our relationship but only in the sense that i have had more time on this earth hence more experiences. though my little honey bunny has much to offer me that i get to experience.
2006-06-29 08:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by garcon1on1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my cousin married a 43 year old man when she was 19. it was a disaster. everyone said she was looking for a father figure. others called him a pedophile. they got along great till they got married. 20 years to way to much a span. i would never date anyone 10 years my age. after that you loose too much in a generation gap.
2006-06-29 10:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by maria_cd_in_training 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. My first lover was twenty years older than me. I learned so much from him. He was an amazing person and he taught me how to live...even when he was dying. I don't regret my short time with him. Do it. It may be one of the best things you do for yourself and the other person.
2006-06-29 09:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by darthbouncy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that the age gap is too wide, but if this works for the both of you, then it is you choice to make.
2006-06-29 06:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not something I'd personally be comfortable with. That and I already have a bf. But if that's what makes them happy, more power to 'em.
2006-06-29 07:00:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as long as they are both cool with it, why not, its their choice to make....people sould just stay out of it. well the age difference is kinda big, but if you can work with that go for it.
2006-06-29 06:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by sexyashell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
totally! i dont think age matters a bit.
(i only like older women, and i 2 am 19)
2006-06-30 11:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by Corey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋