Confused!!!How do u choose your husband?

Question

Honesylt,i love him more than anything but i am reasonable.i think a husband doesn't need to be rich but u at least u can see he works hard for our future.however,i can't feel he is reliable.he did work for 2 jobs to support his ex-ex and ex,but now we are running out of money,i can't feel he doesn any effort for us.he said i was the one he had never loved such deeply and wanted to be with me more,is it an excuse that he doesn't work hard?
he always oversleeps,no matter for work or to see me which annoys me alot.do i misunderstnad him or he is not that reliable?we have planned to get married next year but i don't have much confident for our future.he always tells me how hard he is working for us but sorry,i can't see.i can't get any security feeling from him,he can't make me feel calm.i love him and don't know what to do.

why he could work out for his ex's but not me?

Answer 1

Oh! Dear, mh!. You are suffering from a so-called “blindness of nature and reality”. The background of friendship lines and marriages, are far-far apart. You cannot feel the hotness of a liquid without a media.

The very same mistakes, many of us committed before we got married which result to an endless selectiveness efforts. You know why, many of us lied standardizes lines, that Our lovely ones must contains, and get stuck if one least line misses. Hopeless thought.

Listen now, I assure you, that is a best husband for you. The inner of you confess it but surroundings doubts. Those surroundings disappear as the momentum of marriage life set to operate. I suppose you close some tool monitoring your standards, co’se your mind-knowledge filled with blank entities you don’t fully defines them.

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Answer 2

How in the world do you expect to have a family of your own and raise children if he is not working?
I spent 10 years of my life with a man that occaisionally worked. Even though I loved him with all my heart I knew I would never have a future if we stayed together.
In fact the guy is now getting a divorce and naturally not working either.
If your having these thoughts it is best for you to push the wedding date up. Give yourself more time to think it out.
If you think it will bother him just explain you want to wait until your finances are better.
Also, there are some peolpe in this world that look for people to support them. As long as you cater to his laziness he won't ever get motivated.
If he is sleeping alot it could be a sign of depression. Make sure that is addressed first. If so, a small pill once a day will work wonders for him.

Answer 3

If you do not feel financially secure then I would say follow your gut feeling and dont marry him. I dont like the way your saying he always oversleeps, he sounds lazy.
Remember money does not go very far when your supporting more than one family. I have one family and I can see money goes fast.
Marraige effects you for the rest of your life when there are children (dont rush into getting pregnant either). It is a huge step, bigger than you think so you must be sure everything is in order before you think about this commitment.

Answer 4

The man is tired and there is nothing you will do that will change him and for him to tell that among the list of his other women (now his ex) its you he never love much, then you have a problem, because its just hard for men to learn to love a women if they dont love right from the beginning unlike women would do. This man has hard too men wives before you who he worked hard for and now he is tired maybe due frastration that non of his prevous relationships ever worked. Your fears are a realite so face them and learn to accept because that man is not going to change, since he has come to the end of the road himself and if you cant coup up then leave him for your own happiness.

Answer 5

Listen up!! Trust your gut and instinct. It will not fail you. If you are asking this question, you know the answer. I did not listen to my gut....some same reason as you. 7 years later, I'm getting divorced with a $30,000 debt which was his and I inherited. Live with him if you want, just don't marry him. Security makes people happy. Marriage is hard enough without someone not pulling his/her weight.

Trust in yourself. You only have one life and it needs to make you happy.

Answer 6

Move on, darling... you'll only become one of his ex's anyway.... find yourself a nice man with a good work ethic and that loves you... I agree, a good husband doesn't have to be rich or good looking, but he must be able to do his share along with you with the wellbeing of your family.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Go with your heart... If you are scared, then call off the wedding and have a break... Reassess where the relationship is going, and if he isn't willing to change, then find someone who is better suited for you...

Answer 8

Why should you jump into the fire which you can see.That marriage wont work,it is better you back off now.

Answer 9

I have very mixed feelings about marriage and your punctuation.

Answer 10

Yes, dump him.