i loved a lady who also loved me once. we were getting along nicely and started to develop physical intimacy also to a certain extent, not fully. Suddenly she started resisting and i felt that she had started to distance herself from me. i also distanced her when seen her attitude but every once in a while she contacts me for one reason or the other and makes me believe that she still loves me but circumstances doesn't permit for our intimacy of that sort. i love her from the core of my heart but every now and then she breaks my heart with her attitude and when i cut off completely she again make the first move to come closer. both of us are married to different persons and are happy in our own lives but i happy a intense feeling of love for her and she also claims to love me. this is the situation for last three years. i am in a fix. neither i am able to break up because of my feelings for her nor i am happy with her because of her attitude. please advise sincerely what should i do?
2006-06-28 22:31:50 · 12 answers · asked by Power Ranger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sorry to say, it seems that she's using you because she knows you're weak. she knows she's your weakness, so everytime she gets bored in her current relationship, she comes running back to you. it looks like you're her entertainment while her husband's probably busy with something else. and then, as soon as she gets what she wants (your attention, and maybe something more) and her husband's ok with her, her attitude towards you changes because her ego has been satisfied and her time alone spent.
you may want to deny this, but i think you know it makes sense... if it does, you very well know what you need to do.
2006-06-28 22:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She playing head games .Both need to respect your spouses and not even be friends .The game will hurt someone a lot worse than your confused feelings.Try loving your wife from the core of your heart ! Before this lady doesn't ever leave her husband and your wife does .Cat & Mouse , can she confuse you ? Your confused what the whole picture is , love someone hopelessly when living with another person .Your a cheater , she knows this and just wants to pull your strings .Now play nice ,if your game .Here you have two complete puzzles trying to make room where there is done .
2006-06-29 05:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Fairy Tale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound to me like she likes the game but not the final score, she is either playing with your mind and always likes to be in control or she just doesnt know what the hell she wants, try keeping away from her for a while, and not answer her calls, the more she sees you come a running when she shouts you, the louder she will shout, like the old phrase "when I say jump" you say "how high" its a bit of a control thing, if she sees she is either losing control then maybe she will drop back and leave you alone, or plague you like a stalker the choice really is yours, but good luck with whatever you do
Steven Fawcett
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2006-06-29 05:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by fawcett1101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married. You answered your own question. Despite that, perhaps she is "mixed" in her feelings, seeing as how this is a hopeless situation that will hurt people. When she sees you tis a fond remembrance, that cannot be acted upon, because of the fact that you both took certain vows.
2006-06-29 05:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by ^ _ ^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now u have a wife, try to focus to ur nice life and ur future with her, talkin and thinking about it ,is a waste of time, many ppl come to our lives and go, when we start a new marriage life we have to forget it,it wont be deleted ,but ppl adjust themselves in new situations so soon, but i think at that time when u started kissing and... her maybe it was her first time, maybe she was a little shy,and wanted to know if u like her body and attraction at that time, maybe thats why at that time,and after she started acting strange, maybe she wanted to cut the relation for a short time to see wht is ur reaction,
but really she acted immature.
dont think about it
luv ur wife
2006-06-29 05:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by ___ãÃâãhà 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can give you what they don't need.If she doesn't need the same things she will never give you what you need.It sounds like your only good when she needs you or wants something from you.She uses your love against you and she knows it.You need to stay completly away from her.Don't answer your phone don't call her.Make yourself unavailable you need to show her what her life would be like without you and see how fast she comes running.
2006-06-29 05:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think about that lady because it will surly effect both of ur family as well as social life .its will have a bad ending . concentrate upon ur wife and family. u said u r happy in ur family then where is the problem. just control urself.
2006-06-29 05:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by naura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is using you.Maybe she keeps being with someone else and it doesn't work out she comes back to you.
QUIT! letting her use you.JUST SAY NO!!!!! You can be strong and get over these feelings you say you have.Find someone who will genuinely care for you and not use you.
2006-06-29 06:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shru, Fawcett & Fairy Tale are correct. This woman has some kind of neurotic problem, and I don't know why you let yourself be her victim? C'mon, Guy, this is whimpy behavior on your part, and not fair to your wife.
2006-06-29 05:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have a loving person at home for u don't let your emotions for some one else get in the way of your marriage. shes not worth it. feelings for someone else can cause serious damage to your relationship. don't let them get in the way.
2006-06-29 05:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by blubabi2013 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋