he followed his parent's' advice not to marry me. instead, he denied he's the one who sired our baby.
i want my daughter to know her father someday. do i still need to tell her the truth or shall i put everything behind and move on. forget about her real father and marry my bf now?
2006-06-28 22:28:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes! He deserves to see the baby. He should realize what joys of fatherhood he has missed and how he is not needed in any way in your new life with your baby.
The truth about father cannot be kept hidden from your daughter. With the science and technology progressing at a faster rate, genetic engineering and fingerprinting will be an integral part of medical treatments tomorrow.
Marry your present boyfriend. Do not go back to the one who ditched you even if he begs for forgiveness.
2006-06-28 22:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by chiennoir666 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marry your bf if you wish, but do not lie to your daughter. One day that lie could be told to her and then how would she feel. He does have a right to see your daughter if he chooses that is his child. Have him take a paternity test that should solve all his questions. Whatever happened between the two of you needs to stay between the two of you and you can not and should not punish your daughter for a decision that both of you made to have her. She can not help who her father is but should know the truth and not live a lie. Good luck
2006-06-28 23:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All children deserve to know who their real father is. You denie her that and some day it will come back to bite you in the butt. Always be honest with her she will respect you for that. Lie and she may hate you for it when she is older. Let her make up her own mind how she feels about her real dad.
2006-06-28 23:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by brighteyes62301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's willing to be in the childs life, never deny him that. In this world there are so many absent fathers, or fathers who deny their children,...if a guy is willing and wanting to be a father, then let him have the chance. It's not about you and him anymore. It's about the child and him only.
2006-06-28 22:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by MissT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you daughter her father died. Marry your bf now and move on. Your ex does not deserve to see or know your baby.
2006-06-28 22:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your daughter about her father, (now, on why or how he left, you can always improvise on that matter). But it would be wrong for you daughter to think that your boyfriend is her father. Later, in her teenage years, she will hate you for lying to her, she will have one of those teenage moments.
Good luck though!
2006-06-28 22:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by Clemence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughter has the right to know the truth...she desrves to know everything about her cause if you hide that thing and sumday she'll know what do you think she might feel...it may not be a big deal anyways, but still your daughter has the right to know ....just try to explain everything to her sumday and make her understand why those things have to happen...
2006-06-28 22:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by angelsiege11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, you sure move thru 'boyfriends' quick.
Now talking about marriage again?
Why dont you work on yourself, so you can raise her right (not to boyfriend hop), and of course you shouldn't lie to her (hiding is lying too).
Work on yourself and stop needing guys and drama.
All the best.
2006-06-28 22:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please let your kid know...it has got the right to know the truth! and its not good for your inner peace to keep that secret for years! it might cause you health problems (mentally and phisically)
truth hurts sometimes but its better on the longrun...
2006-06-28 22:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by 42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋