what do you say to a 14 y old f wanting to date?

Question

this is about my 14 yo daughter nagging me to let her date

Answer 1

Tell her a flat out no. My mom didn't let me date till 16, and I plan to use that same age on my kids. Nothing wrong with letting a kid get older before dating. Boys are so hormonally driven anyways. Better to wait longer and let your girl have more maturity. Friends are for fun. Dating is to find a life partner and sex....neither of which a 14 yr old needs to be doing.

Answer 2

I admit, I may not be best to give advice being a child-less 20 year old male. However, I do remember when I was in Jr. High School. I don't know much about your daughter's situation, but I remember I always felt the need to be accepted (no shock for anyone at that age); and even minor dates helped that happen. It cured one of those "Why am I not like my friends?" questions we all face(d). Look at the bright side...at least this one is easily and innocently fixed unlike all of the other ones to come... :-P

However, 14 can be young (I started at 12 - but still) to date. I'd say keep a close eye on her first few dates and make sure everything starts off at an easy pace. I.e. take them to a movie and sit a few rows back (ya; she'll complain about that - but at least your showing that you are willing to work with her).

Answer 3

Hey just a healthy Date wont spoil ur daughter, and moreover if u keep her suppressed she would turn hostile.
Youngsters are not like were in earler days........
U make them independent and let them face this world on their own.They need to take a few beats to understand whats wrong and whats right.Thats the way ppl now learn.Dont educate them but let them experience.

That doesent mean u just leave her alone.Be there beside her and guide her in the right direction, not by ordering or telling things but giving her options open to her and advicing which would be better and in what ways......
Try this and u will find her close to your heart and close to her own world too......
All the best Pal

Answer 4

Think to yourself how old were you when you first started to date. Do you really think a supervised date would be wrong. I'd have it no other way and I'd be sure your daughter understood that you aprove but supervised only. No harm there. If you don't let her go on a date as she calls it she may get tired of you saying no and do it behind your back. Which would you rather have her do.

Answer 5

There is more to dating than just getting together nowadays, therefore, let a 14 years old girl to date is risky. Let her know all the risk involve in dating.For one she is not ready to married therefore why should you allow her to have sexual emotion for someone who might take her as a prey.Anyway don't deprive her for socializing with others.But always accompany her in such occations. And don't embarass her in front of her friends but be firm in your decisions.

Answer 6

Depends on what she calls "to date"...
I think it's OK to allow a 14 years date, but obviously, no sex before legal age of consent, and tell her not to take things too seriously, that she has a lot of time to really fall and torture her heart for a guy.
Explain her how guys can be tricky and mean sometimes (I suppose you know what I mean madam).

Answer 7

Are you going on the dates with her? For me I would not, because boys have a wild tendency to brag about things that does not necessarily happen, while your daughter may end up labeled whore, slut, etc. Also~a-lot of "date rape" happens, are you prepared to help your child raise her child??? Think LONG & HARD Mom!

Answer 8

14 is way too young. Better start giving her "the talk" if you haven't already. Keep her informed and keep her communicating with you. If after all that, she seems to be ready, offer to chapperone. A little freedom is better than none at all.

Answer 9

have friends over to the house, both male and female, but NO dating away from home.

Answer 10

i like u want to go with her on date