i'm in an uhappy marriage and my wife wont let me see daughter from aprevious relationship?

Question

i want to leave but cant afford to homeless give you the bare minimum

Answer 1

Thats a tough one...you could try and talk this through(in a calm manner) with your wife, try to make her understand. Its important that you can see your daughter....

Answer 2

Poor woman needs help! Have you tried to let her get involved in your relationship with your daughter? Maybe she feels left out? Try to meet your daughter in your own home, when your wife is at home or take them both out for dinner or something where you can all try to get along together. You had this daughter when you met your wife and I expect she knew that before she married you.

Your daughter is and should always be a part of your life. Your wife or anyone else for that matter doesn't have any right to say you can't see her.

My husband never knew his grandfather because his 2nd wife banned him from contacting his old family. I come from a very close family so I can never understand their situation. When the old man passed away recently, none of his "old" grandchildren went to his funeral because they recented him for not staying in touch with them.

If you are not happy in your marriage and your wife expects you to stop seeing your own flesh and blood, you must live a very lonely life. I think I would rather sleep on the street and be alone than be in a relationship like that.

I wish you and your daughter all the best. No matter what your wife says, stay in touch with your daughter and make sure she knows you love her. And try not to let her know how your wife is, maybe one day they will get to know each other and everyone will live happily ever after (yeah, I know, in the perfect world)

Answer 3

You've got see your daughter. Imagine what she'd be going through. I think you should explain this to your wife. Tell her its hard for you to choose between the two of you and that you dont really have to. How would she feel if someone made you stop seeing her?
If you didnt do this, you'd resent your wife for it and thats no good either. Your wife is feeling insecure. Thats the problem. So, make her feel more accepted and loved. And tell her that your relationship with her is not going to break because of anyone else. If it does, it would only be because you were not accepting each other fully, and that includes your past, present and future.

Answer 4

How pants is that, your going to hate your wife more in the long run for stopping your relationship with your daughter. Any way think of yourself in all this you need to be happy too. Try and go to citiziens advice bureau and get some advice on the legalities of a break from your wife. Value yourself a little bit more theres happiness out there tiger x x x good luck

Answer 5

wife daughter, one is a legal connection one is blood. I'm trying not to use the words I want to, Yahoo police and all, Twice divorced myself, man, you have to put the pants on, afford to go homeless, afford to lose your child, not a big leap of faith for me. Go BDSM on the wife and maybe she'll be like that little Blondie with the spanking hard and biting. You know what I'm talking about. Tie her ... up, take a switch to it, and be the dominant over her submissive.

Answer 6

I was on the receiving end of this kind of behaviour.....

My ex's girlfriend stopped him from seeing our daughter for a whole year.........

She was very jealous and created my daughter and I allot of unwarranted emotional upset. However I couldn't just blame her as he, as a father shouldn't accept this.

After making phone calls after phones calls, I decided to find where his girlfriend worked and confronted her there armed with photos of my daughters.

I promised both of them that if they didn't do something about it , then I would make it my priority to make sure their lives together was a living hell.... It was surprising how quickly they came round to my way of thinking. My daughter has gained back her relationship with her dad now and goes every 2 weeks Fri - Mon. He's not allowed to talk to me, but hey my daughter is more important.

My ex and I were best friends even after we split, he used to come round to put our daughter to bed twice a week, he took her over night every Saturday... We had it all worked out and it was a perfect set up for 4 years until our daughter reached 6 and he met this "troll B i t c h from hell".....

I don't know your circumstances, How long is it since you saw your daughter ? Did your relationship with your daughters mother end because of your present wife ?

All I can say, is that if your daughters mother has anything about her, I would be expecting a visit, Explain this to your present wife, and at the same time convince her there is nothing tio be jealous off.

My ex was weak, he didn't stand up to his girl friend, in fact he still doesn't ....... ( this is a surprise to me as he is a controlling strong person ).

Don't be weak, find advice from citizens advice bureau about finding a place to live. If you aren't working, there are benefits, but I would suggest getting a job as quick as possible.

If you are going to leave your wife, I would suggest you make plans first and do it with honesty and self respect. Many women leave their partners with children in tow, and manage to pull through. So pick yourself up and don't let your wife come between you and your daughter..... Do something about it, and quick.

Answer 7

How can she stop you? you should do what you think necessary, if I had a child from a previous marriage,, you can bet, no one would tell me what to do about her. that child is a part of you, why would you abandon your child because someone told you too, your wife knew you had the child and now she has to accept your relationship with that child, I know, everyone makes it sound easy, and it won't be, but you gotta do what you gotta do. someday , when this marriage falls apart , and it will, you will look back and wish you had done things differently. you will be mad as hell that you let that bytch tell you what to do in regards to your child.

Answer 8

Talk to your wife,she has to understand the daughter she is stopping you to see is also your child.Otherwise you have to find means to fend on your own and leave her.

Answer 9

she's clearly an idiot, sit her down and talk to her. In the meanwhile, have another method of keeping in touch with your daughter, get letters, just so she knows you still think of her

Answer 10

Grow a set of balls and do what you want to do.

If you guys would set these women straight BEFORE you signed the title you wouldn't have these problems.