Question to all women:?

Question

I'm in my early thirties.Over six feet tall ,thick broad shoulders and hairy chested. I feel like a man's man. Sometimes to joke around with my wife, I'll ask her who she thinks is attractive ( celebrities and such). she picks out these real thin femenine type guys. The ones that look like they would enjoy getting a manicure with her and maybe matching hairstyles.Is it wanting what you haven't got? I just feel like she's choosing down instead of up. I can't wrap my brain around it. Is she doing that because she knows it bugs me?

Answer 1

Probably just doing it to f*ck with ya. Stop asking her that question,lol. Go get a manicure with her one day, then take her home and give her a good "ya know" and show her the best of both worlds.

Answer 2

Well you sound as if you are an attractive man...thats what I go for...she married you for a reason you have a brain, your good looking to her and your her friend if all of the above are correct your good to go. Well you said you were joking when you asked her the question in the first place so she probably gave you a joking answer...and if she's anything like the people I know because she knows it sorta bugs you thats why she does it just to tease. I wouldn't take it to heart I highly doubt that she really wants that...who would lol. I really don't like..and yes I'm going to use the Arnold for a refrence here 'girly' men they are well...just that girly. She could be choosing down instead of up as a subtle way of saying hey I like you better than that pip squeak. I honnestly wouldn't get bent out of shape over it...do you love her? Does she love you? If so thats all you need, now go and get some of that and show her why she has you instead of one of those guys that get manicures lol.

Answer 3

I don't know what type of man you consider "feminine." A lot of women find Orlando Bloom really attractive, and he's not a huge beefy hairy guy. I'm attracted to men with slim bodies more than big beefy guys. Not everyone has the same taste. It's possible that your wife is attracted to pretty boys; so what? Women don't usually choose their partners solely for their looks. You probably have other qualities that she likes.

Regarding the answers that said she's having a "lesbian" fantasy: She's not a lesbian. Lesbians don't marry men, and they aren't attracted to any men, no matter how the men groom themselves.

Answer 4

You say you feel like a man's man. Sounds a bit macho to me. All men have a feminine side, that's the "emotional part" and women like to see that part in the guy. It brings an exceptional bonding between the two.

Answer 5

It's very normal for us women to be attracted to "feminine" men...I saw a show about sexuality that showed that when women are ovulating they are attracted to more masculine men..and when they aren't, it's the softer more 'sensitive" men that are attractive. It has to do with our primal need to give birth to strong healthy children...and when we aren't being "primal" we just like that softness that does make us feel like we can get a manicure, go shopping, do each others hair, etc because we women are soft and like that stuff.
Don't take it personally..really..she is just being a woman.

Answer 6

I'm glad you feel like a man's man but feel inadequate next to what your wife finds attractive.
Just because she isn't picking out guys that look like EXACTLY like you does not mean she does not love you or wish to be with you. You are confusing love she feels for you with attraction for celebrities.

So any man that is smaller than you and isn't necessarily a man's man is considered, by you, to be feminine?
Just because she likes "feminine men" (your words, not mine) does not mean she wishes to have a 3some or is attracted to women. Did you ever think that women are attracted to different things but it doesn't make you any less of who you are to her?

Have you conveyed to her on who you think is attractive and what has her reaction been? Are you attracted to women that look exactly like your wife or are they women of certain or varying body types? Maybe she's saying stuff to bug you because you say stuff to her that bugs her as well.

If you think she likes "feminine men" then maybe she wishing she had a more understanding man.....someone she could do things with....talk with...be herself with...maybe she's attracted not necessarily to their physique per say but what they might have to offer. Are you sensitive enough to her needs or do you regard yourself as doing everything you can and that should be good enough? Are you romantic at all with her or is sex enough of a romantic life for you?

Maybe when you say you are a man's man, it bothers her and she wishes to have a "woman's man". She could be into metrosexual men-A straight man who embraces the homosexual lifestyle, i.e. refined tastes in clothing, excessive use of designer hygiene products, etc.-and could be that she's looking at celebrities cause she ain't getting it at home with you.

Instead of coming on here and asking us, maybe you should ask your wife. She would know better than any of us. So maybe it's time you got off your manly man high horse and started a conversation with her that's not based solely on yours or anyone else's looks.

Answer 7

u answered your own question. it is wanting what u haven't got. Plus have u experienced that thing in a restaurant where u will wish u have ordered what u see in somebody else's plate. Ask those people working in KFC ( Kentucky Fried Chicken) outlets, they hate the food they deal (cook , sale and eat ) with everyday.

Answer 8

ha.. Im married.. My guy is the best.. but he isnt a punk nor freak (like the guys I used to be into) nor the guy in the band "taking back sunday" nor from "the used" ha.. but I love him.. .and also heres a weird fact.. When I didnt even know that in the show "Will and Grace" Will was gay. I thought he was cute.. But yeah,, (stupid me) i think the guy from the used is gay.. idk.. ha.. Maybe its cause she wants something different that what she has, that doesnt mean that shed be willing to trade though...

Answer 9

If you are overdoing it with your appearance, perhaps she does. Are you sure that you don't think higher of yourself than what you should? That you don't overestimate your looks?
The point is that she chose you to marry and not some guy like them, so I take it that what she really likes is male/masculin bodies like yours.
What changed in the meantime?

Answer 10

When you think of a beautiful woman, do you think of jennifer lopez or rosanne barr? Society has trained our brains as to what is attractive. My hubby is 5'10" and only150lbs. But when he asks me who I think is hot I say Vin Diesel.