What Should He Do???

Question

My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 6 months now and he hasn't told his parents about me. My parents have known about him since the first week we started going out. I kind of want him to tell his parents because I don't want to have a hidden relationship, but he doesn't want to tell his parents because he is afraid of their reaction. He is Russian and I am Chinese; his parents don't like Chinese people and they only want him to date Russian girls. I like him so much to the point where I feel like I love him; I trust him with my secrets and I think he is the most wonderful guy ever. I'm his first real girlfriend and when we first started going out, he snuck me into his house. One time, while I was there, his grandma saw me and asked him who I was; he lied about me. I don't want to have any secrets in this relationship, but he still refuses to tell his parents. What do you think he should do?

Also, he is 2 years older than me and goes to school 550 miles away (he went off to college in the Fall). I don't get to see him very often anymore, but I still care and love him so much.

Answer 1

i think u shoul talk to him and tell him that how u feel about when he hide your relationship in front of his parents. i think he dont feel so good to tell about u to his parents... might be he is very afraid of his parents or might be he is not so sure about ur relationship to continue for long period that he want u know but will not be with u for whole life so he mught be thinking that it not neccessary to tell his parents because u r on temporary que in his life
anyway this is a possibilitiy not confirmed so dont worry and talk to him if he realy want u forever then he has to tell his parents about u

Answer 2

Well, I think if the love and trust was mutual, he would have told his parents by now. I'm not saying to just throw him away, but maybe you should start looking for someone who loves you enough to not care what his parents think. And if that's just not an option, then sit him down and say, "Look, you're my everything and if I'm not yours then we should talk..."

I don't know... I'm not a love expert, but I hope I helped a little....

Answer 3

Okay...if he is in college and you are in highschool 500 miles apart. Then he could be cheating on you. Sorry, but that should be your first concern because if you love him and he is cheatin then that sucks. Second, if he is not cheating, which I'm sure he isn't if your in love, and if you really are in love then it shouldn't matter what his parents think and he should tell them. Especially if he is an adult in college, they don't have a say in what he does.

Answer 4

I suggest that you drop him and try to get over him because you don't deserve to be with a guy that won't stand up for your relationship. If he really cared then he would tell his parents and deal with their reaction instead of hiding it. You shouldn't be anybody's dirty secret.

Answer 5

I suppose u can't do anything if he refuses to tell his parents, as only he can tell how his parents will take it. But ofcourse, from a woman's point of view, it doesn't feel right hiding you from his parents. If you could be more patient, maybe, you have to do it his way; however, he could introduce you to his parents as one of his girl friends, so at least, you get to meet them & they, you.

Answer 6

My suggestion would be to talk to him. Tell him how you feel. I think that if he can't be honest with his family about you then you should not be wasting you time dating him. If he will lie to his family about you then he will lie to you about things? I think that if he really cared about you then he would not care what his family thought about you and he would tell them.

Answer 7

He doesnt seem very proud of you. He doesnt seem to respect you. You need someone who will want to show you off to the world and put you on a pedestal...not in a closet.