Why does society insist on grouping lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender together?

Answer 1

We live in a society that apparently feels all races and classes should be clearly defined, and although it recognizes the differences in people regarding religion, race, gender and sexuality, most of society feel that gays, lesbians and bisexuals are a people who practice a "deviant" lifestyle. This is also true in their regard to other lifestyle practices as well, such as BDSM, fetishism, swinging or swapping (sexual) or for instance, religions which are not North American based, such as Buddism , Toaism and the like. Society as a whole identifies individuals by grouping them into certain categories....their mistake, or should I say oversight is that although we may desire same sex physical relations, we don't all desire the same type of emotional relationship, or even that we may just be able to accept and love differently than they may.
Transgender, I feel, is an exception...
It is emotionally a different challenge than the rest of us feel. It is psychologically and physically a completely different matter. Mother nature has a way of playing tricks on some of us. Personally, I would go mad feeling like I had been born into the wrong body! If your body says your a man, and your mind tells you that you're a woman with the desires of a woman, does that then make you gay to your body, but straight to your mind? Look, some of us are born with 6 fingers on one hand, so, we don't use it, don't need it and have it removed and replaced with an eyeball, because thats what our mind is telling us should be there...Alright, that makes me different, but it doesn't make me an alien either! Mother nature screws up sometimes, and lots of people suffer for a lifetiime because of it...should we then treat them with any less respect than ourselves? I think NOT! Personally, I sympathize for those suffering that. Be as it may, society has wrongly placed us all into a big file cabinet. The majority can be placed in a drawer named "normal" and then placed in little files from a 2 z depending on religion, race, gender....now as for us "deviants"......we are in a completely different file cabinet on the other side of the room in drawers broken down into "pervert", "freak", "******", "dike", "tranny", "CD",
"sadomasichist", "pedophile" and the like.
We are, by societies standards, mentally ill.
How little they know!
It is simple to us who live everyday with our unique desires...
"To each, his own".
*OR*
Do we REALLY desire something opposite from the rest of them? I think not! How many of us denied our thoughts and desires for how long? Why? Society. We didn't want to be judged or be labeled abnormal by the other people in the "normal "file cabinet and be tossed out! So, how many of us so called "deviants" are there still hiding in there?
HA! Way more than we'll ever know!
Now, as for putting all of us "abnormal" people into ONE GROUP...
I think they just got lazy and decided to stuff us all in there , lock it up and come back later to douse us with fuel and strike a match!
Here is how It should break it down:
A- MALE
1) Gay : men only want men
2)Bisexual : men who "generally" seek love relations with women, but who are capable of loving men. And who are sexually attracted to both nearly equally. MAY take a given opportunity to have sex with both at the same time, BUT generally are so adversly affected by the stigma associated with attraction to other men, that they would hide it.
B- FEMALE:
1) Lesbian : women only want women
2)Bisexual Women: women who "generally" seek love relations with men, but are capable of loving other women. AND who are sexually attracted to both nearly equally. And would quite often take any oportunity to have sex with both at the same time. ( hey, maybe we are the biggest freaks of us all!..LOL)
As for cross-dressers, they should fall into a category #3 under each of the sexes, and so forth and so on...
Transgendered should be put into which ever file they choose based on what sex thier mind feels they are, not by what private part they own.
And although I myself am Bi-sexual, I fit into alot of thier little categories...some society would consider even MORE "deviant" than my sex partner preference....LOL !... I'm starting to think they should make copies of some of us and put us in many different files!
No, I don't like being stereotyped whether it has to do with sexual preference or not, but it's been that way since biblical times...alll we can do really, is to tell others that we, as they do, live, breath, eat, sleep, love, hate, and we have sex....with whatever sex we feel oriented toward, and to who we love, no matter the sex !
With that said, I would like to say this...bisexual women STILL need more resources....to love one sex is all good, to be capable of loving two is sometimes overwhelming! To want to share your full sexual self and those experiences with the one you love is a hell of a chore!
We all have desires, we all have fantasies. It is up to us how far we are willing to push our humanistic morality...For instance, plenty of "straight" people push the sexual envelope...but they don't get publicly ragged for it either. Im positive that plenty of homosexuals push the envelope also...What makes us so different? We choose to follow the FULL desires of our hearts, if that leads us to a same sex relationship, why does it matter, as long as we are capable of loving, it's the person more than the "privates". And if we, whether homo or hetero or Bi choose to participate in a taboo act, are we all not just following those desires? If a straight couple decided to have anal sex or an orgie, does that then make them "deviant"? If so, maybe that file cabinet full of straight people needs a new category!
Hopefully someday, somehow, society will have something far more important to do than sit back on their "perfect "asses and judge the rest of the free world....**emphasis on FREE**
And I guess until then, they can just put me in the "FREAK" file!

Answer 2

Lesbians, gay men, and bisexuals I think makes sense. They're people who are not-straight, and as "society" is overwhelmingly straight, there ya go. As for lumping transfolk in, it's there in part because most people still don't know what the hell transgender means, so they figure it just means gay. At some point, the powers that be in the movement decided it wasn't so terrible to fight for these issues all at once, so here we are. There IS the other connection that with the way laws are, one's legal gender can change state to state. One's abilitiy to marry under current law then can also change state to state. Essentially, in some states a MtoF transexual (using a very specific example) who wanted to marry a woman would be seen as a straight man, whereas in others she'd bee seen as a lesbian woman.

Answer 3

I have wondered that myself. I can see why lesbians, gays and bisexuals are in one group, but being a transgendered individual doesn't have anything to do with sexuality, it's about gender. I don't mind us all being in the same group, and it's important for the transgendered members of the community to feel welcome, but if you want to get technical, it doesn't fit entirely. I think it's mostly so that the transgendered people can find support within the GLB community.

Answer 4

actually we mostly tend to group ourselves together because we consider ourselves (all gay lesbian bisexual and transgendered people) to be family. LGBT groups all over the world provide a place for us to turn to when the rest of the world turns its back on us. there is also the gay straight alliance which includes LGBT and straight people together as family and support.

Answer 5

Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered people are more open-minded (If self-accepting) and willing to accept eachother. Gays or "non-straights" tend to be more accepting of diversity in general. It's a good thing.

Answer 6

Because they(as a whole) are all "different"
Typically thought to be out of the "norm"
Gender/sexuality being the common denominator I believe..

Even though it is becoming more accepted/open/understood, the people that make the rules and write the laws haven't quite been as quick to change their thinking. Until that happens you can pretty much forget about any one of them being identified as having individual/different ways.
We are making progress-but not at lightning speed.

Answer 7

well lesbian/gay and bisexual are all various degrees on the homosexual scale. but i agree that transgender really doesn't fit into that group.

Answer 8

actually i think we should all just call ourselves intersex, intersexual, intersexuals. that's ultimately what we are... incomplete versions of males and females... something in between. sexual attraction is just as much an indicator of gender as physical characteristics... if some anonymous person was behind a curtain and all you had to go on to guess their gender was who they found attractive sexually... you would guess a man, if it was women, and a woman if it was men... assuming there weren't any pictures of strange objects or aliens to choose from... lol.

Answer 9

i dont think we're different, we just have different views on life...stop saying we're different, its not like we're aliens.

they group us together because they dont really think there's a difference between gay/lesbian/transgendered....we're all the same.....BAD
f**ckin ignorants

Answer 10

Because generally each group is considered abnormal, weird, etc, etc, etc. Each group fights for the same purpose-to be who they are, have the freedom to be who they are.

Answer 11

Dude man, no, don't listen to them. Can't you see that it's obviously because they're too cheap to pay for extra parades!?