should i talk to my best friend again?

Question

well my "best friend" told my mom something that she knew she should not have, but she has done it once before by spilling the beans about how old my man was. She told my mom about how old my boyfriend was in anger, more like jelously. This last time she told my mom that i was moving out, then my mom threw it up in my face when we were in a fight. Then a week later asked my mom if i was still mad and that she wanted to talk again, and my man of 2 years hates her cause she tried to sabatosh our ralationship. Me and my "best friend" were friends for 5 yrs. What should i do?

oh and this whole thing where my best friend told my mom how old my boyfriend was 2 years ago and im stillwith my (man) and we live togeather and plann on getting married next year like january

Answer 1

If this is an on-going problem with this "friend", you might want to consider finding a new one.

Answer 2

I think you should sit down with her and have a serious talk with her. Don't just jump into saying oh, I'm not going to be friends with her anymore. She has been your best friend for five years, and she's a big part of your life. You should just be up front with her. Tell her how you feel....you're upset she keeps blabbing stuff to your mom, it's hurt your trust for her because you feel like you can't tell her things, and it bothers you that she doesn't get along with your man. We have all said things we didn't mean to say when we were angry.

At least give her a chance to work things out between you guys before you decide you don't want to be friends with her anymore after 5 years, because friends are for life and if you care about her you should put as much into it as you can. Try not to let your boyfriend's opinion of her sway you, because she has been your best friend for more than twice as long as he's been in your life. THEN if things are still bad after you guys talk, think twice about the friendship.

Answer 3

Sure you should! You need to know what is going on and where she might be coming from. Maybe she is worried about you. If you have to hide your man's age from your mom then obviously he's the wrong age!!! You're probably like to many young women who think they are all grown up but are really just getting played by some dirty old geezer who can't make it with someone mature enough to see through his tricks. Ask any lady past 21 with a moderate IQ. I think your Mom and your best friend are just trying to look out for you. And life is to short and to important to be wasted on anger and hatred.

Answer 4

Don't think responsible!! You gave her the money again, and the hell she puts you via, has paid time and time again for learning to saddle and barrow cash. I think she owes you! You tell her, definite which you could come again, bored is 450.00 a month. Ample to cover for her madness, and when she says oh i havent paid earlier than. You say well thats in view that it wasnt full bored before, im cleansing and feeding and no i do not have help. I want money it pays for the usage of the land, stall, my horses feed and my time. If she has a hindrance you say "well i was once giving you a deal, see i have this different woman comming with 2 horses and she used to be going to pay 500.00 a horse, so i assume i'll take her, i do not have adequate room for all of you." when she begins getting mad say "i'm sorry you think that means"

Answer 5

You sound way too you to have a "Man" a boy maybe as for your friend and you. Not old enough to have the drama with your mom, be glad you have your mom. Wait 2 years till your 18 to get a jog and move out on your own.

Answer 6

She isn't much of a friend if she runs and tells things about you or your life out of anger. You'll find that there are many people like this is the world and right when you think you've found someone that wont ge behind your back, they do it too.
I've had many close friendships fall through because they couldn't stop telling everything I said to them, so finally I just didnt want to talk to them anymore. I wouldn't be her ''friend'' anymore but thats just me.
ALL-N-ALL its how you feel about the situation, but I will tell you that after awhile, it becomes annoying after awhile.

Answer 7

It's a good thing your mom wants to talk; I'd start by talking with her. Find a counselor to help you. Read up on the web about fighting fair and resolving conflict.

Also, you may have to decide who matters more to you: your man, your mom, or your friend. You may have to distance yourself from the others.

Answer 8

here's what you really need to do.
i am assuming that you are at least 18 or pretty close to it. first of all, you need to learn to stop loving chaos. dump your best friend and the boyfriend because they both bring added stress to your life. the friend obviously is not much of a friend. that's just weird that she's telling your mom your business. next is she going to tell your mom about your first time? it just weird. and you need to dump the boyfriend, because he obviously too old for you. if you have to keep it a secret from your mother then he's TOO OLD. and i know i know, 'age is just a number.' well that's b.s. at different ages we are at different times in our lives. you are obviously a young adult and this a time of growth for you. you need to be experiencing life. not worrying about if your mom's going to get mad because your bf is too old. also, how can you get mad that your friend told his age? did you really think you were going to be able to hide it from her forever? that's just ludicrious.

p.s. if you are under 18 i think it is very harmful for you to have a boyfriend that is not close in your age. there's a reason why you can only be so old in high school. you don't see 23 year old seniors in hs. because it's just inappropriate to have adults in such settings with teens.
also, think about when you are his age. when you are his age are you going to think that it's right for girls your age to be dating boys your current age? or what if one of your guy friends now was dating a 4th grader? it's not right no matter what way you look at it.

Answer 9

Friends do things wrong sometimes but 5 years is a long time and you shouldn't break up a friendship for something like that.

Answer 10

don't consider responsible!! you gave her the cash again, and the hell she places you via, has paid time and time once more for studying to saddle and barrow cash. i feel she owes you! you inform her, definite you'll be able to come again, bored is 450.00 a month. adequate to hide for her madness, and whilst she says oh i havent paid earlier than. you are saying good thats considering that it wasnt complete bored earlier than, im cleansing and feeding and no i don't have support. i want cash it can pay for the usage of the land, stall, my horses feed and my time. if she has a trouble you are saying "good i used to be providing you with a deal, see i've this different woman comming with two horses and he or she used to be going to pay 500.00 a horse, so i assume i will take her, i shouldn't have adequate room for all of you." whilst she begins getting mad say "i am sorry you consider that method"

Answer 11

You should tell her how you feel. Maybe she is feeling hurt about something in her life and this is her way of expressing her anger. If this does not work, maybe you should consider ending the friendship because a friendship that is hurting you is not worth having.