My boyfriend just got this Full-time job and he was nervous on his first night so I stayed with him. The second night he also wanted me to go to sleep with him. Now, he has to wake up extremely early, so he has to go to bed at a reasonable. With that in mind, I have to go to bed with him, can't go on the computer or go to my girlfriends house because if he has to go to bed early and wake up early, it's not fair to him if I'm out having a good time-he says. I understand where he's coming from, but I'm 21 and we're not married and it's the SUMMER! He can't actually expect me to stay in every night of the week and not go out occassionally. Of course, I will stay with him on some nights, and believe me I don't go out much, but he flipped out when I went to my girlfriends house up the block for an hour because I "chose her over him." It's not fair to make me stay in every night! In september I will be in school and in bed early, but can't I enjoy my time off from school atleast?
2006-06-28 19:35:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Royalty
I would say that he is
2006-06-28 19:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question you already know the answer.....he is either all of the above, immature, scared of the dark or 10 years old. What kind of wimp is he that he can't even handle allowing you to at least be on the computer while he sleeps. I f you are 21 I assume he is of a similar age. And 21 is far too young to get tied down. I committed to waiting until I was at least 25 before I got married and finally found the right lady when I was 26; she was 24. My suggestion...if he feels compelled to keep you shackled at 21 years of age consider telling him that the 2 of you might want to go separate ways. Good luck.
2006-06-28 20:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by iraq51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As faar as I can tell he is Not making you do anything. You are choosing to do what he says to make your life easier. If he doesn't trust you by now I would say that he has some serious issues. My husband has been iin bed for quite a while and if he told me I had to go to bed because he did, I can tell you how far that would go. Since you say you are not married I would keep it that way, controlling people get worse with age not better. Tell him, that the next time you have cramps and he wants to go out somewhere that it wouldn't be fair for him to be having fun while you are not feeling so well. See how he likes that.
2006-06-28 19:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is being a bit insecure. Talk to him and ask him why he feels this way. Tell him to be honest so that you can understand his intentions better. Yes, it is a bit weird, but don't jump to conclusions just yet until you talk to him. If he just tells you that it just has to be that way or else, well, then tell him you can't stay in the relationship because to have a good relationship you both have to be individuals too. If he is just fearful that he will lose you then explain to him that you are not going out to get with anyone else and that you are not going on-line to get with anyone. Explain that in order for the two of you to grow that you both need to have time for yourselves. Which includes time with your friends. It is still an early call on this one....talk to him, find out what is going on first, then make a judgment call.
Good luck.........
2006-06-28 19:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by teashy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly how my first husband was when we got together. Big WARNING, be careful, don't let your love for him blind you. After our marriage, he became controlling, loud mouthed, and hit me all the time. I wasn't allowed friends or to have my family around. I stayed in the marriage for 4 long painful years, until, my son was born. When he started on him, I woke up, he wasn't going to do that to a poor helpless baby. I am happy to say that was 20 years ago. I am married now for 17 years to a wonderful man. Don't let a man tell you, you can't be with family or friends, and don't take abuse from one either. Best of luck!!!!!!!!
2006-06-28 20:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by Lillie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is controlling, jealous, possessive, and insecure. U r not crazy! U are too young to start out with this time of relationship. Maybe he should just go and get and dog and u go and get urself a new man
2006-06-29 07:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by queendjbam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's controlling, jealous, possessive, insecure and an infant! Set some guidelines now, girl, or it's only gonna get worse. Just because he's working doesn't mean you have to baby him and give up your own life and interests and for him to think you're just gonna accept that is wrong!
2006-06-28 19:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he isn't controlling (well...he is a little bit) but he just really loves you!! he wants to spend as much time with you as he can, which is kinda sweet, but it does suck when it comes to wanting to hang with the girls. the best advice i have for you is to simply talk to him about this issue, and do it calmly. you dont want to start an arguement. good luck!
2006-06-28 19:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's controlling and jealous. That's not a good situation.
2006-06-28 19:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by abandoned2him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. In a relationship it's not just about the guy. Your boyfriend does what he does because he can.
2006-06-28 23:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it sounds like you are in a bad marriage! Get out and find new friends.
2006-06-28 19:38:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋