I really cannot do it but is it really important? My husband has said that he doesnt need it as well. We've been having some problems with each other and while analysing all the things I could do better, I'm starting to wonder abt our s** life.
2006-06-28 19:33:46 · 17 answers · asked by Doll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on the person, but if it isn't an issue with your husband, I wouldn't worry about this being the problem. Open communication is needed right now.
2006-06-28 19:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex can be a lot of fun if done right. Each guy and each girl enjoy different things. It can bring you to a closer sense of intimacy. Especially if he reciprocates and does it well enough to get you to come. Some times you need to experiment at first with what feels good. For a gal, put your lips over your teeth to protect the tender skin of the penis and lick it as if it were your favorite flavor of ice cream. Ask him for suggestions also. If Your guy does you, tell him to go really softly at first until you get used to the touch. It can be very tickly at first. Ask him to try little circles all around your clitoris. Weather harder or faster, that is up to you. Most of us like it when it is done with rhythm. Each women enjoys different things. I like sexy music playing and dress to entice him. Watching porn can help sometimes if you want to watch that with him. There are even books that teach both men and women how to do cunnilingus and fellatio's. Good luck and hope you both have fun. Not to spoil things please remember that STD can happen without a condom unless you have been tested and are in an exclusive relationship. Enjoy the fun! Then comes the part where you decide to swallow or not to swallow. If you both are free from STD's, a man feels accepted by the woman that takes his dna in her mouth and swallows it. If you choose not to swallow, tell him to let you know when he is about to come and gently place his penis in your hand and later wipe off your hands. Never think of the come as discusting. It is part of your man and is actually good for you!
2006-06-28 20:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay the bible says that the marital bed is undefiled ... But you are not required to do things that you just can't do... It takes two people in the bedroom who respect and love each other to make the experience as God intended for it to be... You do other things instead ... I heard you say that you were working on the list of things you could do better what about your partner does he do everything right .... Work together and God will do the rest ... Love is so much more that what happens behind that door... Good Luck
2006-06-28 19:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to anyone who says it is, because it isn't. Sex is very important in a relationship but a BJ is something you do when you're ready to explore various sides to sex. If you're interested in spicing things up, go for it. If you just gag at the thought of it than don't do it. If you and you're partner are having troubles, than I suggest working on communication during sex before you start exploring.
2006-06-28 19:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If he liked It. It would be the nice thing to do and maybe it could make your sex life more enjoyable. If you dont like it just tell your husband and im sure that he would understand. Another thing to make you sex life pop out more is to dress your self up more and show off you feminine side.
2006-06-28 19:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by ~*$hAy*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thousands of happy marriages get by nicely without oral. That said, you would certainly make your husbands day, week, and year if you did this eagerly. If you did it half heartedly or with some resentment because you really didn't want to do it then its best to leave things as they are.
2006-06-28 19:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by lampoilman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not important. If you both feel like it is ok not to do it then leave it at that because that isnt going to fix any problems you may have in your marriage. If he wants you to do it and you dont want to then you might start to have resentment issues or something.
2006-06-29 04:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not important I guess... but I recommend it cuz it is a nice thing to do for him... and he will LOVE you for it! It feels so good to them... it's like the BEST as far as men are concerned and I'm sure making him feel THAT GOOD will make you feel good as well. Who knows, he just might surprise you with trying something new too!
2006-06-28 19:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by Brandy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex won't ever do that to me and i never asked i figure if she wanted to she would she thought it was sick it is not what spilt us up she just wanted to move on :( it is not important to get one what is important is the love that u two share for each other the bond between u love is strong then any thing in this world best of luck
2006-06-28 19:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by white_wizard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out the book "The Five Languages of Love." It talks about how people try to communicate love, but it does always work because they have different love 'languages'.
2006-06-28 19:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋