Basically, I'm dealing with drama from my ex. She keeps spreading bad things about me to people then when I bring it up she tells me I'm being immature. It's not that I want to know how to deal with HER. I just want to know. Is there a way to get past the hardships and drama. I'm feelin' very out of it right now. Very unhappy. Want everything to just go away.
Any suggestions from you nice people in YAHOO land???
2006-06-28 19:23:21 · 9 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my suggestion would be to get away from your ex and the people she is telling this stuff to. you don't have to answer her calls, she's an ex for a reason. also, she's only going to keep saying this stuff as long as you're there to pay attention to it. i mean, what good is it going to do her if she's spreading all this gossip and you aren't around to confront her? once it loses affect on you it will start to lose affect on others. and then people are going to get sick of hearing her talk about you.
also, it sounds as though you are depressed. i suggest taking a little "me" time right now. get back to the things that make you different from other people. things that were you before you ever dated her. like maybe you used to play the guitar a lot. then you should go back to that.
surround yourself with great music and good books.
2006-06-28 19:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by Catrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I lost an Aunt, my Grandmother, and my Dad within weeks of eachother, I try to remind myself there is someone out there with more hardships to bear than I have-believe it or not it makes me feel better. It's hard to deal with drama like that especially because it is your ex! Speaking from my own experiences... When an Ex spreads lies and speaks negativley about you - that's their way of making themselves feel good! People like that don't like what they see but rather than change for the better they make those around them feel bad! It's a sad sad thing, feel sorry for this person cause when it's all said and done they'll be the ones all alone! Your family and true friends I'm sure know you well enough not to believe what that person says anyway - Just ignore it (It'll drive them crazy)!!!
2006-06-28 19:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by pia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to move past the "old" is to move on to the new. New places to hang out, new attitudes towards things, new habits, new ideas. If you don't change anything in your life, you stay in the rut you were in. Part of that rut was your ex. People that know you and love you or like you will not believe her, the rest, let them go too. You have nothing to prove to anyone but yourself. So go out and be happy. I know it sounds simplistic. But in some ways it is just that. You will not, can not, feel better if you don't change the world you are in. Do it in little steps. Maybe a new club to go to. Maybe move to a new place and have fun getting it together. Call an old friend that you haven't seen in a long time. Buy a new car. A new outfit and go out with some friends, just don't sit around. The best revenge on your ex would be to be happy.
2006-06-28 19:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
super question- in my youthful days it grow to be Helen Reddy's i'm woman or Aretha's organic woman, Martina McBride's hit from the 90s chuffed lady and right this moment's hit Do it besides. destiny an oldie yet a goodie Que Sera Sera by way of Doris Day.
2016-12-14 03:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by nella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about it and move on - don't let her drama get to you. Just let her know that you are done with her and don't pay any mind to the crap she spreads about you.
2006-06-28 19:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember...learn how to use your brain...she is mentally torturing you and want you to be miserable...here what you should do....have fun with people...if someone brings up the topic that ur ex was saying...start laughing and keep on asking what she was saying...remember don't lose your temper..but keep it kool...and also keep on saying that she is a nice person....let the person be the judge who is evil...you or her....and give it few months...u'll see the difference....remember...always laugh and be kool...I'll guarantee you...u'll be feeling better abt urself after sometime
2006-06-28 19:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore her and act as if ur not bothered at all (it will annoy her even more) and just give it time. don't start retaliating because you will fall to her level, be bigger than her! and if/when it gets too hard to take anymore just think,'what comes around goes around' if she keeps being nasty her karma will come back tenfold and bite her on the ****! big style!
2006-06-28 19:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by doogley1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gfs are like stations
u should not stop there for long time move to next
2006-06-28 19:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by jitu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop taking yourself or anyone else so seriously. It really is that simple.
2006-06-28 19:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mandalawind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋