We have not had the best of luck in the baby department, and have had some tragedy's in the process. After several miscarriages I mentioned adoption, but my husband said he wants his own seed, but I am unable to give him kids we've tried a million times. It bothers me because I feel like one day he is going to want them, and leave me for someone with a better cervix and who has no issues having children. Please help me
2006-06-28 18:22:32 · 7 answers · asked by Val 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Well, if he cheats on you it wouldn't be because you can't give him children. He won't be able to get a child from someone else unless he divorces you first.
2006-06-29 00:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, i feel as though your doubts about your husbands love could be tied into your luck. first of all, he's not thinking a damn about you. this is something that is very difficult for you. the last thing you need is for him to be putting pressure on you. if you can't conceive children, that's just the way you were made. you can't help that. and if the man married you only for your ovaries then that's a much bigger problem. also, he fails to see what being a parent is really about. i'm sure it's lovely to be able to look at your baby and say that it's a part of you. but in the end you're going to look at that adult and say wow we did a good job raising a decent person.
on the other hand, you may be putting too much pressure on yourself. which i'm sure stress from anywhere is going to be unhelpful. do you really think that he would leave you over this? or maybe do you feel like an incomplete woman? maybe you feel as though you should be able to have babies, because after all that's what women are for. and so it's your own pressure which is getting to you.
also, i think that you need to really discuss your options with a medical doctor. there are too many ways to get pregnant these days. it's rarely the end of the line for most couples.
p.s. please don't bring a baby into the world to try to fix a rocky relationship. it's not gonna work.
2006-06-29 02:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Catrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miscarriages are caused by so many different things. Someone i know just reacently had a full term baby ready to be born in a few days and during th night the umbilical cord got tied in a knot and cut off everything the baby needed. It ended up dying 2 days before she would of been born. have you tryed concieving again? If you're going to try again I would suggest taking regular check ups to a doctor. Thats what my cousin had to do, and it ended up wourking out great in the end. She has a 6 months old baby boy now. No one can tell you if your husband is going to leave you, but if he loves you then i'm sure he wont. If he does then sweety he wasnt ment for you and their is someone even better out there for you. Best of luck
2006-06-29 01:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by xJesicax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please.
Women wake up.
If kids is THAT important to him yea he might.
But then when you said "he wants his own seed" then he is pretty narrow minded and if he leaves you because of no kids then get the locksmith over to change the locks right away.
2006-06-30 09:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by denissch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my openion, life is like a book.Its a fantastic one.In that book of life,if one cant understand a chapter,they dont leave the whole book.
2006-06-29 01:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by kumar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldn't. if he does, he'd be leaving for a really stupid reason.
You could try in vitro fertilization? maybe have a surrogate mother?
2006-06-29 01:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by baby bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats on you period! he's a loser!
You could always do surrogacy but it is expensive.
Good Luck!
2006-06-29 12:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by alpharee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋