adult minded answers only... is this a type masterbation?

Question

i am 16, and recently i have found that i get extremely horny..i have asked this question earlier. my parents wish me to stay a virign till i am 18 and i respect that.. so as a way of that i do not have sexual actitvity with men...

however, i masterbate since i get horny sometimes. and my technique is to rub my p u s s y till i feel satisfied. i have heard that fingering is a great way of masterbation. but my mom sometimes take me to the doctor's to make sure i am a virgin. since i do not want to get caught, i do not finger myself. i know it can hurt the tissues that say about my virginity. i am wondering can rubbing the p u s s y harm the vaginal tissue area....

is rubbing my p u s s y type my masterbation?

Answer 1

You know, I don't know the answer to this question. When you're at the doctor (and your mother isn't in the room), ask that very question. The doctor will understand, and will likely provide the answer you're looking for.

There's a bigger issue here, however; your mother takes you to the doctor to "make sure" that you're still a virgin? That's a bad situation for many reasons:

#1: it suggests that she does not trust you, and possibly has control issues;

#2: there is no truly accurate way to "tell" if someone is a virgin, as the (ahem) "tissues" can be damaged by other activity (have you ever slid down a pole as a child?) -- and can also remain in place after intercourse if you're sufficiently flexible. That means her efforts to "tell" are both misguided and prone to false interpretation.

#3: you should be able to sit your mother down and say "I respect your desire for me to be a virgin until I'm 18, and I will stay a virgin at least that long, if not longer; however, my body is pumped full of hormones, because I'm a teenager, and I have sexual urges that I really need to take care of. I can simply masturbate, but I'm scared that I'll accidentally do something that makes you think I'm no longer a virgin."

Either she'll be understanding (I suspect not likely) or she'll freak out and tell you that masturbation is wrong -- but if she does say it's wrong, you'll be free to read, understand and believe the next sentence you're about to read:

Masturbation is normal and healthy, for boys and for girls, and only carries a stigma because of social taboos, many of which have changed in recent decades to view masturbation as the normal and healthy activity that it is -- but many parents, born long ago, still carry those old social taboos, and they prefer that people don't ever ever ever talk about it.

There are also some religious constraints, and I'm not going to state my personal opinions on that here. Suffice to say, from a medical/physical health standpoint, and from the standpoint of majority social opinion in this day and age, masturbation is completely normal, and any attempt to suppress it (unless it's out of hand, like in public places or five times a day every day) is inappropriate.

Answer 2

Mandy, how do you climax? Do you reach orgasm by stimulating your clitoris and your vaginal lips? Most women are not able to climax by penetration only and need clitoral stimulation as well or sometimes only clitoral stimulation. Don't worry about putting anything in your vagina because you will achieve your orgasm without doing that anyway. The only reason you probably want to put something inside your vagina when you masturbate is that you are hoping to feel now a man's penis would feel like entering you, right? Have you spoken to any of your female friends to see what they think? What do you think that you should do? Do you want to feel filled up when you climax? Instead of a finger, have you thought about what other penis substituted you would use? Rubbing your pussy and clitoral area won't hurt the tissues there. It will only help you become more in touch with your body and the ability to have good orgasmic experiences.

Answer 3

I think, 1) tell your parents you plan to stay a virgin at least until 18, but that they have to trust you. Make sure you tell them about no activity also, for extra support. Having a parent take you to the doctor to make sure you are a virgin? Thats a great deal of mistrust from your parents, and you shouldn't have to do that especially if you respect their wishes. 2) If you stay towards the front (c lit), then you're fine. It's inside that matters. I hope you talk to your parents about this. You shouldn't be treated this way for what you think. And if you make a mistake (for some odd reason), you're human, and they can't hold that against you.

Answer 4

Yes...go back to school and get more sexual education classes. And another thing, ask your mother if she waited until she was 18 to have sex....if you're 16 and your mother is 33 or younger, then she didn't wait...sooo....you tell me

Answer 5

lots of things can make it appear you are no longer a virgin, like a bad fall or an accident. Without insertion though you should be fine.

Answer 6

That is going to leave you something realy bad in your sisteam and that cuold even kill you some thimes think about it that is kind of bad for you however you mitte think that it feels good.I't could feel good however is bad for you.Try to stop don't do some thing that could kill you!!!

Answer 7

No, this is the most common form of female masturbation - you are actually rubbing your clitoris.....rub away and enjoy

Answer 8

no it's perfectly fine. the tissue you're reffering to is called hymen. you can even finger yourself. that doesn't break the hymen. using tampons doesn't break it either. it's pretty tough stuff lol. but please yourself any way that feels good to you. that way, when you do get ready for sex, you'll know what you like.

Answer 9

what ever works and your parent are only half right. stay a virgin until your married

Answer 10

Heck yeah! You go on with your bad self, girl.

Don't let anybody tell you that you should be ashamed. It's your body.