Ex girlfriends?

Question

My husband continues to keep in contact with ex girlfriends. He's denied my accusations of him meeting them for dinner. He works the evening shift (policeman) and talks daily with one ex girlfriend. This particular girlfriend asked my husband to talk with her nephew about staying off drugs. I feel like this matter is to be handled by her husband.... anybody else other than my husband. Do you think I'm being jealous and paranoid? Sometimes when she calls him on his cell phone, he pretends that she's someone else. What should I do?

Answer 1

mabe you should get a guy to be friends with and do the same and give him a taste of his own medicine, far as I am concerned he should'nt be associating with especially ex's he had intimacy with these women and yes you have a right to feel what you feel

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First, (it you haven't yet) you should talk to your husband about how much it bothers you. He really needs to know how you feel. If he knows how upset this makes you, he should be willing to stop.
Does the other husband know about their relationship? If so, talk to him about the problem. See if he can help.
I don't think you wanting your husband to stop seeing his ex's as being jealous, but I am sure jealousy is there (although you do have the right to be). Same thing with being paranoid, I'd be paranoid to if my husband was doing the same.
I can't give you the answer you probably want hear because I don't even know the real answer, but I hope this advice can help.
Stay strong and ask the Lord for guidance, it works even if you don't believe.

Answer 4

Yes, I believe she's using the fact that he's a police officer to subdue him into her house. I mean, there could be some good behind it... but probably not. Usually when you have a gut feeling, it's always the truth. Go with your heart. You probably need to just end it. If he's always going to be keeping contact with ex's then there's no need for you to be in the picture.
You have a reason to be jealous. He shouldn't be talking w other females, especially, those he's had relationships with in the past.

Maybe you need to do some kind private eye work yourself, to find out the answer you need.
Then you can make a better decision.

Answer 5

That's crap, plain and simple. You need to let him know that you know, and it stops, NOW. He is not respecting you, and there is a good chance he's cheating on you, sorry to say.

Married guys who "keep in touch" with ex gf's aren't respecting their wives. The only way a guy can do that is if it is as a couple and the wife knows and has a good relationship with the ex. That doesn't sound like the case here.

Tell him you've had enough.

Answer 6

THIS IS A REASON TO BE CONCERNED IF IT WAS ALL INNOCENT HE WOULDNT HAVE TO PRETEND THAT SHE WAS SOMEONE ELSE WHEN SHE CALLED HIS CELL. SHE HAS NO RIGHT ASKING HIM TO TALK TO HER NEPHEW AND WHEN SHE DID HE SHOULD HAVE SAID NO OR EVEN ASKED YOU HOW IT MADE YOU FEEL. YOU ARE NOT BEING JEALOUS OR PARANOID YOU ARE BEING CONCERNED JUST AS ANYONE ELSE WOULD BE IN THAT SITUATION. YOU SHOULD TELL HIM THAT YOU DONT WANT HIM TALKING TO HER ANYMORE AND THAT HE SHOULD CHANGE HIS NUMBER AND THAT IT IS TIME FOR HIM TO CLOSE THAT CHAPTER OF HIS PAST IF HE WANTS A FUTURE WITH YOU

Answer 7

ok, i was going to say that u just seem a little paranoid, but that whole acting like she's someone else on the phone thing?! that sounds like trouble!!! talking to her nephew about drugs...that could have only been an excuse to see him...although it could just be that the kid doesnt listen to his dad and would take better from someone other than family....but still, it sounds like a cheater...talk to him about it...and its probably better not to accuse him though...good luck

Answer 8

if it's like that then i think you should confront him and come on strong. let him know that you are serious and you mean buisness do not take a half and half answer you tell him that you want a straight answer and you want one now cause if he is playing like she is someone else then undoubtly he is doing something if there was no danger in the water he would have flat out told you look it was her and she wanted this but you man is her man too if you ask me? ???? but hey i could be wrong but when it comes to these problems i am usually not

Answer 9

If this were a once in a while thing, like once a year they talk to see how each others doing, I would n't worry much, but this sounds serious. I would give him the big U. Tell him if he doesn't knock it off, your leaving. Then, watch and listen to his every move to see if he really stops.

Answer 10

Wake up and smell the coffee lady. Step outside the box and see that your husband is probably cheating on you but don't accuse him... hire an private investigator!

Answer 11

I would be pissed, and yes you have a right to be mad, are you sure their is nothing else going on then talking with the ex's? Well I would give him a choice and he would decide or I would be gone