Im afraid to tell my boyfriend im pregnant again...?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend since i was 9 and he was 13. I am now 18 and he is 22. I am pregnant with his second child, and he told me he doesnt want anymore children right now. Im really scared because im in love with him and I dont want him to leave me. I had my first child when i was 14 and he is now 4. Please help me.

Answer 1

you have to be honest. if he already has one with you i dont think he would be that upset about another one. he may be upset for awhile but he will come around

Answer 2

Well if he didn't want anymore children why didn't he make sure of it? There are LOTS of ways to protect yourselves and for someone who has made that sort of commitment he should look into a vasectomy.
Now, go look at your beautiful 4 year old son and think of life without him, now put your hands on your stomach and think about that beautiful baby inside of you and how much you love him/her no matter what. Prioritize. You love your man, that's fine but if he isn't a stand up kind of guy and leaves, you have you and you have your babies. You are strong, you can do it and you WILL do it.
No woman should ever be afraid to tell a man she's pregnant. Why should YOU feel alone? Why should YOU feel all the responsibility? You created this baby together and it's not your fault, it's not your mistake, it's not your problem, it's a baby who didn't ask for this and who you will be responsible to for the rest of your life.
I will get off my soapbox now but go look at your son honestly and remember how scared you must have been at 14 and how great you have done so far.

Answer 3

You are going to have to tell him!! Then you guys can decide together if you want to have an abortion or keep the baby.....but he has a right to know that you are pregnant....! Im actually shocked that a 9 year old had a boyfriend (especially one that was 13), and that your parents were cool with it! But besides that, why werent you guys using some type of birth control if he didnt want any more kids right now????? Tell him, and get it over with, you will feel a lot better! He might change his mind and want to keep the baby now that it is already done and happened!

Answer 4

Listen if he really cares about you he will be okay, besides you did not get yourself pregnant. He did help in that department. If he did not want another child he should of help in the protection department. Everything is not up to the female, and on that note not to dog you or anything put it was also your responsibility to remember to use some kind of protection. What is done is done you can not take it back now so the best thing to do is just deal with it straight up. But to let you know I'm not trying to be harsh I have three boys and they are great. This child will be another blessing just like your four year old. just be patient and he will come around. God Bless!

Answer 5

YOU CAN NOT LIE OR KEEP THIS FROM HIM. Deep down inside you know the kind of relationship you have with him and if it can survive having another unplanned child. You must speak the truth and nothing less, you owe it to him, yourself, and most importantly that unborned child you are carrying. Please do not take the following personally, if you think he is going to leave you with two of his children, he does not sound like a very good man. You can not get pregnant to keep a husband, it will not work. I am not much older than you, and have no children, but trust me, it's not the end of the world if things do not work out with him. Remember that before you can love another person you must first love yourself! Good luck.

Answer 6

He's stuck darling. Lucky for you, you have all the information and the longer you put of telling him the more angry he is going to be. He is not going anywhere and neither are you. He choose to have this child and you are not the only one at fault. Just tell him it takes 2 to make a baby. If he leave you then your better off. If he stays and he don't want anymore children that is easily fix. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Either tell him or get an abortion... take ur pick!
If he leaves you then he's not worth the time nad milk him for all he's worth. Sounds awful but you'd need it if your a single parent.
Other than that in the future make sure you use protection. It doesnt matter how long you've been with someone you should always use some sort of contraception.


Good luk

Answer 8

wow, that is a load, I think you need to be truthful with him, that had to be very hard for you, I am surprised that no charges were filed against him for sex w/minor, in Texas it would have happened, by CPS alone with or without parents permission, ur an adult now, so suck it up and tell him, if he chooses to stay, then he is man ready to accept the responsibility it took to get u that way again, if not, then you have some hard choices to make, always know in the end to Have the Lord on ur side, I hope you know him and he can give peace of mind

Answer 9

just tell him softly and nicely.. make him a nice dinner, a romantic dinner, his favorite food and gently tell him that ur pregnant and that u dont know wot to do... act all helpless and look very sorry so once he looks at u, he will feel so much love for you that he will take u in his arms and tell u that everything will be okay... use ur female charms, thats why God made us so beautiful and caring and warm...
and from next try to use protection, get ur tubes tied or get the thing thats put on ur arm so that u dont get pregnant.. once u decided u guys are ready for another child, u can get ur tubes untied or get the thing on ur arms removed..

Answer 10

1st there should be no fear in love. Second if he truely did not want more kids he would
A) Vasectomy
B) Birth Control
C) Grow Up
I know what you are going through, but you need to be strong for yourself. Please you too not just him. Do you want this baby? Please remember you are 18 and have experinced more with this than most do in a lifetime. You have ur whole life to live. Make you a happy person.
Lots of wishes to you

Answer 11

well you just need to step to the pitchers mound and throw the ball.

tell him he can either step to the plate and be a man or walk.

i too was in your shoes
except i was married.

he didn't want another child and we agreed. but things happen and we got pregnant. i told him and he said what the fu ck and didn't talk to me for two days and then told me it wasn't my fault and that i did what i could. ( i was on bc and took it reguarly)

today i have a 7 yr old boy who is growing like a weed and a 4 month old little girl (who is a daddy's girl) who is growing like a weed. we dealt with the situation and moved on. he needs to do the same thing. just tell him and let him be mad and give him his space to deal. that is what i did.