what about wanting a kid?

Question

I am 18 and want to be pregant but the plans that my father and mother have for me doesnt fit into that what should i do

Answer 1

you are an adult now. it's your own life and you should live it how you want to. maybe you should talk to them about it. tell them that it's what you truly want. they should grow to accept it. good luck though!

Answer 2

You did not elaborate on why your parents don't want you to have a child. That makes it more difficult to answer.

Remember, having a child is a tremendous responsibility. You did not mention anything about being married or even having a steady relationship. You also didn't say anything about how you would support a child. I'm assuming that at this point you only have a high school diploma, which limits your options. Perhaps your parents do not feel that you are financially or emotionally ready. Children thrive the most when they have 2 parents who love them dearly and can provide them a stable home. Can a child thrive with a single parent? Sure, but its that much more difficult, both on the child and the parent. Can you survive not being finished with college and still having a child. Yes, but again, its that much more difficult. It also limits what you can do in your free time. You may want to go to dinner and a movie, but it will be that much more difficult to afford. This will be a lifetime responsibility, don't have a baby just because "everyone else is doing it."

Now, lets say that you ARE in a stable relationship, have a wonderful job, and are emotionally and financially ready to have a baby, but your parents still say no. They wouldn't really have a say, since you don't live with them anyway. I would discuss it with them, ask for their blessing...but also let them know that it really is your decision, you have thought it through and you are an adult now.

Best wishes on your decision.

Answer 3

If you wanna have a baby then have one but i can tell you that it is the hardest job in the world to raise a child.
I got pregnant and had my son at 21 years old and i do love my son with all of my heart and would die for him but if i could go back in time i would have waited a bit longer.

You have to give up everything in your life for your child. If you feel like you have done -done all you want to do in life (yourself) then have a child.

You really need to think about this hard cause this will be a 18 plus year job.

Good luck to you

Answer 4

Do you really believe that you are ready for a child at 18 years old? Here is a guide to prepare for parenting. 1st, put on a large dressing gown, then place a bean bag chair down the front. After 9 months, remove 10% of the beans. 2nd-Go to your local pharmacy/drug store, dump out the contents of your wallet on the counter and tell the pharmacist to help himself to the contents. 3rd-Arrange to have your pay checks directly deposited to the corporate headquarters of your local grocery store. 4th-take a hot bubble bath and read a good book, for the LAST time. 5th-Before you actually have a child, find someone who has one and berate them for the way they discipline their children, for their manners, for their running wild...... make sure you give them advice on changing sleeping patterns, proper discipline, potty training etc. Do it now, because it will be the last time in your life that you know everything. 6-To discover how the nights feel, walk around the living room from 5pm till 10pm carrying a wet bag weighing approximately 8-12 pounds. At 10pm put the bag down, set the alarm for midnight, and go to sleep. Get up at 12am and walk around the living room again, with the bag, until 1am. Put the alarm on for 3am. As you can't go back to sleep, get up at 2am and make a drink. Go to bed at 2:45am. Get up again at 3am when the alarm goes off. Sing
songs in the dark till 4am. Put the alarm on for 5am. Get up. Make
breakfast. Keep this up for 5 years. Look cheerful.

You may think this is an exaggeration, but believe me, it is not. If anything it minimizes the difficulties of parenting. Give yourself a chance to live life a little and grow a little more mature. Then, you will be able to be a good mother. Don't cheat your child by giving her an ill-prepared, uneducated mother.

Answer 5

I would wait. Even if you don't want to go to school just yet. I was pregnant at 18. I wish i could have waited. But not everyone would like to wait. I love my children believe me. But I would have wanted to do more and save some money. Luckily I married a great guy. But he is not my first child's father.

Answer 6

you are old enough to make your own decisions, just make sure you are ready for something like this- Even though there is lots of help available for expecting/mothers, you need to think about how every decision you make after the point of getting pregnant must be about that child. having a child involves so much self-sacrifice. and, in order for that child to grow up healthy, happy, safe, well-rounded, with good morals...etc. you must be there, 24/7 to provide proper guidance through his/her life. I have 2 beautiful girls, and i would not trade them for anything. be that as it may, i came to realize, being a mommy involves so much more than you are guaranteed to think about. If this is what you want, then go for it, there is no better reason to have a child than it is loved and wanted. If i knew then what i know now....i would have waited until my career was set and i was financially stable, that way, when my girls want to go outside and play, they could do it in the yard at a house that i own, instead of outside at the crappy apartment, all i can afford, due to minimum wage, diapers, formula, baby food, baby wipes, baby bath, pullups, laundry detergent...etc. get the picture? babies are wonderful, screaming, crying, giggling, pooping, tantrum throwing bundles of joy. think hard about it. maybe your parents just dont want to see you struggle to make ends meet. :D

Answer 7

You should really wait to have a kid. How are you going to support it? You need a career and a stable environment to raise a baby. You may feel like you want a baby now, but you have your whole life ahead of you. Your young go have fun! Live it up, your only young once and a baby is forever and ever and ever and ever.

Answer 8

Im 18 and I just had a baby, but yes it is alot of work and I am pregnant again so Im going to wait to go to college. But do what you want.. you are old enough and choose what you feel you can deal with.

Answer 9

your 18 so your old enought to make your own decisions. but since im 18 and have a baby i will tell you. you should probably be married and have your own place before planning a family. they arent always easy but they can be lots of fun and resposibility. good luck. remember its your life not your parents

Answer 10

Even if you were younger the fact is its ur life.
You make the decisions and if they cant handle that then they should no part in their childs life.
A parent is there to guide and help not to plan and force.

Answer 11

You are old enough to make your decisions but in my view ur parents have passed this stage and they know better than u so listen to them