although I am married it was over 2 yrs since we had any sort of sex, (apart from my hand which is almost daily) can anyone help me? My wife just does not seem interested but I do miss it. I have tried gifts, romantic meals, running the house so she is not tired, giving her a bath to relax before bed but when I cudlle up she come right out and says she does not whant sex. please help
2006-06-28 16:59:19 · 18 answers · asked by littlebrother1961 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to her about how you feel, being careful not to sound like she's at fault (so she won't get defensive). Maybe try relationship counselling? Be direct with her, explaining how you feel, using 'I' statements, rather than 'you never...' statements. Explain the strain this is causing you, and ask her directly to engage in a conversation about this situation - giving her room to explain how she's feeling with no judgement.
2006-06-28 17:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you come right out and ask her why don't just roll over and take care of the problem with a stroke of the hand find out what is going on tell her you miss the closeness that you had and you miss the sex.
2006-06-29 00:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you got children? Do you want children? Does your WIFE want children?? Perhaps the fear of pregnancy is putting her off... or perhaps there is a medical reason why she doesn't want to have sex.
What you need to do here is get out somewhere (ie not in the house, and definitely not in the bedroom) and have a peaceful chat about your relationship. Tell her you love her and ask her if she still loves you... ask her why she does not seem to want to be intimate with you any more.
If you talk, you can get through this and work it out one way or another.
2006-06-29 16:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by dashabout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth Is, your a **** shag and reading Take a Break Is more fun for her, even descaling the toilet Is more fun and longer lasting, and reading what else you`ve written in Questions and Answers, im suprised she hasnt turned lesbian, I would If I were married to you....You sound like a right plonker!!!! Hope your wife Is getting plenty from a real man!!!
2006-07-03 02:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by tracietuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt say whether you were ever having sex since you married. but 2 years is not natural, either she has swung to lesbianism or you are seeing somebody to have endured upto 2 years with your wife without sex. i think you should also be honest with yourself as i believe you are not telling the whole truth
2006-06-29 11:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by jagamoore231 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that... you gotto find out whats on her mind, is she cheating, is she stressed or ill.... if you cant sort it then you'll drift away from her. you have to talk and try to make her see that healthy sex is vital in a relationship..
2006-06-29 01:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by engineer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably she does not love you or she is cheating on you.If non of these then maybe as a kid she had a nasty experience with men,thus she needs professional help.
2006-06-29 05:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by Bob Mukonka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me thinks your wife wife is probably doing your best friend.
2006-07-02 20:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by pissingraininireland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a girlfriend, or take that gift money downtown and get an escort du soir.
2006-06-29 14:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by tex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is where the marriage can fail...IF it is not the same, someone will be looking for something new to fulfill that needs.
2006-06-29 00:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by Wu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋