2006-06-28 16:50:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Victims of abuse are caught in a difficult situation. Often they feel that they deserve the abuse, or have somehow caused it, and subsequently they return to their abuser.
Basically, their sense of reality becomes so distorted that they think the abuser could change, or that things could get better.
2006-06-28 16:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by kyle b 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Sam, that is such a complex question. and when we see people go back to abuse we think.....why....but when we are lonely, or in general used to abuse we think this is okay.
It is not okay.
When one gets themselves 'away' for some time from abuse, they usually can move along into more healthy situations....but until you detach, you will never see the light--the true abuse that hurts you more then loves you.
Abuse is never, ever love.
It is better to be alone, then abused. There is always some help out there to get you back into your soul.
luv Ava
2006-06-28 23:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have low self esteem, also they are kind of brainwashed. The abuser will make promises, like they will get help and it won't happen again, but they don't get help and the abuse doesn't stop. People need to just get away from the abuser and get on with their life, I did.
2006-06-29 00:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who enter into and stay in abusive relationships suffer from self esteem issues, probably because of the way they were raised, and don't believe that they are worthy of better. They keep going back as that is what they see as normal, and don't understand that they are behaving in a dysfunctional way.
2006-06-28 23:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because everytime someone emotionally, verbally, or physically abuses you, more of your heart is chipped away and more of your self esteem dies. The abuser makes you think that you cannot exist without them; that without them you are nothing. The demean everything you do and everyone you care about until you believe you have nothing left but him/her (the abuser). Don't fall for it.
2006-06-28 23:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they love them and probably had for quite sometime. They are also feeling guilty and have no self worth. They think everything is their fault because the abusive spouse will tell them that. It's very sad actually.
2006-06-28 23:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the question was suppose to be why girls goes back to the guy who abuse them and the answers is them they love from heart and not guy who love form the head.
2006-06-28 23:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by s_k_latif 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went back to my abusive husband 4 times. After 11 years together, I finally got the strength to leave and stay gone. I think I finally grew up. I stayed mostly because he made me feel guilty about our two kids.
2006-06-28 23:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by brat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people are weird and like when people abuse them. But than again, sometimes they're just in love, and love makes you do stupid things....
2006-06-28 23:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Teresa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity and low self-esteem.
They believe (for whatever reason) they don't deserve happiness and the abuser is all they deserve. They fear not being able to find anybody else and winding up alone.
2006-06-28 23:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋