I'm in love with my wife and I found out today that she is trying to sleep with another guy. This is the second time I caught her trying to cheep. I don't clam to be perfect......I got caught cheating on her, but I learned my lesson. I really want to be with her, but I can't trust her now.....what should I do?
2006-06-28 16:31:25 · 19 answers · asked by inlovewithmywife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Say good-bye
2006-06-28 16:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT TRUST, IS NO RELATIONSHIP AT ALL."
Who cheated on who first? I guess that doesn't really matter now. Obviously she doesn't trust you anymore. And now, you don't trust her much anymore- simply because there is absolutely no trust. I'm sorry to say that if counsling doesn't help- you're relationship has been doomed from the time of the first cheat. If it all seems hopeless- then let her go. If she's trying to cheat again. Then maybe she just doesn't really love you anymore. After the second cheat- I wouldn't give another chance again.
2006-06-28 23:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously....you need to tell her that you know she's trying to cheat on you again. I know she felt bad about it the first time, but she obviously only felt bad because she got caught. Otherwise she wouldn't be trying to do it again. Apparently she's looking for something that's not there in her marriage. I'm not blaming YOU in any way. Her cheating on you is not your fault, but people who are happy and content with their marriage do not cheat on their spouse. If you STILL want to stay with her (not many people would though), you need to find out what it is that she feels is lacking from her marriage. And if by some miracle you do find out what it is...you need to decide if you can change that part that she feels is missing. Otherwise, I really think that this may be a sign that she doesn't love you enough to be committed 100% to you. I know it'll hurt to leave her, but it'd hurt more if she continued to do this to you.
2006-06-28 23:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cheated first? you or your wife? If you cheated first, she got even by chating on you. I guess she lost all trust in you or your being a big puss. I hope you dont have any kids. Put your foot down and say im leaving you, and see what she says. Shes not stupid, she should know how much you realy love her. Give her some time to figure that out. DONT BE A PUSS. Even you love her to death you got to be a dick sometime, regardless of the past.
2006-06-28 23:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mr.Right 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both pooped the bed. Now you're both rolling around in it, trying not to spread it all over the place but it's unavoidable. I think this is a relationship ruined, sounds like it anyhow. I think it's beyond Yahoo Answers to help you, you probably need serious couples counselling. I'm not kidding. If you have children it would be worth it for you to seek professional help but if you don't have kids, just thank god and call it good. walk away.
2006-06-28 23:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to go for professional help. I would say talk to her about the problem, but since you also cheated, I think it best to have an unbiased view. You both have trust issues, and she may feel like it is okay to cheat since you did. Seek a professional to help you both understand each other.
2006-06-28 23:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating on each other wont get you no where but hurting and hating each other, if you dont trust her you dont have much of a marriage, and sounds to me like she wants her cake and eat it to, I would file for a divorce then she can sleep with who ever she wants and you both can live a happier life, and you wont have to worry if she is going to bring you home something that ajacks cant wash off
2006-06-29 01:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by she_devil282000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need counseling get it quick. It sounds to me like both of you are playin the pay you back game. You will only hurt each other worse. By the way women do not forget even if they forgive.
2006-06-28 23:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by plushy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u guys ought to forgive each other if u want to be together... then find out what went wrong...
if she is not satisfied then satisfy her...be romantic..cook the dinner and have a candlelight dinner with her at home.. go watch a movie she likes... or rent her favourite movie... slow dance at home or at a restaurent... bring her flowers especially roses, take her to a restaurent... be creative in bed..
2006-06-28 23:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by answerer101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave niether of u rgood 4 one another no trust no hope no future no until our dying days she wants to sleep with someone else give her the walking paper and u go be free
2006-06-28 23:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you sound like low lifes. Try marriage counseling but neither of you is mature enough to make it work.
2006-06-28 23:34:40 · answer #11 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋