My kids dad who i left 10 yrs ago is still yapping about his money problems.Ok here is the deal,we never went to court the kids live with me. I told him I didnt want money from him,all i wanted was him to take the kids every other weekend and if they really needed somthing i couldnt get them,like help with school stuff and so on.He cryes every time,he doesnt even pay health care.I make as mush as he does and i look at it this way i wanted the kids and even if they were not with me i would still need lights and food and a roof over my head.so why make him pay for that when i would of had to do it on my own any way.I want to show him that im not the rotten person he makes me seem,im fair and im happy that im not taking from his home,cause when the kids are with him i want to mke sure they have lights food and so on and another home to go to,but when i ask for help for school clothes and little things he wines about it
2006-06-28 16:13:09 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ill never bring him to court,im not like that,but i do want to show him what others have to say to show him he is lucky to have to deal with me
2006-06-28 16:18:03 · update #1
He's a lucky man because you haven't asked for child support. But his an ***! Those children are his and if he loves them, he should help you out.
2006-06-28 16:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by missy 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Were you ever legally married? I can understand the fact that you don't want to go to court over the support issue, but if there is nothing in writing and filed with the court, you will forever get NOTHING. You should go to court and get any child support due to the kids. Use the money for school clothes and stuff like that. If you don't feel the need to use it to help with the day to day bills, IF there is anything left after you get the school stuff, put it in the bank for a savings account for the kids.
2006-06-28 16:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by snovak49849 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had your attitude for a while with my daughters father, that I didn't want his help, that I would do it own my own.. for 8 years, then I thought why and the hell should I let him take no responsibility for his own child....I am not saying milk him for all he is worth, but damn go get child support and have it put into a savings account for that child and when the child turns 18 or 21 let them have it.....you are not rotten for asking him to do his share of helping with his children....I still get no child support..every year we go to court, he gets thrown in jail 3 weeks later someone bails him out and I get a portion of that money.. however he had no problem getting in between your legs to help make the baby so he should have no problem getting in his wallet to help pay for them....know what I mean.
2006-06-28 16:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by tweeterbird73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn ur a good woman i would go straight to family court the hell with if he aint got no $ sit in jail than u r good and he is complaining men out here pay $100-1000 and more in child support weekly or monthly he has it easy too easy u laid and help make them now pay for them is what i say girl hmmmm i dont know tell his to stop whining and pick up the school supplies and or items how much could he be spending $ 100-150 maybe $200 he needs tostop it
2006-06-28 16:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you didnt make those kids by yourself i understand that you can do all this stuff on your own but that is not what child support is about. its about the kids and making sure they have what they need. but the way you are talking is like you dont really need his help and you are whining. put him under child support if not for you then at least for the kids. shucks you do good just requesting school supplies from him he should be paying half of anything that has anything to do with those kids. and that is not you being mean its you being fair to the kids...
2006-06-28 16:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As my mother said, "there is no such thing as a man saying..'my ex-wife is such a peach'." My mother could have taken my father for everything...considering all the beatings and infidelity he put her through, not to mention that all the real estate holdings were down paid by her inheritances. She let him KEEP ALL OF THEM. She only asked for child support, and he still tried to weasel out of it. Men are big f'n babies, and that's why child support is an order! You will NEVER, EVER be able to depend on a man to THINK about someone else because they have their head so far up thier @$$ they can't see anythink but sh!t.
2006-06-28 16:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the child support while you can. Once they are 18 it will be too late.
2006-06-28 16:17:05 · answer #7 · answered by april92883 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
single mom get child support
2006-06-28 16:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by marcia r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like him make it hard for the rest of us i have a simialr arrangment but i usally pay more then my half
2006-06-28 16:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by wtf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋