How do you get a woman to trust you after you hurt her?

Question

I really love her and want her back. I hope that the love we shared is still strong. She is with somebody and I do not think she is in love yet. Need to do what ever it takes to get here back including leting her go. Please HELP!!!! LOST WITHOUT HER

Yes I hurt her multiple times. No the fact that she moved on is not the reason I'm back, in fact I was trying to tell her before she statrted dating some one. I REALLY LOVE HER AND WILL FIGHT FOR HER NO MATTER WHAT> Unless it would hurt her in that case I will let her go :(

Answer 1

Sunshine...wo is you! The one thing you need to do once she is willing to give it another rip with you is to take everything she has to dish out. You were a jerk, you hurt her...if she is pissed for a year...you need to be humble enough to take her wrath. With hurt usually comes anger. Do not deny her her emotions. Alot of guys think sorry is enough. From experience it is NOT. You have to prove to her that you are in it for the long haul and can handle any crap she may toss your way. Best wishes....hope it ends happily ever after.

Answer 2

Sorry but if I cannot trust someone because of something they did to break my trust,then that person will never have my trust ever again.
Let her go and move on. Apologize and accept responsibility for whatever you did and maybe she will still talk to you once in a while.Don't act like nothing happened,that is the worst thing you can do.

Answer 3

I feel your pain, and I know where your coming from. All, I can tell you is, say you are sorry, and you know what you did was wrong and that you'll make changes to prevent it from happening again. If she really loves you, and is still in love with you, then there is a chance for hope. Don't press the issuse, taking her out is nice, but if your going to go that route, dont do it just once, over the rest of your lives, take her out doing something nice for her. I wish you the best of luck, and hope it works out for you. =]

Answer 4

well my husband fu*cked me over and i got back with him im hopeing that over time ill forget but it will never happen. i still dont trust him and i dont think i ever will its been a year and so far things are great. if some one is really in love and the person that they loved hurt them that bad well it hurts really damn bad take it from me. when i think about it it feels like some one is ripping my heart to peices all you can do is try. DONT CHEAT ON ANY ONE EVER AGAIN find this song "when you were cheating" by sara evens. god im sorry no offense but men suck a**...... sorry but it is true. well i wish you the best of luck youd better start kissing her a**!!

Answer 5

Sorry to say sometimes you don't....if the love you shared meant so much to you then why did you hurt her???? Remember the song "you don't know what you've lost til it's gone"... If she has moved on then sometimes the best thing is to let the dove fly... know what I mean... let her go, I am not sure what you did, but if she moved on then it was enough for her not to want to be with you....the only thing I can suggest is to talk to her, if she is happy then let her be happy....good luck

Answer 6

Whatever you did to this woman obviously hurt her enough to move on. If she is showing no interest in you (talking, answering your phone calls, etc.) then you should do the same and move on. It may hurt you now, but you put yourself in the situation. You now must learn from your mistakes and learn to deal with it. If she does show interest, let her know how much you care. Be honest, and keep good communication with her and it may grow to be more over time.

Answer 7

The pain from heartbreak is very difficult to push to the side and shrug it off. It would take a LONG time to build trust after being hurt. At least... that's my view. I'm actually going through something like this.

Answer 8

if the relationship had lasted you'd still be together, i think not, i really believed she has moved on , and your just jealous of this fact, you need to figure out for yourself what you really want with your life,counseling is available anywhere for anyone with your problem, walking away and finding out that what you had wasn't what you wanted, and there are more girls out there to prove that fact just give them a try. and don't throw yourself into another relationship like the last one that's called rebounding and it's not good on your health.

Answer 9

this might sound really weird but cry in front of her it means alot to girls to see a guy cry over them but dont control her and dont scare her away and tell her how you REALLY REALLY feel and how stupid you are for doing what you did and if that doesnt work just remember everything works out for a reason and youll find someone sounds like she lost a good one lol my boyfriend did the same thing but i am in LOVE with him so i took him back and he always apoligizes to me i mean constantly and it lets me know that he knows his mistake!! soo if she really loves you shell realize it!! i feel sorry for her cause your proaly one of the best boyfriends shell ever have

Answer 10

You can talk to her and tell her what you said here. But as she has already started to move on, it still may be too late. If it is, remember what you did and don't lose another person for that reason.